Nonso23: From all indications, you, my dear, are not in a relationship with the man in question.
Another thing is ; that man is self-centered and immature.
Finally, try to define your feelings for him because from this post you seem like you just want to get married or maybe you are attracted to his money.
N.B: Mind games always hurt both parties in the long run.

Nonso23: From all indications, you, my dear, are not in a relationship with the man in question.
Another thing is ; that man is self-centered and immature.
Finally, try to define your feelings for him because from this post you seem like you just want to get married or maybe you are attracted to his money.
N.B: Mind games always hurt both parties in the long run.

scolaluv: Thanks again@Nonso23.I noticed that our communication is stilted i.e we don't flow like I do with other guys.I actually feel it's because he isn't fluent but you've made me realise that i could really try harder to bridge the gap and also work on my peculiarities.

Emeralddeee: My dear you have to be careful, stop wishing or day dreaming you ain't in love with this guy, although it's obvious you're attracted to some of his assert (money) If a guy is crazy about you he's never gonna let you chase him he will chase you, also don't allow him brainwash you with marriage proposal,some guys will use marriage as a bait to get what they want from a lady. Also avoid mind games and complicated guys they will do you no good.

scolaluv: . .
From all indications, you, my dear, are not in a relationship with the man in question.
Another thing is ; that man is self-centered and immature.
Finally, try to define your feelings for him because from this post you seem like you just want to get married or maybe you are attracted to his money.
N.B: Mind games always hurt both parties in the long run.

Thanks.You really said it the way it is.I have been in a dilemma because i can't say i really love him but feel i should see where this will take us both.Yes,my head tells me that he is immature and self centered as you rightly said but my heart says otherwise.Is it too much to hope that he'll change?

scolaluv: You said you want to marry a graduate which he isn't,so why do you wish to marry him,cos of his money. Be sincere to yourself,what you really like about him?left to me,marriage with him won't work,but you can date him to be sure what you really want

scolaluv: Hi,dear Nairalanders,
I would like to have your candid opinions on this issue i'm facing.
I met this guy who though isn't a graduate or fluent in English,is well travelled, streetwise and doing business overseas( he is in the country for a short break).
I'm currently in the university and personally i would love to marry a graduate which he's not.
The issue now is that we went out once,communicated on phone severally but now he insists i initiate calls to him which i feel is not right(like i'm chasing him which i don't subscribe to as i am principled).I believe guys should do the chasing and not the other way round.
He says that girls run after him and that they are after his cash.
I refused to initiate calls and he too doesn't call.He is trying to see if i will call him first.
Recently,he told me that he wants to marry me and i didn't give him much face.
I feel he actually wants to marry me and i like him.I'm just tired of his games and wishywashy ways.
What do you think? Do you think this guy is sincere.
N.B-pls candid advice only.

baralatie:
u said u principled,want a graduate,som1 fluent in english,u dnt want to be the 1 chasing him .
+he doesnt meet any of these criteria and u ar giving him consent
+u ar even considering marriage and u dnt luv him
+U ARE THE 1 CREATING A BIG PROBLEM !