djeezy: We humans practice "half baked forgiveness". True forgiveness lies in forgetting and only God does that. We humans can forgive but we do not forget, it's hard to let the memories go

Officialgrl2:

Your right. Although you try to forget the experience, you mind won't allow you.

djeezy: Don't get me amiss, I used forgetting in another context. When you commit a sin, asks for forgiveness and subsequently commits another, the forgiven sin is history.

nobilis: I wonder how many times I will tell people this: the human brain never forgets. Even if an event escapes your consciousness, somewhere deep down in your subconscious, it will still be there and it may resurface sometime in the future. You may not be able to recall something when you wish but you discover that almost 100% of the time, you will recall that particular piece of info in the future. In fact, the more you try hard to forget something, the more chances you're creating for you to remember that thing.

Having made my point, the point is FORGIVE. You can forgive without forgetting. The thing is, when you forgive, the memories of the wrong committed against you won't be as hurtful as they were when you've not forgiven. When you forgive, you make it very very easy for yourself to live with the memories of such hurt. So don't focus on forgetting; your focus should be on forgiving.

And for those who may start telling me that I've not read the christian bible, I don't think I've across where it was written that we should forgive our neighbours and FORGET what they did to us. I've only come across passages on forgiveness. So if there is any such part of the bible, I'll appreciate if I'm given the quotation.

It's the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don't deserve

It's the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
It takes everything you have to say the word...

Forgiveness
Forgiveness

It flies in the face of all your pride
It moves away the mad inside
It's always anger's own worst enemy
Even when the jury and the judge
Say you gotta right to hold a grudge
It's the whisper in your ear saying 'set it free'

Forgiveness, Forgiveness
Forgiveness, Forgiveness

Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness, Forgiveness
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness

It'll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed
By what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you

Forgiveness, Forgiveness
Forgiveness, Forgiveness

Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness

I want to finally set it free
So show me how to see what Your mercy sees
Help me now to give what You gave to me
Forgiveness, Forgiveness
Forgiveness, Forgiveness
Forgiveness

oluphemmie007: Forget ke? That would be a sign of a brain injury o.
Seeiously, no normal person can forget life changing experiences they consciously went through. To forgive is actually something that can only be tested by how you feel when memories of that experience comes around. Do you feel like getting even? Do you just shrug and wish evil on the offending party? Or do u feel, within your being, goodwill towards all actors like it used to be before the offense?

Personally, I believe not forgetting is an essential part of the process of forgiveness.

I would however want someone to clear the air on why it still hurts so much, even after you seem to think you have forgiven your offenders.
Yes, I hurt sometimes...but I hold no grudges.