lynpetra:

Sorry but she can't change him.She doesn't have the character that would change him.
Her bf is the type that needs someone like him.He needs a woman that is headstrong like him.You know when he shouts,,a woman that wud start breaking all the breakable in the house in other to subdue his voice.He needs a woman that wud stand his fists,so y he us sleeping peacefully after being drugged,she wud raise his head,and continue to give him countless blows and slaps as he struggles weakly,a woman that wud set long nails at the edge of his tyres so he wud have to visit tyre shops monthly,a woman that is fearless and doesn't care!Am sure after months if bringing down the roof,if the love still exists,both wud sit on the floor of his fighting arena,tired exhausted, finished,bruised,worn-out,ashame,teary,then an understanding might be reached.

ayili:
bad advice

lynpetra:

I wasn't advising her.
I only pointed out the kind of women that fits her kind of man.Kapish??

IAMBREEZY: ¤i guess u don't have any atom of love for your guy all u care about is the guy money and u simply said that.just change ur ways
and what do u need pet name for are you a bingo or whisky

Uyi Iredia:
@ finegurl: Does he pet you by touch ? My advice is you talk to him face-to-face about this matter. Remember a problem shared is half-solved_not in all cases tho' but should work in this one.

axion: @finegrl

But does he know how to give correct prick?

Finegrl: watz correct prick again?

axion:

Are you a learner? Do you want?

Finegrl: want wat kwanu?

axion:
See JAMB question

Finegrl: tor, i dont knw nau datz y am asking

axion:
You too dey fall hand, Port Harcourt girls sharp pass all this wan

Finegrl: daht one concern u

Finegrl: Hi evry1. Am Ibukun by name. I nd ma bf av been dating 4 mor dan a year nw. Bt d problem i av wit hm is dat he doesnt knw hw 2 pet a gal. He shout ova little tinz, alwaz monitoring ma movement. Talkz to me anyhw witout respect. He is too hot tempered. D most anoying tin abt hm is dat he alwaz cal me by ma name. I expect hm 2 gve me a pet name. Bt weneva i tel hm,he wil bounce on me nd start shouting. He mkes me cry alwaz. Bt one tin i love abt him is dat i dont lack anytin. Weneva i ask hm 4 money or anytin, he provides it 4 me. I dnt wanna leave hm coz i love hm xo much nd i knw he loves me too. D only problem is dat he doesnt knw hw 2 pet me. I guess daht ws d way he ws brought up. Plz i nid ur advice. Wat do u tink i can do 2 change hm? Am i 2 teach hm or wat? D problem is dat he doesnt listen 2 me. Am alwaz wrong weneva i say sumtin. He is d only persn dat is right. He claims 2 knw evrytin nd alwaz prove me wrng. Plz hlp #sad

Tonykings: Try landlord

Finegrl: Hi evry1. Am Ibukun by name. I nd ma bf av been dating 4 mor dan a year nw. Bt d problem i av wit hm is dat he doesnt knw hw 2 pet a gal. He shout ova little tinz, alwaz monitoring ma movement. Talkz to me anyhw witout respect. He is too hot tempered. D most anoying tin abt hm is dat he alwaz cal me by ma name. I expect hm 2 gve me a pet name. Bt weneva i tel hm,he wil bounce on me nd start shouting. He mkes me cry alwaz. Bt one tin i love abt him is dat i dont lack anytin. Weneva i ask hm 4 money or anytin, he provides it 4 me. I dnt wanna leave hm coz i love hm xo much nd i knw he loves me too. D only problem is dat he doesnt knw hw 2 pet me. I guess daht ws d way he ws brought up. Plz i nid ur advice. Wat do u tink i can do 2 change hm? Am i 2 teach hm or wat? D problem is dat he doesnt listen 2 me. Am alwaz wrong weneva i say sumtin. He is d only persn dat is right. He claims 2 knw evrytin nd alwaz prove me wrng. Plz hlp #sad

Maryspeck: Dis is exactly wat am also facing in my present relationship but our story is quite different my dear Sister my only advice 4 u is 2 keep praying nd ask 4 patience 4 u 2 enjoy ur relationship can't tell u 2 leave him cause we don't kw d kind of attitude d person u want 2 go nd meet we have so be patience.

Shugarlipz: I think u love his money nd not him and dat is why you are putting up with is behaviour. You nd ur bf shud b able 2 communicate without him shouting at you. But if he cannot do dat, then I wonder wat he will do nxt... Also, if he doesn't want 2 gve u a pet name, let him be. A pet name won't strengthen d relationship neither wud it destroy it.

No relationship is perfect nd don't love lyk mumu o(if u really love him).

ayili: I wander who should do the petting In a relationship the guy or the girl (owing to the fact that girls are more romantic) ... if the man pets you, care for you, take care of your needs. then what are you doing to ensure the success of the relationship?
@op you know your guys problem (he is not as romantic as you are) why dont u take the lead in that aspect of the relationship ...? you dont have to complain (making him feel frustrated as if he no dey try) ...
you cuddle him pampa him and I bet u (1 kobo) he will soften up with time

ayili:
I didn't say u were advising her either... jus saying its a bad advice on treating the man, he actually needs help... fire for fire wont quench a fire

raydatluvs: U don't lack anytin now why try changing him.pple come in packages and dats his!accept it dat way

lynpetra:


Abeg leave all those ones jare,it might only make her suffer emotionally.She shud continue to pet him like a child.Better still anytime he shouts unnecessary she shud be like"darling,please come suck breeest",rubbish!The guy is temperamental and obviously a sadist!Someone that doesn't even call her any pet names atallllllllllllll!Ha!
I will repeat again,fire go definitely quench thus fire!

ayili:
I hope you know he wont shout if she doesn't tempt him to dat
and am not saying she should tempt him before calming/cuddling him.

lynpetra:


I don't think the help shud come from a soft person!like spending years believing you can change a stiff,unromantic and,short tempered man??That is a long road to hell. Op needs a loving and romantic man.Those men hardly change,even if they do,it wud take so long a time. She better leave that relationship for a woman that fits him.

lynpetra:


But the op explicitly pointed out that little things sets him off edge.Haba!He is git tge character of a pregnant Scorpion.A man needs always to be relaxed.