Jerry Springer’s show, ‘Baggage’ is sure fun to watch; a family entertainment show of people disclosing their gross past or negative part of their personality in baggage that would be revealed among three people until only one of them remains to be matched to a single opposite sex, whose baggage would also be revealed to determine a match.

Let’s take it a little beyond entertainment and extract the didactic message in such a show. Every human being had some queer personality or unsettling past that we often tuck away in some dark recess of our lives. And then when this hidden part pops up, our new relationship could likely be rocked by this ‘baggage’ that the other person finds quite unsettling.

Some people are secretly married but promising you love; some are addicts to computers or games; some would expect you to love their pets too; or put up fake Facebook accounts to monitor their partners; and some still keep platonic relationships with their exes. It is of varying range what is held in each person’s baggage. However, there is often a baggage in everyone’s life.

Although it is not wise to lay bare your burden before a new person you are meeting, as this could scare him/her away, or to start rambling away at every chance you get of your ex. But it is wise to be frank with your partner by letting your baggage be known to each other. These baggage are the other sides of us the other may likely find unusual if s/he later found out. Besides, your major aim is not to reveal your secrets; the major thing about baggage is to know if you can date the other person warts and all.

No matter how hard it is, habits or behaviors you are not sure the other person might find comfy should be shared, or otherwise you are being selfish and so want the other person irrespective of the compatibility possibility.

Our visceral fear however, is often not to lose this new person we are just meeting and besides, most people cannot handle the truth. But there is a deep sense of feeling we have when we know we have met the right person… deeper than just a fling. And if after bringing forth your baggage and that other person finds it too burdensome or you find the other person’s baggage too much of an irritation to bear, don’t sweat it… neither of you is for any of you. Join 4clique today and meet that special person!



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