Stats: 3,191,776 members, 7,945,425 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 September 2024 at 05:01 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Should Men Get Paternity Leave? (4533 Views)
Why Do Ibo Men Get Married Late Compared To Other Tribes? / 9 Reasons Dad Should Also Take Paternity Leave! / Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? (2) (3) (4)
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 1:55pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Pickabeau,atleast even the most irresponsible mother will spend some time with the baby during her leave or are you talking about"operation dump babies into trash cans"kind of irresponsibility? |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Jbluv55(m): 2:03pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............Dying The ish is not the stress before/ during/ after the baby's arrival but the planning & preparations & decisions that may nid to be made for the new baby.......the lady may not be able to take some decisions on her own n a newborn @tyms has complications that require the physical presence of the man to provide some emotional & psychological support for the lady. ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 2:27pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............Dying women can claim whatever they want from childbirth, but to claim that you are the only one that is affected by it, is where you losing the plot. Both men and women are affected by childbirth, some more than others depending on the family unit. |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Who said only women are affected in the first place? ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 2:58pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
byvan: Who said only women are affected in the first place? well if you "believe" we are BOTH affected by childbirth, then why shouldnt we BOTH deserve leave?! |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Seun(m): 2:59pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............DyingFinancial stress can be as distressing as physical stress!!! ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:14pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Maternity leave for men, let's c what an average naija men will do with that. R we talking about one month plus or just few weeks. Let me assume its one month plus. But come to think of it, how many naija men has that mentality of helping out when a new one is in d house. How many percentage? When our tradition embraced mothers and what hv u + maids to help out, I still ask, what will they be doing at home for up to 3 months. Bonding? I laugh in swahili. A man can't just stay without engaging his mind fully else, all the agnes and gloria(s) in that vicinity will know that he is around! I will love to c it o! Population explosion here we come! (Just imagining hubby staying at home for one month doing nothing, is it possible? I don't think so.) 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:19pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Seun: Financial stress can be as distressing as physical stress!!!Financial stress? Is d woman not working too or r we talking of housewives here? So where will d woman's money be? 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:30pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
chaircover: . . .but these same Naija men you talk about are the same men you now see in ASDA buying baby milk and carrying their babies in slings while they watch over the older kids playing in the park and the same men who attend coffee afternoons/parent evenings at their kids school, which suggests to me that everyman has that family instinct in them, its just a case of teasing it out of them.Men that want to bond with their newborn will def bond maternity leave or not. What about traders? They shouldn't go to market again cos wifey put to bed. A good man is always a good man and will always remain so. In naija, we hv culture to thank. I'm yet to c most men with that mentality. Until we can change the cultural perspective, I think that our men don't need it. Unless we don't want to say d truth. 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Lilimax(f): 3:33pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Babe2sure: Fellow nairalanders, essential bonding thingy? *Lol* what do you think about it?Men do go for paternity leave in my establishment here in Nigeria, but the period is very short when compare to women's mat. Leave. |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Acidosis(m): 3:35pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Yes.. for g. ay men |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:38pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Acidosis: Yes.. for g. ay menBut since naija didn't legalise gay marriage,its not applicable |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:40pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:47pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Thank you!!!!! ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 3:54pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
chaircover: If its outside naija, no problem but here where mama, papa, maid, whoever is always handy that initial time, I just don't get it. Some pple don't hv anybody to help out I agree but still does it make some men to stay at home and do the necessary things? I don't think so. Meanwhile the law is not after them if they don't want to. How I wish all the married ladies on nl will come out to say their hubby helped out during the first few months of child birth. When baby is mostly sleeping o. What will they be doing actually? Washing baby clothes and feeding baby? 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:08pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Financial stress my fab behind ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:11pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
chaircover: Ah what Mr Kadry went through those days, I comment my reserve ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:30pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Lol funny but traders are the ones that have the most time in their hands. So nothing wrong with them helping out |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Me I'm confused o. Abeg which of a baby's needs are out of bounds for the father to perform? Is it feeding, diapering, rocking when crying? Which ones exactly? Because there is none I did not make my husband perform over and over and over again even from the beginning. For me I see no valid reason why he should not do any of these so if I'm out of gas at 2 am and baby is up, the next step is to wake him up and say oya o, collect your child. There's breast milk in the fridge. And I go and rest. Is there supposed to be a big deal in this? And it's not only when I'm out of gas that I distribute his own fair share of the work to him. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:48pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Even developed countries know that parents need to bond with their kids. They were not stoopid or dumb when they decided to put in place a law of giving fathers paternity leave. They are not dumb by allowing men into labor rooms, Infact it is highly advised. ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
MRbrownJAY:Lol evidence of men affected by child birth can be found in the labor room floor.......after a good faint ![]() |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
chaircover:CC did u say 2wks? Oh! I rest my case. Go back to my previous posts. I'm talking about the naiaj factor! They hardly do anything! Only few. Is it not what I c every now and then? So only 2 wks will make a man bond with his newbie? Common! Bonding is for life! 1 Like |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
And all these women saying no leave are the ones that will seriously pounce on their husbands during labor and yet you don't want the man to have 2 weeks to treat the bruises and injuries you inflicted on him by drinking Panadol 4 times a day. |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Nobody: 5:12pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
jennykadry: indeed, and you dont even have to go that far, just the first ultrasound can bring the same intense feeling. |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by StateOfMind: 5:23pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
ileobatojo: As at the time he posted..chinwem = many women.. ![]() ![]() Anyway, I think they also deserve it because it is quite stressful staying up all night with the mother and child and then going to work the following morning. But I think it shouldn't exceed 2wEeks if one of the grandmas and\or any other help is around. If a man is granted paternity leave at work and all he does at home is to play games, read news papers and drive round the neighboorhood, he should be flogged back to work, no point adding to the poor woman's stress. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by Babe2sure(f): 6:47pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Lilimax: Men do go for paternity leave in my establishment here in Nigeria, but the period is very short when compare to women's mat. Leave. Jbluv55: I am an advocate of men taking paternity leave,but it should just be Fø̲̣̣я̅ some days or else it will outlive its usefulness cos some men will turn it into opportunity to engage in their hobby.Lolzzzz(An idle mind is the devil workshop). Even though we know men will not do much in the work,a little help goes a long way. Manly help will be required from time to time.Men should be part of the process,they should be able to fill in the gap by cooking,boiling water e.t.c ,so that the woman will not be too stressed out. |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by uboma(m): 8:43pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
Kanwulia: Like they will be useful around the house? Does your husband do exactly what you described above? Mind you, not all men are that. We have responsible men and fathers... |
Re: Should Men Get Paternity Leave? by pickabeau1: 8:47pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
byvan: Pickabeau,atleast even the most irresponsible mother will spend some time with the baby during her leave or are you talking about"operation dump babies into trash cans"kind of irresponsibility? Some women. Are junkies |
What Is The Weirdest Family Stories You Ever Heard/witnessed? Come in. / Where Will You Allow Your Wife To Work After Marriage? / My 21yr Old Sister Is Sleeping With Her Friend's Husband(her Lecturer)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 46 |