My cousin called me today to tearfully report her exprience today' She asked her sister-inlaw to take her mouthy 2 and half year old son to buy things in her neighbourhood and he came home howling because a woman smacked him when he retorted 'shut up' to a statement adressed to him(horror of horror). The woman was amazed and angry with the boy, abused him (and I imagine his parents too) and smacked him hard.

Now I agree he has been constantly been reprimanded by his parents in his sassyness and should have learnt but is it right for a stranger to smack him for his parents?

Hmm see this situation? He should have listened to his parents but really that woman had no right to smack him. It is totally wrong. What if the parents come and sues her for assault? what if the child had an underlying ailment and he collapses? what would she say then? that she is 'helping' the boy's parents train their child?

stephy10: My cousin called me today to tearfully report her exprience today' She asked her sister-inlaw to take her mouthy 2 and half year old son to buy things in her neighbourhood and he came home howling because a woman smacked him when he retorted 'shut up' to a statement adressed to him(horror of horror). The woman was amazed and angry with the boy, abused him (and I imagine his parents too) and smacked him hard.

Now I agree he has been constantly been reprimanded by his parents in his sassyness and should have learnt but is it right for a stranger to smack him for his parents?

Hmm my Papa used to say na gambari go teach us when we were young and naughty.

In this case, it might not seem right but that child will think twice before being rude to an elder.

No one enjoy seeing their child been reprimanded by a total stranger but if it helps in the long run

I suppose if that smacking was done outside of Nigeria that woman will have been arrested

I won't smack someone else's child cos I don't believe it's my place, but if my child tells me to shut up hehehe that mouth will surely feel the shut and the up! Never to be said again!

Gudintent:

Hmm my Papa used to say na gambari go teach us when we were young and naughty.

In this case, it might not seem right but that child will think twice before being rude to an elder.

No one enjoy seeing their child been reprimanded by a total stranger but if it helps in the long run

I suppose if that smacking was done outside of Nigeria that woman will have been arrested

I won't smack someone else's child cos I don't believe it's my place, but if my child tells me to shut up hehehe that mouth will surely feel the shut and the up! Never to be said again!

Loovl, my youngest son is in thesame category but it was a very brief period I tell you

@Gudintent I agree and as a matter of fact my cousin hs been after that boy and I had to intervene on halting her always spanking him so he doe not harden up. I am thinking he is at that age when they think its cool to shock elders. You know trying to see how far they can go.

stephy10: @Gudintent I agree and as a matter of fact my cousin hs been after that boy and I had to intervene on halting her always spanking him so he doe not harden up. I am thinking he is at that age when they think its cool to shock elders. You know trying to see how far they can go.

Oh yes it can tricky striking the right balance between not spanking and over spanking. I can imagine how horrified your cuz will be feeling now.

there's a saying that says society owns a child but that dosent give the stranger any right to smack that child,she'd rather ignore him,or lovingly tell the boy it was not right,,,me personally i will feel bad oh

a child that hasnt been trained at home would be trained by "Outsiders". there is an african proverb that says, it takes a village to raise a child. If the parents are not training the child properly then society would help them.
When my son was 2 yrs old, we never used "shut up" on him (we still dont use it), instead we use "keep quiet". And despite the fact that he's been brought up in a western environment, i would like to think he is quite respectful to all around and we have managed to instill the "dont talk back at your elders" african shish.
Before your cousin flares up, she should ask herself, if her son had said shut up to her in the public or said it to her mother in the public, would she be huffing and puffing and angry as she is now? in all honesty?

The child is obviously towing the spoilt brat lane otherwise, children that age, scream for attention and once you tell them sorry they keep quiet but a child that carries on screaming till he gets home is intentionally pulling the strings of his folks......

that was very wrong... a kid is a kid...
i would not tolerate someone else spanking my child...
you'll definitely get it hot!

natasha: a child that hasnt been trained at home would be trained by "Outsiders". there is an african proverb that says, it takes a village to raise a child. If the parents are not training the child properly then society would help them.
When my son was 2 yrs old, we never used "shut up" on him (we still dont use it), instead we use "keep quiet". And despite the fact that he's been brought up in a western environment, i would like to think he is quite respectful to all around and we have managed to instill the "dont talk back at your elders" african shish.
Before your cousin flares up, she should ask herself, if her son had said shut up to her in the public or said it to her mother in the public, would she be huffing and puffing and angry as she is now? in all honesty?

The child is obviously towing the spoilt brat lane otherwise, children that age, scream for attention and once you tell them sorry they keep quiet but a child that carries on screaming till he gets home is intentionally pulling the strings of his folks......

In all fairness, his mom hasnt been the tolerant kind of parent. Infact, she tends towards being stern but that boy hmmmm he can try the patience of a saint.

natasha: a child that hasnt been trained at home would be trained by "Outsiders". there is an african proverb that says, it takes a village to raise a child. If the parents are not training the child properly then society would help them.
When my son was 2 yrs old, we never used "shut up" on him (we still dont use it), instead we use "keep quiet". And despite the fact that he's been brought up in a western environment, i would like to think he is quite respectful to all around and we have managed to instill the "dont talk back at your elders" african shish.
Before your cousin flares up, she should ask herself, if her son had said shut up to her in the public or said it to her mother in the public, would she be huffing and puffing and angry as she is now? in all honesty?

The child is obviously towing the spoilt brat lane otherwise, children that age, scream for attention and once you tell them sorry they keep quiet but a child that carries on screaming till he gets home is intentionally pulling the strings of his folks......

In all fairness, his mom hasnt been the tolerant kind of parent. Infact, she tends towards being stern but that boy hmmmm he can try the patience of a saint.

veave: that was very wrong... a kid is a kid...
i would not tolerate someone else spanking my child...
you'll definitely get it hot!

My cousin was more distressed than angry, her hubby though was livid!