paradoxqueen: I am absolutely not telling him...

paradoxqueen: Yes but it will take much rime before then. I figure I am 2-4 months from a proposal, a year until a wedding after that, 6 months after until he becomes suspicious, and 1-2 years after that until I cant hide it anymore so that gives me almost 4 yrs...by then I might be o.k who knows or maybe it wont matter to him by the time he figures it out
So I don't think I should tell him...
I just dont want him to think I dont care about his culture because of this. ..

maxwello.yg:

That's the thing woman. He places much regard in culture so you have gotta give it to him.
Eat the bleeping food you won't die.
But, if it may kill or harm you, please don't. And do your best to make him understand it will harm you, tell his brothers to help you out and explain to your boyfriend you have bad health conditions when you eat certain food at certain times at certain quantity.

paradoxqueen: I know how important food is for him. I really cant cook, not even American food. He and I came to an agreement that he would want me to cook but it isnt something I would have to do everyday just once a week or so.
I dont plan on hamburgers and pizza everyday...I dont eat those foods. I dont eat meat.

Ibkaye...I about died laughing at running from food like aids. But I do feel that way. And every time I see him he is eating and eats often cookie ice cream his food any food lol but he always wants me to eat and I have a million excuses why not. But he always puts a big bite on his fork for me to try...how sweet except I am praying that I dont become ill in front of him...I debate leaving every time he offers food. I want to lie and say an emergency happend lol all I can thinkIis I have got to get out of here. I dont think he would understand the eating disorder most people dont.

I dont mind his culture and I love where he comes from because it Is what makes him so amazing. However I cannot afford to gain weight. All his food is high fat high carbs...
I really hate cooking but I wouldn't mind agreeing to learn to cook his food as long as he would agree I dont have to eat it. That way he can show me his culture like he wants but I dont have to end up gaining weight.

paradoxqueen: Yes but it will take much rime before then. I figure I am 2-4 months from a proposal, a year until a wedding after that, 6 months after until he becomes suspicious, and 1-2 years after that until I cant hide it anymore so that gives me almost 4 yrs...by then I might be o.k who knows or maybe it wont matter to him by the time he figures it out
So I don't think I should tell him...
I just dont want him to think I dont care about his culture because of this. ..

Pastor Aji:
LWRMT (laugh won't remove my teeth)

paradoxqueen: Yes but it will take much rime before then. I figure I am 2-4 months from a proposal, a year until a wedding after that, 6 months after until he becomes suspicious, and 1-2 years after that until I cant hide it anymore so that gives me almost 4 yrs...by then I might be o.k who knows or maybe it wont matter to him by the time he figures it out
So I don't think I should tell him...
I just dont want him to think I dont care about his culture because of this. ..

So oyinbo babes too like marriage?

Nomski0:
I feel your pain. Eating disorders are more serious than most people realize, in my secondary school days, i suffered from BED then a mild case of self-imposed anorexia. I still tremble at the sight of very fatty foods.....i suggest you tell him about the disorder, then he'll stop pressuring to eat all the time there's nothing more frustrating than that, you could also ease into the meals slowly.....one spoon per day or something. But please dont go bulmic, there's nothing worse than that.

paradoxqueen:
I am in a relationship with Nigerian man but I am American. He has not been in the U.S very long. However we have many cultural differences but most we can work out. Over the weekend he had me attend a family celebration. He became upset with me because I didnt want to try African food. He constantly wants me to try his food. Anyways he makes it clear he isn't going to let me get away with not eating his food. To keep from being embarressed I follow him to get some food. He sets me down with his brothers who are trying to tell me what each dish is, however I am upset and not listening to them. While he is gone I move the food on the plate so it looks like I ate it.
The problem for me with the food is that I am real picky about food. I don't eat often and when I do eat I don't eat much. I have an eating disorder. I have recovered and relapsed many times in life. He is unaware of this and I don't want him to know.
His reasoning for wanting me to try all these foods is because he says he sees a future with us and wants me to know his culture. I truly want to be with him but How do I get him to stop trying to get me to eat his food without offending him or making him think I don't care about or respect his culture?

paradoxqueen:
I am in a relationship with Nigerian man but I am American. He has not been in the U.S very long. However we have many cultural differences but most we can work out. Over the weekend he had me attend a family celebration. He became upset with me because I didnt want to try African food. He constantly wants me to try his food. Anyways he makes it clear he isn't going to let me get away with not eating his food. To keep from being embarressed I follow him to get some food. He sets me down with his brothers who are trying to tell me what each dish is, however I am upset and not listening to them. While he is gone I move the food on the plate so it looks like I ate it.
The problem for me with the food is that I am real picky about food. I don't eat often and when I do eat I don't eat much. I have an eating disorder. I have recovered and relapsed many times in life. He is unaware of this and I don't want him to know.
His reasoning for wanting me to try all these foods is because he says he sees a future with us and wants me to know his culture. I truly want to be with him but How do I get him to stop trying to get me to eat his food without offending him or making him think I don't care about or respect his culture?