Have you ever bothered to ask yourself what you want in a relationship? Is it friendship, marriage, sex or material satisfaction? If anything as been taken for granted as much as we take breathing for granted, then it is love. Several things define love for many people in many different ways; however if the true essence of this agent, love, could be found, then could the ideal relationship is certain between any couple.

The world is no longer a huge place where China would be like a million light years away to someone living on the bank of River Limpopo. The world is now a global village where virtually everything is online, from business to dating. The girl, or guy, of your dream could only be a click of a mouse away now.

The motives behind your search for Cinderella or Prince Charming should be clearly defined. True love could be discovered anywhere, but selfish motives are a no, no, if you will open your mind for that right person. The mind is like a parachute, it can only work if it were open, for if a parachute is not opened that means serious trouble for the parachutist.

We are likely to miss the best moments in our lives if we are too beclouded with personal motives like looking for the made-man or some rich girl, or just looking for sex or for someone out of seeking a shoulder to lean on. You should go into relationships with openness or your self-centredness would suffocate that other person. The truth is nobody wants an emotional or material burden that is so wrapped in self-pity. Hence, while you are expected to be honest and ‘be yourself’, you should not go talking a mile a minute; most people who talk too much tend to lie or talk away to cover their insecurities, yet you should also not be a bore that would drive others from you as kill-joy.
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Loving is like walking tightrope, especially in the beginning. Do not just jump into the hands of every dick and harry, yet do not be too fastidious. Do not yap away so much that you couldn’t even get to know the other person and filling your chat with ‘I’ did this or ‘I want that…shows you are egocentric. Listen to that other person. Seek friendship first, if the chemistry would align, then love would follow, so that you will save yourself from the trouble of ‘mistaken love’.

Lastly, watch your spelling. It is dumb to say frank when you mean frown.

Online chatting is fun in not only making it easy for you to interact with people from all over the world you might never have been able to meet if not for the internet, global village, it also makes life easier to find people with whom you share similar interests or palaver. Apart from love, there is the chance of meeting that person who will play a crucial role in the next level in one’s life or career; the Internet is simply the eighth wonder and online dating or relationship could harness so much possibilities.

However, the Internet is also crawling with cons who capitalized on what people want to deceive unsuspecting people. Here are a few tips to avoid falling victim to online crooks while using the internet.

a. There is often a common format of doing things; the current ones being used by conmen is telling you they are from some African country in a war-camp and pose as girls with nice pictures.

b. There profiles are either not 3-D or their pictures do not have the usual kind of pictures a normal profile bears of the person at a party, or by a stair or some other caught-in-the-act pictures with friends, at parties or in our houses. Mind you, girls take pictures more than boys do and they don’t mind showing them off, so be wary of a girl profile with little or no pictures that show different activities of the person at different times.

c. Watch out for those who are quick to tell you their misfortunes or tell you about some business rather than build friendship with you, except if you are interested in a particular business yourself and not cajoled or introduced to it by someone you just met. Let online friends remain as friends, until you have spoken and chatted to a level you trust him/ her and then decide whether to take the relationship a notch up or not.

d. Sieve facts. Someone tells you she is writing from a war-camp in Senegal, and you too did not know the fact that Senegal is not in war! Then it is your fault you are ignorant. Never stop being curious to find facts.

e. You can never be too careful.

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