when i waas still in the university, i had this girl i luved so much, but because i was igbo and she was yoruba, her parents stood agains the relationship, and although i told her several times that our love can prevail over this storm, she left me and her parents forced a yoruba gyu on her. today am a graduate and working in a bank, also in a better relationship. but she has come back saying she made a mistake and is willing to brave d wildest sea to make the relationship work. nothing i hve said or done to make her forget me has worked. please i need advice

I'll advice you to stick with the Girl you have presently instead of going back to the one that disappointed you.

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let her go,shes not worth it

this story is quite in complete.
what have u done to her?
did u sleep with her?
if no, then why has she suddenly decided to "brave the wildest sea" when she had the opportunity to "prevail over this storm".
anyways, my advice is that you don't need any advice cos u r not a kid.

Go and get married - maybe she'll leave you alone then. or get your girl to chase her away, abi?

kokoye:

Go and get married today. Maybe she'll leave you alone then. or get your girl to chase her away, abi?

you have spoken well my brother

sometimes some problems are better off handled agressively

@poster
You know the answer and you're asking for advice
Why are people so mugu?

opokonwa:

@poster
You know the answer and you're asking for advice
Why are people so mugu?

no blame am,na blind love nwantiti

Nothing wrong in seeking other peoples' opinion or sharing ideas - that's what this forum is for. Go marry ojare , but be sure you want to marry ur girl first o!

get me right, i know i cant marry her, but how do i get her off my back 4 guud, what do u think is the best approach

emmyjojo:

get me right, i know i can't marry her, but how do i get her off my back 4 guud, what do u think is the best approach

agrressive approach ,haba i tot we have settled your case,your case is too simple jare,u don't need any advise from anybody to do wats right

Go and marry.

Godalone:

Go and marry.

he does not have to force himself into marriage just to take d foolish girl off his back,y should he hide under d shadows of marriage just to push her off .i call that cowardice

any man that cannot sit upright and say nooooooooooooooo to watever he does not want,is not a man

since he is not ready to take any of the pieces of the advice listed above,he should go and marry if he has what it takes.

Maybe I should ask you this: Do you still love her for who she is, regardless of the fact that she once left you for another man? Would you mind marrying her instead of the present lady you've got?

I think her initial decision to follow the other man was based on the parental pressure on her, Maybe if you could give her another chance, things might work out well. . . .and that is if you really do appreciate and love her.

But if you don't . . . maybe you can move ahead with your other woman. But let God direct you.

Regards.

Something is telling me you still love and miss her. You can excuse her action b/c it's not always easy for an undergraduate in Nigeria to disobey the very parents that pay her/his school fees. You may bring such judgments against her if she did it as a full independent adult. She didn't leave you b/c you were poor or nothing but she left b/c of family pressures. My younger sister married an ibo guy and it wasn't easy at the beginning b/c his parents did all they could to stop the marriage but they prevailed not b/c they were so strong, but b/c they were independent adults. My own parents were indifferent about it and never really cared where the guy came from.

Again, you have another girl in the crossfire, it will be unfair to make her a victim of your circumstance. Follow your intuition.

RedHotChic:

Something is telling me you still love and miss her. . .

I feel so too. .

OlowoTee:

Maybe I should ask you this: Do you still love her for who she is, regardless of the fact that she once left you for another man? Would you mind marrying her instead of the present lady you've got?

I think her initial decision to follow the other man was based on the parental pressure on her, Maybe if you could give her another chance, things might work out well. . . .and that is if you really do appreciate and love her.

But if you don't . . . maybe you can move ahead with your other woman. But let God direct you.

Regards.

I support this. Let God direct you by fasting and praying.

Did you lead her on if u are not interested anymore let her know, if u are not seeing anyone I don't C anything wrong in a 2nd chance