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How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 2:42am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Edited Summary: A friend wanted to crash in my house. My sister disallowed it (because the dude is a friend to our cousin whom she dislikes) to my annoyance and the guy left. My sister brings her friends to stay in our house. This has been an issue between my parents and now us. Your comments please. Uyi Iredia: |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 2:55am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Edo boi , nice one |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by mgbeketoto: 3:28am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Please, I have more than ONE residence AT ANY GIVEN TIME!!!! Trust me ke! I just move to another with my darling children and leave my dear husband to deal with his local relatives. I ain't gat time for such SHYTE!!!! I don't deal with my relatives, not to mention his. Naaaaaah, I don't play that kind of NOLLYWOOD-VILLAGE-CRRRRRAP!!!! Levels, PLEASE!!!!! Shiiiiiooooooor! |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 3:37am On Sep 14, 2013 |
mgbeketoto: Please, I have more than ONE residence AT ANY GIVEN TIME!!!! U sure say u no be Callotti. In any case, not all of us here have that luxury you do. If I did, I wouldn't be having this problem. |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 3:38am On Sep 14, 2013 |
ighoosagie: Edo boi , nice one Sure I am Edo by birth and proudly so. But I'm a Lagos boy, born and bred here. |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by mgbeketoto: 3:43am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia: CALLOTTI nor dey 'IDE o! Abeg, work 'ARD like moi TO BUY HEALTH, love, peace and happiness like moi!!! SHIKENA-SHIKENA!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 3:57am On Sep 14, 2013 |
mgbeketoto: Sure thing. It's quite tricky given my situation but I hope to be, at least, financially comfy and working to it. |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by RoyalRoy(m): 4:26am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia:Hehehe...one and only!! Mr Uyi Iredia, some questions for clarification!! How old is your sister? Is she older than you or younger? How come she still stays in "the family house" and exerts much authority? Is your "house" like a big estate or hotel of some sort that people can come in & go without much invasion of space? Is your Dad polygamous in nature? Seems the ladies, including your mum have a domineering (for lack of better words) attitude. Why would your sis not allow someone who didn't offend the family sleep over for a night just because he is a friend to a bad cousin? Is she naturally vindictive or just on your cousin's case? Hope u answer those questions to put the topic in a better perspective!! 7 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 7:17am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Pls in everything u guys r doing, ur dad's health first. Its equally his house. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Kanwulia: 7:17am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia: You will learn. . .REEEEEEEAL FAST! My husband dey work for day time. . . me dey work for night. . . YOU CANNOT HAVE 2 GROUCHY INSOMNIACS IN MY HOUSE O! Kai! You will learn when you start calling the police on each other ke! MU HE HE HE HE HE |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 8:14am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Royal Roy: Royal Roy: Okay. Royal Roy: 21. Royal Roy: Younger. Royal Roy: All 3 of us kids stay in the 'family house', save for my half-sister who stays with her mum. Royal Roy: No. But depending on how you look at it. It does have space. Definitely bigger than the house my Dad got from his father. Royal Roy: Yes but he dropped his second wife after turning a Christian. Royal Roy: Unfortunately my mum is late. If she wasn't I won't be facing this. And she was as your rightly say domineering when she felt strongly on something but submissive too. Royal Roy: She believes he'll cause the same problems my cousin did. Royal Roy: Both. She can be a pain in the a$$ but I'm used to ignoring her when I deem fit. Royal Roy: I hope they clarify things. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 8:38am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia: I'll ask because I had a particular irksome about 11pm yesterday. @OP Did you read this shiit before posting it? I had great difficulties dissecting your posts. Did you pass through secondary schl? Pls dont be offended, am just been honest. 10 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 9:56am On Sep 14, 2013 |
mobuch: You try read the thing,I only read the heading and proceeded to comments No time abeg. Anyway, OP....you can welcome them and take the pain or kick them out. Your call 2 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by baynix(m): 10:10am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Am Not Reading This! |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Lilaex: 10:15am On Sep 14, 2013 |
And wo says its a problem..? Dat person must not knw the value of BLOOD.. Nonsense.. Dat person must be an !diot.. Or a kid cause it normal wif kid being jealous...!(Sic) |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 10:20am On Sep 14, 2013 |
baynix: Am Not Reading This! Okay. After reading this in addition to Chillisauce's I see no reason why we won't continue to have people type in attimes illegible shorthand or make no attempt to write properly. There's incentive against it as implied by some comments here. |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by 80million1: 10:24am On Sep 14, 2013 |
*speechless* |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by UyiIredia(m): 10:25am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Chillisauce: Summary: A friend wanted to crash in my house. My sister disallowed it (because the dude is a friend to our cousin whom she dislikes) to my annoyonce and the guy left. My sister brings her friends to stay in our house. This has been an issue between my parents and now us. Your comments now 1 Like |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by chuksbogus: 10:43am On Sep 14, 2013 |
if u are the first son and the elder its obvious u have lost control of ur family or was never incontrol. so u have to up ur game and earn back that respect. where am from now dat ur dad is down u are incharge and u shld asume that role unless u have given ur sibblings d reason to think u are not capable. 1 Like |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 10:46am On Sep 14, 2013 |
you guys should learn how to tolerate each other. life without relations and love ones is meaningless |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Cestmoi1(f): 10:46am On Sep 14, 2013 |
mobuch:I swear,i thought i was the only one. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Amya(f): 10:47am On Sep 14, 2013 |
If she strongly disagrees with you bringing people over to spend the night, then she shouldn't be allowed to do same. Simples! And there's definitely a need for an authority figure in your household. With this tussle for power between you and your siblings, this may keep happening time and time again. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 10:47am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia: If not for the title, i didn't quite understand the long post. But thanks for this summary though. Most family members always remember you when they need your help. Just do the little you can. It's not compulsory you accomodate all of them. |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by sallyzan(f): 10:49am On Sep 14, 2013 |
The heading does not suit the story |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Cestmoi1(f): 10:53am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia:Now,you're talking.If she tells you,you have no right in bringing people in to pass the night,then she has no right to bring her friends in.You,on the other hand need to be mindful of the people you take in.She knows her friend and you,you don't know the kind of person your cousin's friend is or do u? cos u called him a friend.Is he your friend too? |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Ghadafy(m): 10:53am On Sep 14, 2013 |
I don't know why but I'm struggling to comprehend your post. Are you one of the mods? because this post shouldn't made the front page. 5 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by nato14(f): 10:54am On Sep 14, 2013 |
d problem is u. First she is ur yunger sister.second she brings her friend to sleep over.third she is well aware that ur parents allow pple to stay in ur haus wen d need arises. Y can't u exert ur authority well. Also watch dat sis of urs close there's more to her disagreement than wat u r seeing. #experience# 3 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by AreaFada2: 10:57am On Sep 14, 2013 |
chuksbogus: if u are the first son and the elder its obvious u have lost control of ur family or was never incontrol. so u have to up ur game and earn back that respect. where am from now dat ur dad is down u are incharge and u shld asume that role unless u have given ur sibblings d reason to think u are not capable.. A bit tricky. His Dad is alive, even if partly slowed down by illness, so his authority is still limited. You don't begin fight over control of property when father is still alive. It easily tears families apart. @Uyi try to simplify your write up. You must be a scientist/Mathematician/numbers person, writing is not our forte. Lol. I had an experience that is a bit analogous to yours. A friend brought his friend to stay with me for a week as my friend's house was temporarily overcrowded. A week became 1 year plus. Free of charge. In Europe. He found a decent job in my area but wasn't sure of being retained for long. About half way through his stay in my house, my friend and my lodger fell out. My friend now asked me to kick him out. I refused to kick him out, because my lodger did not offend me. Ok he was tight-fisted and hardly shopped beyond a few things (but loved eating my assorted food) and lived rent free but he didn't cause me any problem. My point was if two people are fighting, the third party should help make peace between them. My friend was complaining that I didn't take his side as a friend. I didn't care. Uyi I think you were right to house the guy. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by NnamdiN: 10:59am On Sep 14, 2013 |
A younger sister ? OMG something is wrong somewhere. Younger brothers shouldn't even be able to challenge your decision, let alone a younger sister. 1 Like |
Re: How To Handle Problems Over Relatives Staying In Your House ? by Nobody: 11:01am On Sep 14, 2013 |
Be wise. Don't do anything out of anger! 1 Like |
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