lynpetra: Nice posts.Just like I have always pointed out,I can't give my EVERYTHING to a bf.If he needs a wife,he shud go and see my parents.Fidelity shudnt be forced down my throat as its my own decision make and not his.

lynpetra: Nice posts.Just like I have always pointed out,I can't give my EVERYTHING to a bf.If he needs a wife,he shud go and see my parents.Fidelity shudnt be forced down my throat as its my own decision make and not his.

Yeeeah, you are the sure babe mehn. You got the point

ogugua88: If he's going to approach other girls, even in my presence, then why exactly are we together?

Eze Promoe: You are together because you claim/think you love each other, but real LOVE bears and endures ANYTHING.

ogugua88:

Yes, love endures all. That doesn't mean I should push his buttons though. Na wa for una.

LOL. I no force anybody o.

You chose to confine yourself to him, that's your choice which I'm very okay with. But what would be your reaction if you see your Mr. Right holding another lady in sensitive areas of her body, laughing and chatting.

Eze Promoe:
So even if you see your girlfriend been banged by five men at a time, that should
just be a minor issue to you. No be her own body? LOL

Afam4eva: It's an issue of morallity and not legality as you guys aint married. As much as you're free to date other people, it doesn't say well about your level of commitment. Dating is meant for people to test the waters of romantic relationship before plunging into the river of marriage and you have to show a glimpse of what you'd be in a marriage and dating multiple people does not speak well.

larride: @OP, I think what you described does happen in an open relationship,, the two party can do anything they want because there's no commitment there. The moment you went into a serious relationship, you are expected to come into it with some form of commitment and responsibility, this is not about africa because it does happen everywhere. An open relationship differ from a serious relationship. If you wanna do all that you mentioned with your partner then let her know its an open relationship with nothing attached to it. You can admire and chase any chick you see out there and she can rides any di.ck she wants with no qualms.

Eze Promoe:
But a marriage is not effective without the love there. Mind you, when I talk of multiple dating, I don't mean multiple sex partners. I just used the illustration of another man/lady havìng sex with your partner to explain what the word LOVE is all about. But all I'm saying is that, should the case be, you see your GF held in sensitive part of her body by another man, or getting jovial with him, it shouldn't be a biggie.

Eze Promoe:
But a marriage is not effective without the love there. Mind you, when I talk of multiple dating, I don't mean multiple sex partners. I just used the illustration of another man/lady havìng sex with your partner to explain what the word LOVE is all about. But all I'm saying is that, should the case be, you see your GF held in sensitive part of her body by another man, or getting jovial with him, it shouldn't be a biggie.

ogugua88: Lol kedu?

Dating comes before marriage. If I want someone to consider making me his wife, I will respect him, whether he is around or not. If he is with me, then I will give him my utmost attention and make sure we have the best time in each other's company. If we're apart, I will tell him everything about my dad, even things he doesn't want to hear, because I want him to trust me. A man proposes to a woman because he sees certain qualities in her that he'd love in his wife. "She's responsible... she's respectful... she's driven."

One does not become a husband or wife overnight. Yes, you do your traditional wedding, say your vows, yada yada yada, and you go from boyfriend/girlfriend to Mister and Missus, but do the rings on the fingers, exchanged vows, and formalities make either of them more responsible? No. "Husband" and "wife" are still titles. Maturity, self-control, and mutual respect are some things that make married couples last. They're also some of the things that made them marry in the first place.

Of course, to each his or her own. Some people are in open relationships and that works just fine. Generally, however, people oppose them, be it pre-marriage or while married, and I'm the same way.

Eze Promoe:
No sir. I'm not talking of an open relationship. In such kind of relationship there is no feeling at all.
But in my kind of relationship, the love is very strong and evident, you let her have her own way and vice versa. You aren't under pressure to please your miss.
But the love that tolerates all acts is there.

ronalmagic10: Na wa 4 MThiefNen oo. I bought #200 card dis morning , I only opened dis page nd dey r saying I av #30 left. Wich kain tin d be dis na? pls wats d best subscription plan 4 android?

is anyone experiencing dis same ish

Eze Promoe:
You are together because you claim/think you love each other, but real LOVE bears and endures ANYTHING.

Eze Promoe: Good morning, distinguished forum pals. My post may tend to defy common (African) sense but how else do we learn from life if there isn't some strings of controversy.
My post today is a partial dissidence of the general notion that a person must be confined to one's partner all in the name of dating, and anyone whose action contradicts this thesis is automatically branded a reminiscent of the devil. Don't get it twisted, married couples are beyond the stage of dating so this piece is not applicable to them.
My emphasis is mostly on the guys, who mostly put a restriction on some nice catch out there just to fulfil all righteousness (if there's any). Please don't see my being realistic as being chauvinistic, neither should you think that I'm a misogynist because I've never seen any man in the world as chivalrous as I am. I have the softest spot for women, and would do nothing to get into their bad book But let's talk logic here.
What is wrong in admiring a lady who's hot in front of my girlfriend, I mean like looking into the lady's eye and be like, "hey sweery, look at that babe, she's so hot and she turned me on". Is it also impossible for a lady to see a cute guy in front of her boyfriend, and be like, "hey sweery, see that guy is so cute, let me have a dinner with him." The world would be a better place if things like this are let to be with no hard feelings attached to it.
It's high time we stopped taking this relationship thingy too far like its a marriage obligation. It's only your wife/husband that you are entitled to as a sole partner, hence one would be more concerned of his/her wife/husband privacy than whatever business that goes on in his/her working place. Marital vows had made it so that you are one body.
But same can't be applicable to BFs/GFs . Since you are not my wife and I'm not your husband, the number of ladies I see anytime we aren't together shouldn't be any of your problems, and vice versa. Don't make it a priority that a man (whom you aren't legally married to) should be responsible for your upkeep. Let him do it when he wishes to. Same for the guys. When she denies you a flight ticket to Jerusalem, don't take it to heart against her. Always have it in your mind that she is not your wife, hence you have no authority or say whatever she does with her body.
Some people might be saying in their heart that this guy knows nothing about love but the hard truth is that if you can't still maintain the pitch of the love you have for your partner when for example, you happen to catch him/her on the act of havíng sex with another man/woman then I'm sorry to say that there was no LOVE in the first place but all a facade. Even the bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4, that love is not jealous, and still went ahead to state in 13:7 that Love bears and endures all things. So if a mere case of he/she doing what she feels is pleasurable to him/her suddenly makes you hate him/her, then there was no LOVE in the first place. So even if you see your girlfriend been banged by five men at a time, that should just be a minor issue to you. No be her own body? LOL.
Left for me, I would offer to have an intimate affair that would involve any form of romance save sex (of which I would make exclusive to my girlfriend if she wishes.
To that unlucky lady, you might have gotten enlightened with this brief post what people who are dating should be like, and how your Mr. Right see things that others may not be seeing.
I CASE MY REST!


Eze Promoe:
You are together because you claim/think you love each other, but real LOVE bears and endures ANYTHING.

larride:

Do you think sex even illustrate what LOVE is all about, since you can't love two people equally, then its just lust. If you want to be in a relationship that both partners do whatever they want then be in an OPEN relationship and do whatever you want. You can't claim to be in a serious relationship and yet want to explore others adventures, that defeats the importance of a serious relationship which is to know each other better and plans to settle down. A relationship deals with more than just sex.

larride:

I think you still don't understand yourself. There's no way you can love 2 people equally at the same time, with that being said, I guess what you are trying to say is that you wouldn't mind to see say like 3 guys banging your babe, I guess you will just grab a popcorn or join them, so if you are married and the same scenario occurred you won't feel hurt. Why should I be in a relationship then when I can have my way, when I can do whatever I want without putting into consideration my partners feelings? Relationship is all about responsibility, decency, maturity, moral values, respect and love. In a relationship you are expected to bond together into one which in most cases leads into marriage. I'm an African and I respect our culture and values.