Ujujoan:

Errrm . . . . not quite the same thing!

There is a difference huge between being 'taken away' and going voluntarily.

Most of these 'helps' are there voluntarily (with the consent of their parents) and can leave whenever they like.

Some leave after a day, some after a month, some after a year e.t.c. Nobody is forcing these parents to give up their children so comparing it to slavery is a poor analogy.

That alone changes the situation with these house helps. If a child is not being treated properly, h/her parents can take them away whenever they want.

kulyie: I remember some time ago i went to greet my aunt and so we were jisting and the next thing she said was that i was about goig to my friends house in an hours time before you came,give some minutes,let me go and dress up so we will go together but meanwhile eat.i said ok,so i went to the pot to serve myself.so anyway,i was done with the food,left it in the kitchen and then we both left the house.when we got to her friends house,we exchanged pleaseantries and my aunty asked her friend that she has been looking at this house since,its only you and your husbands bedroom, kids bedroom and play room you guys have,where does your house help sleep.the friend said in the kitchen on the floor.my auntys eyes turned towards me and i looked at her too in shock.i said concrete floor? She said ehen.i said ok,where is she now? The woman said she has gone to pick her kids from school,i said what about her,isnt she in school? She looked at me strange and said why should she be in school,na me born am,abi na me go pay for her school fees when i get 2 pikin wey me and my husband still dey struggle to pay their school fees.my aunty interjected and said ok so how do you compensate her for all the chores shes doing,she said i have paid off the agent who brought her so it is as good as i bought her.she doesnt have any right to anything in this house except food and i must make sure she has washed my childrens school uniform,socks,dishes,everybody has eating before she eats.i had to cut in and said aunty thats not fair na.even though no one knows what youre doing to her and she is vulnerable,God is seeing you o,dont let him visit his judgement upon you through your kids.she said abegiiiiii,spare me.if i send her to school now,she will start getting conscious of herself and her looks and she will start competing with me.i said haba aunty,an 11 year old girl.she said,you you dont even know anything,wait till you get in my shoes.anyway to cut the long story short,when we left her place and my aunty was driving in the car,i said aunty mi, she said aburo,i said can i advise you,she said,i am listening.i noded and said this woman you call your friend,i dont like your relationship with her.this is not the kind of woman you should be hanging around with.God forbid eveil,if your enemy dies and for one reason or the other your child stays with her,just no that your childs life will be messed up.imagine how she is treating her house help as if she is not even a human being.such a little girl like that,an illiterate, worstill sleeping in the kitchen and eating the remenants of everyones plate packed together.that is what we do for our dog.that girl is too small for that na.my aunty said,well,thats true,i will talk to her but i had the intention of talking to her however not in your presence because she might feel embarassed that she is talking to her in the presence of her friends younger one,i said better.


Infact ehen.smh

pickabeau1: This story reminds me of Devious Maids, a sitcom based in Bev Hills

The maids are confidants, everything to their mistresses

specialguest:


The girl that lives with me is above way above 17 however i had to make an age declaration stating she was 15 years when i enrolled her in jss 1 and i am sure you know why. Infact the first day i took her to school the principal outrightly told me that my ward was way above 15 years probably because of her size but i just feigned ignorance of what she saying by claiming that is what the girls parents told me.

AjanleKoko:

In short, you are just breaking laws right left and center

Which one is 'way above 17'? If the girl is under 18, first strike.
You now went ahead to falsify her age. Second strike.

Na wa for Nigerians. Criminal behaviour is being justified by phoney philantropy

armyofone: so BB you watch Devious maid? wait you be Lady? I don't believe you are guy anymore

I watch it too on Lifetime my fav channel. Such a nice show and my sunday evening is not complete without watching it. I'm waiting for the next season. I really like how those Latino maids do their thing, they teach you a lesson. But we can't compare Lifetime Devious Maids who are mostly adult to Nigerian baby maids.

kulyie: I remember some time ago i went to greet my aunt and so we were jisting and the next thing she said was that i was about goig to my friends house in an hours time before you came,give some minutes,let me go and dress up so we will go together but meanwhile eat.i said ok,so i went to the pot to serve myself.so anyway,i was done with the food,left it in the kitchen and then we both left the house.when we got to her friends house,we exchanged pleaseantries and my aunty asked her friend that she has been looking at this house since,its only you and your husbands bedroom, kids bedroom and play room you guys have,where does your house help sleep.the friend said in the kitchen on the floor.my auntys eyes turned towards me and i looked at her too in shock.i said concrete floor? She said ehen.i said ok,where is she now? The woman said she has gone to pick her kids from school,i said what about her,isnt she in school? She looked at me strange and said why should she be in school,na me born am,abi na me go pay for her school fees when i get 2 pikin wey me and my husband still dey struggle to pay their school fees.my aunty interjected and said ok so how do you compensate her for all the chores shes doing,she said i have paid off the agent who brought her so it is as good as i bought her.she doesnt have any right to anything in this house except food and i must make sure she has washed my childrens school uniform,socks,dishes,everybody has eating before she eats.i had to cut in and said aunty thats not fair na.even though no one knows what youre doing to her and she is vulnerable,God is seeing you o,dont let him visit his judgement upon you through your kids.she said abegiiiiii,spare me.if i send her to school now,she will start getting conscious of herself and her looks and she will start competing with me.i said haba aunty,an 11 year old girl.she said,you you dont even know anything,wait till you get in my shoes.anyway to cut the long story short,when we left her place and my aunty was driving in the car,i said aunty mi, she said aburo,i said can i advise you,she said,i am listening.i noded and said this woman you call your friend,i dont like your relationship with her.this is not the kind of woman you should be hanging around with.God forbid eveil,if your enemy dies and for one reason or the other your child stays with her,just no that your childs life will be messed up.imagine how she is treating her house help as if she is not even a human being.such a little girl like that,an illiterate, worstill sleeping in the kitchen and eating the remenants of everyones plate packed together.that is what we do for our dog.that girl is too small for that na.my aunty said,well,thats true,i will talk to her but i had the intention of talking to her however not in your presence because she might feel embarassed that she is talking to her in the presence of her friends younger one,i said better.


Infact ehen.smh

pickabeau1: yEP i DO... i ALSO loved wisteria lane.... its actiually the same crew....too many similarities sef


As time went on.. im liking the chic whose son was in mexico especially when she went to confession
Also the lady who was in scrubs (reyes) she is still funny


@topic you caNT compare the two....
naija own is slave labor.. for sure.. me i advocate late teens and one who can collect her money direct....
one only prays u get a good family.....
some are wicked to their own family not to talk of maid



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tatiana009: One of the reasons poor people keep havingmore children than theycan afford to take care of is because they know they can give the children out as maids, infact for some of their parents it has become a source of income. Let us stop emplying kids and go back to the time when parents are the ones who go to work to feed their families. Rather employ the mothers to resume in the morning and close in the evening. You will see that once child slavery is stopped these people will think twice before having kids they can't take care of.

tatiana009: One of the reasons poor people keep havingmore children than theycan afford to take care of is because they know they can give the children out as maids, infact for some of their parents it has become a source of income. Let us stop emplying kids and go back to the time when parents are the ones who go to work to feed their families. Rather employ the mothers to resume in the morning and close in the evening. You will see that once child slavery is stopped these people will think twice before having kids they can't take care of.

naijababe:

Shocking . So a minor can voluntarily choose a life of servitude? Ok now! Na everyday I dey learn for NL. Y'all call it whatever you want, it is modern day slavery.

armyofone: Ladies playing thick madam all over Nigeria shame on you if you use little children as house help and not sending them to school.
what is in the house that you and your husband can't do anyway?
Human are gifted with the ability to multi task. One mouth and two hands.
Send them to school or don't use them otherwise you are a very wicked person in disguise.

tchidi: My Mum is the modern day MOTHER THERESA. She brought a small boy home so many years ago..... Crazy, dirty boy she found sitting besides his mum while she sold food by the wayside.
Today Chinedu has cleared his WAEC, is a part of our house and is growing up to be a cute gentleman! If i'm asked how many boys we have at home, I say 3!
However, our neighbor has gone through uncountable house-helps!! With the majority of them running away at night!

If you cant send them to school and treat them well, leave them abeg!

Aww this is sweet.

Lmaoo @ the bolded.

Orikinla:
And when you maltreat them, you are going to end up misleading your own children with your bad example in parenting and guardianship.

naijababe:

Shocking . So a minor can voluntarily choose a life of servitude? Ok now! Na everyday I dey learn for NL. Y'all call it whatever you want, it is modern day slavery.

birdman:

sister wake up and stop talking like cnn. Try telling a family who cant find the next days food how pay plus free room and board is slavery. I should post obligatory pictures of what slavery really is, but I know you can google too. I know yall want shock value and keep using the word slavery, but the joke is on you - you just end up disrespecting real slaves

birdman:

sister wake up and stop talking like cnn. Try telling a family who cant find the next days food how pay plus free room and board is slavery. I should post obligatory pictures of what slavery really is, but I know you can google too. I know yall want shock value and keep using the word slavery, but the joke is on you - you just end up disrespecting real slaves

soul_glo:


Funny this is the exact same response that white supremacists use in defense of slavery. Blacks got shelter and food. If they were left on their own other people would have lynched them without the protection of their "owners". So they got shelter, food, and security. How dare they complain

soul_glo:


Funny this is the exact same response that white supremacists use in defense of slavery. Blacks got shelter and food. If they were left on their own other people would have lynched them without the protection of their "owners". So they got shelter, food, and security. How dare they complain

birdman:

Lmao. I see you omitted the part about free will just so you could make your point. The basic evil of slavery is free will, NOT abject working conditions. The issue of slavery was never terrible working conditions, but the fact that you could not quit if you wanted to, and your next generation could never rise higher than you by law. So again, unless you can show me forced generational labor, stop denigrating the memory of slaves just so you can make a point. I understand when Europeans do it. When Africans do it, uhh...

Next thing I know you will be mentioning Hitler

soul_glo:

What free will does a 7 year old whose parents sold her have? I mean I don't see how you honestly think you have made a point. Let me get this straight. Your logic is that since Nigeria actually has laws in place that makes slavery a criminal act then these children could not possibly be enslaved. Round of applause. And the forced generational labor part................. that's just hogwash. You even made up your own definition. If there is no forced generational labor then it cannot possibly be slavery?

If there is no forced generational labor then it cannot possibly be slavery?

birdman:

You made the comparison to slavery. I just showed you that the idea is nonsensical. Making a 7 year old go to work is not the best idea, but its not slavery. The parents did consent, and the child can choose to stay or not once he is old enough. And most househelps do end up leaving, usually when they are old enough to start thinking of starting their own family or a trade. So, go ahead and show me how this is comparable to raiding villages, selling all the men and sending them overseas where they and their forbears will be slaves for another 400 years. I really want to hear this one.



Nice try taking me out of context. Like I said, what makes slavery bad is not just being taken against your will, but those that come after you must do the same thing you did. There are white Americans who were indentured servants, some treated just as bad as slaves. But you know what, their next generation got to taste full freedom. I'm sure you can see the difference today. So again, claiming househelps are slave is silly.

Again, I want to hear how you arrived at the conclusion that househelps Nigerian style are synonymous with slaves shipped over the atlantic. Seriously, I do.