There's ds guy i met thru a friend. He professes 2 lv me bt i dnt feel anything 4 him. Pls is it wise 4 me 2 continue being friends wt him n fall 4 him on d long run.

olatula: There's ds guy i met thru a friend. He professes 2 lv me bt i dnt feel anything 4 him. Pls is it wise 4 me 2 continue being friends wt him n fall 4 him on d long run.

Sometimes,love comes in along the line but my fear is that you claim you naturally don't like him.

You don't like him as a person(behavorial traits,his personality etc) or you don't like him as a lover? If you like his personality ie like him as a friend,love might fall in later but if everything about him disgusts you,then i see no point wasting each others time. Tell him upfront it wont work.shikena.

Tnx

Your question is ambiguous, can you give more explanation on Ifyalways' questions?

I was in a similar situation. I met an incredible guy but for some reasons couldn't develop feelings. He wanted to be with me but I just had no feelings for him. No attraction at all. Even though my brain told me that this would be a good catch, I couldn't get myself to like him more than just a friend. I told him about it and I am happy I was honest because this was the start of a friendship. He is in a serious relationship now and when he introduced his girl to me, I knew, I made the right decision because it was obvious how much his girl loves him and this is what everyone deserves, especially a person like him!

You don't have to like someone IMMEDIATELY but if in the process of dating you realize that you don't feel the slightest attraction then I think it won't come. Take your time. Go on a few dates, get to know the person, enjoy some time together and then be honest, first with yourself and then with him.

Exact thing dat is happenin to me..........D guy won't go ni sha.....ai dnt knw wat he wants......Av abused/cursed him boh he won't leave me......na by force?Hian!!!

olatula: There's ds guy i met thru a friend. He professes 2 lv me bt i dnt feel anything 4 him. Pls is it wise 4 me 2 continue being friends wt him n fall 4 him on d long run.

janetDurling: Exact thing dat is happenin to me..........D guy won't go ni sha.....ai dnt knw wat he wants......Av abused/cursed him boh he won't leave me......na by force?Hian!!!

Sisi too fine gan.
I don't subscribe to abusing or cursing anyone just because he fell in love or lust with you.

Enjoy the attention,ignore him totally and he will go after some time. Don't reply his ping,chat with him,reply his sms,pick or return his call,he will disappear.

^^So u guys r now feeling like wat??

Marine spirits

Jor oh!! Pls who has this novel by Ayi Kwei Armah ..." The beautiful ones are not yet something* cnt remember d last word.........reading mode

janetDurling: Exact thing dat is happenin to me..........D guy won't go ni sha.....ai dnt knw wat he wants......Av abused/cursed him boh he won't leave me......na by force?Hian!!!

There are better ways to ward him off your back than abusing and cursing. You better look inward and stop feeling like a superstar

Will try not to pick his call again........tnx ma'am

ifyalways: Sisi too fine gan.
I don't subscribe to abusing or cursing anyone just because he fell in love or lust with you.

Enjoy the attention,ignore him totally and he will go after some time. Don't reply his ping,chat with him,reply his sms,pick or return his call,he will disappear.

Why do I feel there is money involved! Na today? You have no feelings for him and he ain't loaded, why wud u wanna be friend with him hoping you fall in luv with him later on? Take a sit and tell us the truth of the matter! This is no under 16 thread!

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olatula: There's ds guy i met thru a friend. He professes 2 lv me bt i dnt feel anything 4 him. Pls is it wise 4 me 2 continue being friends wt him n fall 4 him on d long run.

the above in bold always get me to ask:" who are these miserable women that fall in love with friendship?!"

@OP
if there is no attraction whatsoever towards this man, then there still wont be any whether you spend an hour or a week with him. the fact that so many succumb and "believe" that there is some attraction, while in fact you just get used to someone, is a joke!

If you don't like him, TELL HIM!!!!

My dear I can't guarantee you that you might fall for someone that naturally does not tickle your fancy. My advice to you is this never consider starting up a relationship with someone you have no feelings for atall except you wanna cheat on the person, also don't assume you might eventually fall for that person just because you feel that person can foot your bills etc fall in love for the right reasons and don't be pressured by anyone when you know deep within you don't see yourself falling for that person. It might hurt the guy now but you will be doing him a lot of favour turning him down cuz you don't feel a thing for him. If you go into a relationship hoping the feelings might come you will only use him and bring him pain.

Don't try.

olatula: There's ds guy i met thru a friend. He professes 2 lv me bt i dnt feel anything 4 him. Pls is it wise 4 me 2 continue being friends wt him n fall 4 him on d long run.

I'm going to ask you what no one seems to have asked yet?

Why would you be so concerned about not loving someone you obviously can't stand?

The way I see it, it's either because:

~ You're a nutcase or

~ The guy in question is loaded and you're attracted to his wealth - so you beat yourself up for not having anything in return to offer him.

@efemena n dominionng tnx 4 d compliments. Am not talking about if he is loaded or not. Of course he is okay but am not bothered about dat. Jst talking about being able to fall in luv wt him or not.

olatula: @efemena n dominionng tnx 4 d compliments. Am not talking about if he is loaded or not. Of course he is okay but am not bothered about dat. Jst talking about being able to fall in luv wt him or not.

So why does it matter so much to you, whether you do or don't?

There's nothing like "liking" someone "naturally".

It's either you see something you like about the person quickly and so you think you like him/her naturally or you get to know the person better before finding a trait that attracts you

So. Get to know him better. My opinion

dont bother trying... just cut off all forms of communication. u'll never like d person.

Funny thread.

^
Agreed.

I can't wrap my brains around the OPs riddle except CASH(lots of it) is involved some how.
Seems she dislikes the man but money is a magnet that attracts her to him.