This is no 'super story'.

Contained herewith is a message on whatsapp from a friend of mine who texted me for an advice on an affair she has with a married man.

She wants out but doesn't know how to as she loves him so deeply (in her words). He's even known by her family.

Her: I needed ur advice on smtin
> Hp im nt botherin u?
>Im avin an affair wt ds man hs married doe
>N d mstake i made ws 2 fall in love wt hm
>He s lyk close 2 my family
>I knw hs wife 2
>Bt dts nt d issue
>Im always jealous abt hs closness wt one of my frnd
>N ds broght a big problm btw me n hm n also dt my frnd
>He told me he hd ntin 2 do wt ha
>N i shld bliv hm
>Im tryin 2 bt i cnt
>Dey r always 2geda
>He s evn d one bringin ha close
>N it annoys me
>He knws im pissed bt i c hm doin it evrytym
>I felt he s doin it on purpose 2 upset me d more
>I felt he s doin it on purpose 2 upset me d more
>Dt d way he luvs me he hs neva luvd any1 dt way b4 bt my character s rilly mkin hm scared of continuing
>Dt he knws wot he s doin s wrng bt d luv he hs 4 me s mkin hm takin d risk
>Bt as 4 d oda girl dt i shld 4gt ha
>Dt he hs ntin 2 do wt ha
>If i wnt hm 2 swear he wuld do so
>Dt she c hm as a fada she culd run 2
>N dts al she s 2 hm 2
>N dts al she s 2 hm 2
>Bt ryt nw i jux cnt tk it anymore
>Im tired of complainin abt dem
>N it pains me 2 dt im killin mysef 4 smtin wt no future
>I dnt knw wot 2 do nw
>Im jux tired of ds whole tin
>Im jux tired of ds whole tin
>Cos its as if i cnt go a day wtot hm
>Pls help me
>Hw cn i brk out
>He s hurtin me n yt he dint realise it
>Tel me did i do wrng or s my feelin gtin a beta part of me?
>N wot shld i do ryt nw
>Cal hm n apologise or jux go my way
>I lov hm more than anytin bt i cnt continue in ds
>Its mkin go crazy
>Plssss help me
>Its killin me
>I cnt kip it anymore to myself dts y im talkin 2 you
>Pls help me
>So i shld leave?
>Bt hw cn i?
>Pls advice me
>Wot s d bst way 2 leave ds
>I c hm almost evryday

I promised to call her as soon as I were free but truth is I really don't know what to tell her and how, even why...

Pls send in your suggestions. She's contemplating suicide. Said something must be wrong with her for falling in love with a married man.

Save a life

More from her:

>Im in deep shit
>I've prayed
>I've gone 4 counselling
>Im stuck 2 smtin dts unspeakable
>I dint evn tel u ds
>It wsnt our initial plan
>He loved me naturally then
>He confided tins 2 me
>He confided tins 2 me
>He confided tins 2 me
>We were
>Until ds nonsense passion came in
>It ruined evrytin nw i cnt stp being jealous of hm
>Hs wife knew he loved me as a daughter
>Evn my parents
>Hs wife knws we r close bt she didnt knw i ws avin n unholy tin wt hm
>Im tired of mysef ryt nw


Nairalanders pls help me help her

ojeka.:
God is watching and he will judge both of you all

He sure will, with u inclusive.

I'm against it, and I'm asking her t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲ walk away, but maybe I dnt knw Ђδω to say it.

I'm not the best of orators or persuader

Mtcheeeew. .na so people go dey sleep with your papa..nonsense, single guys don finish?

MarvellousGod: Mtcheeeew. .na so people go dey sleep with your papa..nonsense, single guys don finish?

I have in no way been abusive.
Shit happens. Ppl do this stuff.
At least she wants a way out.
An advice cud go a long way.

No judging pls. The other day I read that a policewoman committed suicide cos she went out with sum1 oda than her hubby.

I dnt want that for my friend.

She should get out of there and get a life!!!

Simple

People should learn not to allow their emotions control them.Your friend must know that it is not everybody we love that we date,considering the closeness of the families.
Having said that,I must say that love is not a tap that can be turned on and off,so coming out of it would not be easy.
But this is one alliance that would get her nowhere,so she must muster courage to severe ties with this man.Let her convince herself that this is one relationship she doesn't need.
She should socialise more and engage in profitable ventures rather than tie her life to a man who is just using her to satisfy his insatiable urge.Wish her luck.

^^^ Thanks bro. Helped much

If She Had Her Priorities Set And Rightly At That, Falling In love With That Sort Of Man Shouldn't Or Wouldn't Be An Option For Her. She Was Silly And Still Is.

The Man She's In love With, I Don't See How He's Being Normal Here. He's Never Loved Someone Else Like Her? And Like Seriously Your Friend Believed That Rubbish Line? She Needs A Check-Up. I Mean That Coming From A Married Man Is Ridiculously Ridiculous.

Imagine The Man Leaving His Present Wife For Any Reason- Known Or Unknown, If He Marries Your Friend, What If Another Girl Comes Into The Picture? From The Look Of Things Your Friend Is The Jealous Type. Would She Take Such? Considering That She's Already Jealous For A Man She Doesn't Officially Have To Herself. Let Her Check Herself Please.


They're Both On A Disastrous Path And Trust Me The End Won't Be Good.

Need I Say Anymore? She Should Get Out Of The Relationship Quick.

Tell her that she should look at what she is feeling now and then imagine what the wife should be feeling knowing that all this is happening assuming she knows about it and then she should look within herself and then see whether she should continue.

The fact that she has not even considered what she is doing to the man's wife and the family and all the trust that the woman has put on her shows that she is still heartless. Ask her that if the man was not bringing any other girl close, would she be complaining about this man or still be enjoying what she has been enjoying?

Truth is that it is only because her former position is threatened that she is thinking of backing out and that is not a good reason because karma will punish her severely.

She should look at everything from the position of right and wrong and then know that no matter wat she shouldn't be doing what she is doing. If she commits suicide now because of what is happening then I do not regret saying that she is not even worth a burial and she should just be tossed in the bush to rot.

She should seek redemption and escape from the situation not a solution

Tell her,'she's just a piece of pencil using on a drawing book which will be erase when it has outlived it value! What she's doing her parent won't be proud of,make hay while sun shines! A word they say it enough for the wise and he who has ear...

Surely the work of the devil.

She may be loving the sugar daddy genuinely, but in most cases like this....its always as a result of the specific gestures men in this marital group exhibit towards their younger and naive mistresses. Money, tenderness and maturity.

Funny thing is that these young mistresses get carried away that they forget to find out how rude, stingy and immature these sugar daddies are towards their wives and kids.

It will be hard, but encourage the young lady to snap out of the fool's paradise. Only sorrow, grief and heartbreak can come out of relationship.

you 2 are committing sins......and u can [size=40pt]GO AND DIE![/size]

The people implying Eseharrisson is committing a sin either have poor comprehension or are being silly. He isn't in an affair, he was gone to for advice.

@ OP: You really need to convince her out of it. Love is good but even she got jealous when she saw this married man with her friend. Use that to your advantage. Tell her if she was jealous as a girlfriend, how much more the wife (who it seems knows and trusts her). Tell her to forget about it and really monitor her so she finds balance. She can't have a good future with that man. Maybe u can find something to take her mind off the illicit affair, charity or something.

Uyi Iredia: The people implying Eseharrisson is committing a sin either have poor comprehension or are being silly. He isn't in an affair, he was gone to for advice.

@ OP: You really need to convince her out of it. Love is good but even she got jealous when she saw this married man with her friend. Use that to your advantage. Tell her if she was jealous as a girlfriend, how much more the wife (who it seems knows and trusts her). Tell her to forget about it and really monitor her so she finds balance. She can't have a good future with that man. Maybe u can find something to take her mind off the illicit affair, charity or something.

Thanks bro for sticking out for me.
She's gradually coming back albeit hesitantly.
Seems the man really did a number on her naivety