we got married in 2005 happily wit two kids, a boy n a gal. now my hubby wants two mre kids buh i dnt because i'm jst comfortable wit thus two. so weneva we make love I flush d sperm. I can't let him knw wat I do cos he won't take it likely wit me
pls advice
if u r my hubby n I tell u d truth will u be mad at me n if u r me wat would u hv done

He wants kids, give it to him. That's one of the Reason he married you.

why does he want 2 more kids - is he an only child?


; why dont you - trauma of childbirth?

Are you guys capable., financially and time wise to manage 2 more kids?

these things should have been settled before marriage... now that it has come up... u should obey him...he is d husband... but I suggest that u enter a plea bargain... dat is, u should agree to give him just one more... u too can reach a compromise... goodluck

How do you flush this?

It's better you talk it over with ur husband, let him see reasons why you dont want more kids.
if he insists and u can afford it then why not?

This issue should have been resolved before marriage, but now that it's obvious that it's not, then, both of you will have to reach a compromise.
May God help you and all of us.

Dont speak any "truth" about what you have been doing abeg. Just discuss with him and tell him how you feel. Maybe you guys can find a middle ground of 3 kids. You may have to compromise.

I don't kia about every other thing you've written up there, all I want to know is how you "flush it".

Phema: I don't kia about every other thing you've written up there, all I want to know is how you "flush it".

Seems we are on the same side...

oya op, pls tell us....

dayokanu: How do you flush this?

Azzzzzin.......


@dayokanu,this is the second time u're cracking me up this night! Thank you.

dayokanu: How do you flush this?

Didn't get that either.

Anyway do what baby 123 said.

Seems your foolproof method has a whopping 100% success rate. You go teach awon bois?

Give it 2 him(more 2 kids) if both of u qualifies doz below,
1) If he's finacial stable
2) If he's d only only son of his parants
3)If u ar not xperiencing problems durin child bearing
4) If both of u ar stil young
<gudluk>

jay bee: Seems your foolproof method has a whopping 100% success rate. You go teach awon bois?

RODFLMAO

Nadoson: Give it 2 him(more 2 kids) if both of u qualifies doz below,
1) If he's finacial stable
2) If he's d only only son of his parants
3)If u ar not xperiencing problems durin child bearing
4) If both of u ar stil young
<gudluk>

tnk u all.
we r financially stable
he's nt d only son buh d first
I dnt hv prblms during labour n we r u young. I dnt jst want any mre kids, I love dis two n dnt want mre.
isn't dat ok, I want him to understand buh I can't face him wit d truth

I'm afraid nt to love any child I gv birth to nw

Well since you are stable and did not have any labor issue.. Then you have to discuss with your hubby

If it comesout in d future he will be pained o

sandy buckz: I'm afraid nt to love any child I gv birth to nw

abeg no vex, but how do you flush it?

eagle,eye:

abeg no vex, but how do you flush it?

it a kind of liquid n root I chew so as to spoil d sperm, its a native stuff.
I get frm an old woman

sandy buckz:

it a kind of liquid n root I chew so as to spoil d sperm, its a native stuff.
I get frm an old woman

Liquid? Root? Chew? Old woman? . . . I will pass biko.

Op. How wont you love your own child? Abeg, give your husband another child or do you want him to get the child out of wedlock?

The 'flushing' part of your gist is scary o. You sound fetish.

No short-cut to it, what you are doing presently is marital fraud and manipulation. As much as I understand your rights and preference not to have more children but you already conned your husband to believing you are ready for additional two.

When he discovers what you are doing presently, you may not like the outcome of his actions. Now, talk to him about all the reasons you presented her for not wanting more. I believe he will be reasonable enough to reach a compromise with you. He is your husband, press the right buttons to reach a compromise with him rather than the backstab you are currently employing. You stand to gain more by being open.

^^^^ i agree but pls don't tell him about the flushing o. It could cost you your marriage.

sandy buckz:

it a kind of liquid n root I chew so as to spoil d sperm, its a native stuff.
I get frm an old woman

Haba! Don't cause problems for yourself o.

just hope that he does not go somewhere else for those kids. The urge for a child s very difficult to cub.

Communication. I am not in favor of forcing someone to get pregnant but also giving this man the impression that he is going to have more and you are taking precautions not to get pregnant is not fair either. You need to be honest with him about not wanting any. Tell him you want to get on birth control. Compromise.

U think u are smart ehn? Flushing it away? and wat about d ones dat got fertilized? u dnt want 2 tell us how u abort dem abi?
all 4 ur selfish interest ehn?
Dnt jt come back here 2 post how ur hubby impregnate a lady, Nobody wil sympatise wt u. Be warned and repent.

soul_glo: Communication. I am not in favor of forcing someone to get pregnant but also giving this man the impression that he is going to have more and you are taking precautions not to get pregnant is not fair either. You need to be honest with him about not wanting any. Tell him you want to get on birth control. Compromise.

Gbam!

You must compromise.. COMMUNICATION!

Phema:

Liquid? Root? Chew? Old woman? . . . I will pass biko.

This got M̶̲̅ε̲̣ rotfl

My hubby used to be like tht Op's. Thisngs changed when he stayed with M̶̲̅ε̲̣ thru 20 hrs of labour and delivery of our 2nd baby. What his eyes saw ehn . Recently he was telling M̶̲̅ε̲̣ he's not sure he wants another baby again, I was like why nah, his reply : after what HE went thru during d delivery he's not sure he wants to go thru that again . I was lyk wtf!! then he changed it to 'after seeing what I went thru, he doesn't want to subject M̶̲̅ε̲̣ to such pain again'. I told him not to worry o, I can handle it . Don't think I'm done yet.