Thanks to babysitting services, a single mom can date. And there will come a time when she has dated enough to know what type of man she should toss or keep. You’ll do some serious self-evaluating. You’ll explore what you really want and need from a man, and most importantly, what kind of man you want to have around your little one(s). Because whether their father’s in their lives or not, the new man you commit to will become a male role model for your child(ren).

Here is a guide for single moms to aid you in this journey.

A man that knows what he wants. A very wise mentor once said to me, “A man that doesn't know what he wants is the worst type of man.” I wouldn't say he’s the worst because we don’t always know what we want, especially when we are younger. Still, as far as a relationship is concerned, a man needs to be aware of the life he wants to lead, especially regarding a relationship with you.

A man that truly understands you’re a package deal. Any man that you commit to needs to comprehend and accept that you are a mother. Even if he doesn’t meet your kid(s), he needs to realize that you are a two-for-one combo. You’ll know if a man understands this if he says something like this: “I know my decisions don’t just affect you, but also your child.” No doubt about it - he knows the deal.

A man that treats you amazingly. The way you are treated and cared for in a relationship will eventually spill over to your little ones. Pick a good man and you’ll be a happy mommy.

A man that’s ready. You can be the perfect woman for him, but if a man isn’t ready or it’s a case of bad timing, then what’s the use? Be honest with yourself about the man that you’ve picked.

One more thing that’s all about you: make a list of your wants and needs and what you’re willing to offer. You can’t have expectations and not be willing or ready to offer them as well. When you figure this out, it will be easier to stay true to what you’re looking for and who you are.

What is on your dating checklist? Share your thoughts!
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