The number one way…quit
looking! Finding the right man,
or woman, isn't about looking
for that person as much as it is
understanding yourself. If you
give up the hunt, you can focus
on yourself. Building
confidence to just have fun and
get to know people can open
so many doors. Mr. or Mrs.
Right may just be behind one
of them!
The most valuable lesson I
learned was a counselor that
told me to make a list of the
qualities or characteristics I
needed in someone else. This
might sound simple, but if you
are looking for things like:
muscles, a certain job, makes
so much money, etc., you are
likely to find someone who is
equally as shallow as you are
being. True happiness is about
understanding what you really
need from a person. If you like
to snuggle while watching a
movie, you might want to make
sure your partner is the
affectionate type as well. If you
need someone who is going to
give you space to do what you
want, make sure your partner
also enjoys doing things solo
on occasion. If you don't know
what you like, it's time to figure
it out. How can the man or
woman of your dreams be that
person you want if you don't
even know what you want?
Make a list, write out the top
five things a person must be/
have for you to even consider
dating them. Want to live
happily ever after? Stick to that
list! Don't cave, you'll regret it
later.
You need to know your goals in
life. If your goals don't match
up with your partner's goals,
there could be some serious
unhappiness in your future. If
you plan on getting a higher
degree and don't plan on
having children soon, or ever,
it's never wise to assume your
partner who wants children and
soon, is going to change their
mind. Make sure you discuss
any major, or even minor, life
changes you may want to
make, even if you aren't 100%
certain. Be realistic! Thinking
you can "work things out" later
only prolongs the heartache
and makes it that much harder
to move on with your life.
If you are really looking for "the
one", never, ever, go back to an
ex. They are an ex for a reason
and that reason DID NOT GO
AWAY! Everyone I know that
tried it ended up heartbroken
again. You are not the
exception, there are none. Do
yourself a favor and move on
to a happier chapter in your
life.
Everyone I know who is truly
happy, met their significant
other once they knew what
they wanted in life. They knew
they didn't need someone else
to make them happy. Relying
on someone else leads to more
disappointment, for both
people. Knowing you are a
strong person that doesn't need
anyone else will build a
confidence in you that others
can see. I'm not saying you
can't try online dating, or other
forms of dating, just make sure
you know what you are looking
for first. Be happy with yourself
and the rest will come togu