Rhythm: What is with all this insults on the OP. The OP wasn't rude, the third poster was, and those are different monikers, so I can't see why people who were to lazy to scroll up and check the monikers are raining unwaranted insults on the OP, instead of the advice he asked for.

This is what the op wrote:


What you complained about isn't only peculiar to your brother's wife. Some people just aint used to doing others favours, so once they see you need a favour from them, they try to milk you back as dry as possible. Since you are living with her, I suggest you choose two or three house chores you want to help out with, do it perfectly, regularly and religiously so that no one ever finds fault with it (for instance, always fetch water and wash your brother's cloth), and if she asks you to do anything extra, politely tell her you are going out or tired or something. If you don't go out a lot, spend so much time on your three chores that there would be no spare time for the extra errands. No one wants to harbour a leech, brother's house or not. You should do some housework and make them feel happy to have sheltered you. It might seem easy to be a full time housewife but spend a full day doing house work and you'd realise office work is way easier. No matter what you do, never insult your brother's wife, only consider her errands as a motivation for one day owning your own house


And here is what the third poster wrote.

Yeah so staying with your brother means you should be a leech.

Rhythm: What is with all this insults on the OP. The OP wasn't rude, the third poster was, and those are different monikers, so I can't see why people who were to lazy to scroll up and check the monikers are raining unwaranted insults on the OP, instead of the advice he asked for.

This is what the op wrote:


What you complained about isn't only peculiar to your brother's wife. Some people just aint used to doing others favours, so once they see you need a favour from them, they try to milk you back as dry as possible. Since you are living with her, I suggest you choose two or three house chores you want to help out with, do it perfectly, regularly and religiously so that no one ever finds fault with it (for instance, always fetch water and wash your brother's cloth), and if she asks you to do anything extra, politely tell her you are going out or tired or something. If you don't go out a lot, spend so much time on your three chores that there would be no spare time for the extra errands. No one wants to harbour a leech, brother's house or not. You should do some housework and make them feel happy to have sheltered you. It might seem easy to be a full time housewife but spend a full day doing house work and you'd realise office work is way easier. No matter what you do, never insult your brother's wife, only consider her errands as a motivation for one day owning your own house


And here is what the third poster wrote.

Yeah so staying with your brother means you should be a leech.

yellowpawpaw: Deols baby, where hv u been?
Very busy I guess?
Hv not seen u at d other end for a while naw.

jidegirl12: Mob mentality

chaircover: Off topic . . . but I dont know why some people Dayo automatically assume that housewives sit at home all day watching African magic and doing their nails

For many its so far from the truth and I feel that I am talking for many when I say that my work at home is actually harder than my day job.

There is so much to do, assuming that you keep at tidy house & have kids that you spend quality time with. Just using today as an example, I was up till 1am this morning cleaning out the shoe cupboard and then matching up all the bedsheets with their pillow cases and Duvet covers. That same last night I was on my hands and knees scrubbing carpet that Mr CC had accidentally poured ewedu on and had just used kitchen roll to clean

I was up again at 6am and cleaned out the whole fridge before I went to work this morning. It never ends & its not just about going to market, cooking soup and cooking rice

Cashio: I am a 21yr old guy and i am living with my brother and his family.my problem is that his wife is always looking for means to start up an altercation with me. she is not working(at home every day) while i am working with my brother and still hustling for my admission. she expects me to clean the house every weekend, fetch water from the pump, assist her in cooking, wash utensils and wash my brother's cloths...pls what should i do

jidegirl12: Hmmmm

I'm waiting for babyosisi and Bettymafy 's response on this thread .... hohoho ( clap hands x6)

pickabeau1:
Is the washing of cloths now the dude's responsibility n no more the wife's? There was a post some time ago n I thought it was clear domestic duties are the wife's

So after working all day, he will still come n wash clothes that a housewife is supposed to have done this guy in question is still a kid so far as i'm concerned, he is still seeking for admission, so why can't help d broda's wife? If he wants to be respected as he said, then he should respect himself and get out of that house. ASAP.

Who is the lazy one

I laff in double standard


Op.. u can move back to your parents home...if its not possible continue your bit, save n prepare to move out



The 3rd poster n the 1st poster are different monikers so all the attack is confusing?