BellaDonaFema:
I smell naivety. How would you know what the guy is capable of from the onset, when most men masquerade, likewise women! Pray not to fall prey! You just cat be too wise my darling

Agreed! But i can't be with a guy that scares me like dat. I am not goin to flaunt him and try to make dem jealous or flaunt my friends to him, definately not, but a mere introduction shouldn't hurt.

190-the-clown:


da fuq

Its called trust and they shuld be a certain level of it, don't you think

BellaDonaFema:
You already have the evidence (the chats and messages), so don't press further. Dump that/those silly girlfriend and the pathetic guy and journey on to the next port of groove. Don't ask her or him anything. You re fortunate to have seen 1st hand evidence and not hearsay.
Think of whatever get you through the day and indulge fully. Also, don't take that guy back, because he ll do worse if you let him.
Cut down on the girlfriend babe, they re like poison. I ve many female friends, but I know when to draw the line. They can't really say they know me, neither can they predict my next move. My friends are those I do business with and those I worship with or those I socialise with. Nothing more. Cheers

I bet to disagree with this comment. You all are screaming DUMP! DUMP!! DUMP!!!, and have forgotten that love is involved. Because you don't keep friends doesn't mean others shouldn't, all you need do is separate the wolves from the sheep, though the depth of our heart is unknown .
Don't be quick to listen to people on here advising you to quit you relationship because most people won't leave their bf even if he was caught stark naked in a compromising position with another girl.

@Op, I want to believe you didn't read them sharing any intimate conversation because only on this basis will I advocate DUMPING. Some people are good with conversation and know how to chat people up, your guy might be comfortable chatting with her just as friends(I might be wrong).
My advise on what to do with your friend, I know it is difficult being friends with some one that is causing you pain so therefore, ask her innocent questions so it won't sound out as accusation, ask her if she has heard from your bf, the last time they talked, what they talked about (innocently)listen to what she has to say, if she gets agitated or tries to cover up any thing then distant yourself from her because there lies in your problems. She might be out to snatch him from you and some dude could be gullible.
Four years is a long time and I know how it feels to loose your love to your friend. Talk to your bf ask that if he loves you as much as he claims he should stop talking to you friend because you're not comfortable with it, if he refuses and continues, then my dear start looking for a soft landing...

In my own 4words "experience are lessons learnt".

Henceforth, stop it!

It's less than a month that a similar thread was created wherein a supposed friend was engaging the OP's boyfriend in a beyond-boundaries conversation. The OP and her friend had been together for 5 years too.

I have also experienced same where the friend subtly and almost started coming that close. I didn't know she was a friend. Something happened and I found out who she is.

This kinda sh1t happen when a girl is so excited about her guy, especially when she is crazy about the dude and would want to flaunt it by blowing his trumpet.

Beware women... Becareful of your friends and what you tell them about your boyfriend. Like play like play, dem go snatch am o

girlinmask: My dear sweet tease, am fond of. Showing my guy off to my friends becAuse am proud of him anyway thanks for d advice and I still need more advice plz

Hmmm

Thanks For d advice but I want to ask a question can money mAke a guy fall for his girls friend because it was since she made it big from d country she went To dat all dis things started.is it dat he is attracted to her because she is more sucessful than me or am I beEn paranoid.he was even suggesting going to d country she stays 'on a bizness tRip'....

distant relationship?..how can that work?...are you saying you've been faithful and celibate for a whole year waiting for him? hell no! i doubt that.
why not tell us the guys wey dey shine ur congo here in Nigeria..only GOD knows that you two must be guilty

Don't dump him jes because u aff doubts. Be sure, confront her n lead her to believe dt u read all dre msgs buh u want to truth frm her. Do not relent until she reveals all. She'll most likely say He started it. Wen u af settled her own case(don't fyt Ooº°˚˚° )u move on to d guy. Don't beat abt d bush, tell him evrytyn ur gf tld ya, n watch ow he wil try to unrope himsef. He'll most likely say She started it. @ d end of d day, u aff learnt a lesson. Introducin ur friend/flauntin ur bf wasn't ur mistake. Ur mistake is keepin d wrong kind of friend.

ashmanpolo: Everybody is just saying DUMP, DUMP, DUMP. Do y'all know what it means to leave a guy you truly love? Unless she doesn't love him

Oh she should be with a guy n friend that betrayed her so that what?he wud tell her sorry n continue cheating on her knowing d fact that she can't do without him uhn......

Well, I also chat on whatapp with my friends babe. We talk a lot n I call her my whatsapp girlfriend even in their presence.
They can just be friends with no string attached like me but just try find out things from them separately. Do not create a fight in d case of cheat cos ur type of love/relationship is called.... "delicate love/relationship".

4words:
I bet to disagree with this comment. You all are screaming DUMP! DUMP!! DUMP!!!, and have forgotten that love is involved. Because you don't keep friends doesn't mean others shouldn't, all you need do is separate the wolves from the sheep, though the depth of our heart is unknown .
Don't be quick to listen to people on here advising you to quit you relationship because most people won't leave their bf even if he was caught stark naked in a compromising position with another girl.

@Op, I want to believe you didn't read them sharing any intimate conversation because only on this basis will I advocate DUMPING. Some people are good with conversation and know how to chat people up, your guy might be comfortable chatting with her just as friends(I might be wrong).
My advise on what to do with your friend, I know it is difficult being friends with some one that is causing you pain so therefore, ask her innocent questions so it won't sound out as accusation, ask her if she has heard from your bf, the last time they talked, what they talked about (innocently)listen to what she has to say, if she gets agitated or tries to cover up any thing then distant yourself from her because there lies in your problems. She might be out to snatch him from you and some dude could be gullible.
Four years is a long time and I know how it feels to loose your love to your friend. Talk to your bf ask that if he loves you as much as he claims he should stop talking to you friend because you're not comfortable with it, if he refuses and continues, then my dear start looking for a soft landing...

In my own 4words "experience are lessons learnt".

Are you through? The ball is in the op's court. She alone knows where the shoe pinches. I ve friends, I also know where to draw the line, so pls don't misquote my comment. Mind you, some wolves were once sheep, how do you deal with that?
Its hard to leave a guy you love, but its best to leave a guy who exploits that love.

some girls are over careless... why bring your friends close to your guy?

one girl even once asked me to give her girlfriend a lift. I dislike such carelessness...

tomorrow, you start crying betrayal..

I have seen what everybody has said...to be very honest...am the guy she is talking about.I just came back to the country on the 21st of this month, i guess thats the day she made this post.I got to find out this evening when we were out to get some yoghurt, i got hold of her phone and saw she has a new NL handle.When i came back i had to check on it when i saw this post.

To make things clear,she knows how much i love her,am not into her friends and i have never cheated on her ever since we started dating.Been an IT engineer i spend more time for on company projects,which she knows.I do spend at least 2-3 hours on phone wiv her almost everyday...had to download whatsapp cos of her.

In regards to the friend she's talking about.....i told her myself that i did ask her friends some stuffs in regards to how cheap or expensive stuffs are where she came back from compared to my country of residence.If she says i dont love her, why would i live a country i kind of grew up in and return home leaving my permit (which shld enable me travel back anytime like i used to) to set up company i can manage here and be more closer to her, even though i know i can still visit the country or other places i used to go.

It took me some time to finally decided coming home to stay longer than i used to, because i needed to have a company of my own (cos she doesnt like the idea of me living using our familly money (If i shld say that).Please y'll shldnt jump into conclusions like that.Her friend may be into me, but am not and i have never spoken to her in regards to any other stuff apart from what i said earlier...

^^^this is getting interesting so much so that am doubting the authenticity. Anyway, If you love her as much as you claim then you will choose one(her) now and forget the other(her friend) cos the hide and seek games her friend is playing by deleting your number and chat history with her doesn't really paint a nice pic. If this story is true and you were fortunate enough to discover this, then you have to make up your mind.

I think he is d one@Elvis9000,cos he registereD on Sep 26,2013!Sister pls hold Ur man oo,He loves you.hehehehehehehe

Thanks for ur concern, if i dont love her...i wont be here, as i hav been using NL for long time now and never hav i opened an account...she doesnt even know am here.Though she knew i saw her new NL ID

sweet-tease:
^^^this is getting interesting so much so that am doubting the authenticity. Anyway, If you love her as much as you claim then you will choose one(her) now and forget the other(her friend) cos the hide and seek games her friend is playing by deleting your number and chat history with her doesn't really paint a nice pic. If this story is true and you were fortunate enough to discover this, then you have to make up your mind.