this is more like a trend amongst our young girls who use pregnancy as a tool to tie down their men for marriage. Personally i kw of three girls who rocked life well back in school but didnt get pregnant, even if they did, am sure they aborted it but am wondering why all of a sudden after graduation they are all pregnant and before you kw wots happening wedding bells are ringing.
pls i stand to be corrected if my observations are wrong.....the church should stop wedding such couples in my honest opinion

Which church are u refering to,
I dey come make I ask daddy a.

If the church stops wedding them,the registry would.No one can tie anybody down,only you can tie yourself.They are getting married because their men wants them enough to marry them,some are still abandoned with pregnancy.Let people live the way they deem fit,once it doesn't hurt anyone.

What if they planned the pregnancy with their men prior to graduation?i hope your concern is genuine and not out of envy.Do you know the extent of traditional marriage rites they ve performed?A lot of ladies in school are traditionally married,white wedding is performed at convenient time.

Dey dia na, dem don marry o. Sharp girls.
On a serious note, it worked for many in my days, they are always the first to marry and get married to very cool guys sef.
They know what they want and they go for it.

No time!

Libra-kid:
this is more like a trend amongst our young girls who use pregnancy as a tool to tie down their men for marriage. Personally i kw of three girls who rocked life well back in school but didnt get pregnant, even if they did, am sure they aborted it but am wondering why all of a sudden after graduation they are all pregnant and before you kw wots happening wedding bells are ringing.
pls i stand to be corrected if my observations are wrong.....the church should stop wedding such couples in my honest opinion

Perhaps, because they feel it's time to settle down?

Besides, what's wrong with getting pregnant before marriage if it's what the couple in question want??

Whose effing business is it?

So if their spouse is ok with it then what?

Poster, whatever rocks for anybody.
By d way, r u one of those holy nwejesins or somebody snatched ur bobo tru dat way?
Just curious sha.

People of the world are free to do what they want.

The church should not join couples with a pregnant bride.

thorpido: People of the world are free to do what they want.

The church should not join couples with a pregnant bride.

But they can join couples who have aborted 10 times?

Using pregnancy to 'tie' people down is a known practice. Some men may have made it known how they would not let their children be raised by other men.

Some men who drag their feet and need pushing to make decisions also get 'tied' this way.

Hopefully, it does not backfire. It does in some cases.


I don't agree with this though. It is not ideal.

The main issue is not even getting pregnant before marriage but SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A GREAT SIN.

The one that gets pregnant before marriage and the one the had sex before marriage but never conceived and the one that conceived but aborted are all the same. The difference is that joining the one that is pregnant at wedding in wedlock with her man is joining more than 2 people in wedlock which is an abomination!

Phema:

But they can join couples who have aborted 10 times?

Tell them... Dumb people(s) my foot.

It is a stupid guy that can be tied down with one pregnancy... its not a crime to give birth and any girl that tries that with me will be shown the eclipse of the moon in daylight.

But... why go to bed with a girl you dont love and dont intend keeping

These are questions we need to ask ourselves before making interpretations... May God save us from hypocrisy in all ways...




And if you ask why hypocrisy, I'll tell you to read Mark 12:31 and I am sure it is in all religion practice... Do what you preach! I cant type epistle abeg

jusRadical: The main issue is not even getting pregnant before marriage but SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A GREAT SIN.

The one that gets pregnant before marriage and the one the had sex before marriage but never conceived and the one that conceived but aborted are all the same. The difference is that joining the one that is pregnant at wedding in wedlock with her man is joining more than 2 people in wedlock which is an abomination!

SEX Before Marriage is NOT a sin.... Fornication is a SIN... Some married folks still fornicate... Fornication is a like a basket of fruits...

byvan: If the church stops wedding them,the registry would.No one can tie anybody down,only you can tie yourself.They are getting married because their men wants them enough to marry them,some are still abandoned with pregnancy.Let people live the way they deem fit,once it doesn't hurt anyone.

What if they planned the pregnancy with their men prior to graduation?i hope your concern is genuine and not out of envy.Do you know the extent of traditional marriage rites they ve performed?A lot of ladies in school are traditionally married,white wedding is performed at convenient time.

gbam

ledafaze:

SEX Before Marriage is NOT a sin.... Fornication is a SIN... Some married folks still fornicate... Fornication is a like a basket of fruits...

your statement is as funny as i will rather kill myself than commit suicide.pls what is the difference between fornication and sex before marriage

ledafaze:

Tell them... Dumb people(s) my foot.

It is a stupid guy that can be tied down with one pregnancy... its not a crime to give birth and any girl that tries that with me will be shown the eclipse of the moon in daylight.

But... why go to bed with a girl you dont love and dont intend keeping

These are questions we need to ask ourselves before making interpretations... May God save us from hypocrisy in all ways...




And if you ask why hypocrisy, I'll tell you to read Mark 12:31 and I am sure it is in all religion practice... Do what you preach! I cant type epistle abeg

but if i may ask, what is so difficult in keeping your legs shut,worstill with a girl you have no marriage intention/ plans for.is it as hard as getting rid of corruption in nigeria or the boko h guys?

kulyie: your statement is as funny as i will rather kill myself than commit suicide.pls what is the difference between fornication and sex before marriage

How much do you know about religious topics and not just listening to your pastor? Even the bible commends us to study... read and not to listen to Pastors biko... There is a big difference... This is not a religious thread and cant be explaining to you what porneia means in greek and what it is being referred to in ancient times... so please study biko...

kulyie: but if i may ask, what is so difficult in keeping your legs shut,worstill with a girl you have no marriage intention/ plans for.is it as hard as getting rid of corruption in nigeria or the boko h guys?

There is nothing wrong in keeping your legs shut... and there is nothing wrong in keeping it open for the right person... perspective matters.

deols: Using pregnancy to 'tie' people down is a known practice. Some men may have made it known how they would not let their children be raised by other men.

Some men who drag their feet and need pushing to make decisions also get 'tied' this way.

Hopefully, it does not backfire. It does in some cases.


I don't agree with this though. It is not ideal.

it is usually the tactic used by desperate women to pin down mr money guy.

Yesterday where i went to fix eye lashes,i met a young girl between 22-23 in that same beauty studio and i asked her hope the strike isnt affecting you,she said ha,no o aunty.infact,i am trying to get pregnant,i want to hook my new boyfriend down with pregnancy,i dont want him to escape from my hand,i said why do you want to do that,she said,he has money na.he is a big boy o.at least even if he doesnt send me again after the marriage,i can always use the baby as a tool to collect money from him.i said ehenn..school nko?wont you complete your education and earn a degree.she said abegiii.who needs certificate,i am all after money joor,dont you know its expensiveto do fine girl,i said lobatan.anyway the point i am trying to make is desperation and wrong priorities cause things like this

ledafaze:

How much do you know about religious topics and not just listening to your pastor? Even the bible commends us to study... read and not to listen to Pastors biko... There is a big difference... This is not a religious thread and cant be explaining to you what porneia means in greek and what it is being referred to in ancient times... so please study biko...



There is nothing wrong in keeping your legs shut... and there is nothing wrong in keeping it open for the right person... perspective matters.

anyway the summary of the matter is to each their own.

Let me also ask a question,even if you have marriage intentions for this babe and along the line you change your mind about marrying her for reasons best known to you ( dont tell me thats not possible) and of which youve made the girl hope for marriage,how do you expect the girl to feel if you say youre no more intrested in the relationship,meanwhile youve been sleeping with her.at least i am aware that thats the new ploy,deceiving girls with marriage when you know you dont have any plans just for her to feel relaxed and fling her legs open.

Try and be open minded about this thing.life isnt a 1 way road my dear

kulyie: it is usually the tactic used by desperate women to pin down mr money guy.

Yesterday where i went to fix eye lashes,i met a young girl between 22-23 in that same beauty studio and i asked her hope the strike isnt affecting you,she said ha,no o aunty.infact,i am trying to get pregnant,i want to hook my new boyfriend down with pregnancy,i dont want him to escape from my hand,i said why do you want to do that,she said,he has money na.he is a big boy o.at least even if he doesnt send me again after the marriage,i can always use the baby as a tool to collect money from him.i said ehenn..school nko?wont you complete your education and earn a degree.she said abegiii.who needs certificate,i am all after money joor,dont you know its expensiveto do fine girl,i said lobatan.anyway the point i am trying to make is desperation and wrong priorities cause things like this

I totally understand you but that girl is DOOM. Make she no meet some guys wey no send her and the baby sef... she go regret all her life and people will use her as examples.

Phema:

But they can join couples who have aborted 10 times?

if you have proof they have aborted 10times.You must show evidence that you followed them there(clinic) each time.

The only way to know if one has an infection or disease is by symptoms or a test.
Do the right thing.

kulyie: anyway the summary of the matter is to each their own.

Let me also ask a question,even if you have marriage intentions for this babe and along the line you change your mind about marrying her for reasons best known to you ( dont tell me thats not possible) and of which youve made the girl hope for marriage,how do you expect the girl to feel if you say youre no more intrested in the relationship,meanwhile youve been sleeping with her.at least i am aware that thats the new ploy,deceiving girls with marriage when you know you dont have any plans just for her to feel relaxed and fling her legs open.

Try and be open minded about this thing.life isnt a 1 way road my dear

This is a tough one... here I rest my case... hahahahaha

But to be sincere, I would have checked every reasons before going into bed with her... I can say I am spiritual and I would have prayed about it and gotten a clear GREEN before making a headway. And really, it depends on her listening skills... some girls can have bad characters hidden but also have listening skills thereby allowing you to change the bad character in them... that is a perfect one... but the ones without the listening skill is a no go area. If she's got no listening skills, got hidden characters that I got to know after intimacy, we will sit down and talk about it... letting her know the risks involved and also not having the intimacy thing with her... and if she's still adamant, we come to a resolution...

ledafaze:

I totally understand you but that girl is DOOM. Make she no meet some guys wey no send her and the baby sef... she go regret all her life and people will use her as examples.

haba na.i totally understand that there are some people who dont send their wives after marriage but it takes a cold hearted man tha lacks conscience,empathy or love for his own blood abandon his child.shooo
yorubas say even if we are fighting,it should not degenerate to wishing of someone dead in the same way even if you have issues with the mother,what of the innocent child that knows nothing about you peoples issh.so your own blood too should be a partaker of suffering in the mothers hand abi? Lollzzz

kulyie: haba na.i totally understand that there are some people who dont send their wives after marriage but it takes a cold hearted man tha lacks conscience,empathy or love for his own blood abandon his child.shooo
yorubas say even if we are fighting,it should not degenerate to wishing of someone dead in the same way even if you have issues with the mother,what of the innocent child that knows nothing about you peoples issh.so your own blood too should be a partaker of suffering in the mothers hand abi? Lollzzz

If that be the case, I will either take custody of the child and cater for it using my Mum or a family member as a gateway or she takes custody and take care of the child.

Na dis kin topic you go see kulyie with her stories.

kulyie: haba na.i totally understand that there are some people who dont send their wives after marriage but it takes a cold hearted man tha lacks conscience,empathy or love for his own blood abandon his child.shooo
yorubas say even if we are fighting,it should not degenerate to wishing of someone dead in the same way even if you have issues with the mother,what of the innocent child that knows nothing about you peoples issh.so your own blood too should be a partaker of suffering in the mothers hand abi? Lollzzz

There are some men who abandon the child too as long as they have issues with their mother.I guess they just don't want anything to connect them with the mother.A few women too have been shown to abandon the children too.

kulyie: it is usually the tactic used by desperate women to pin down mr money guy.

Yesterday where i went to fix eye lashes,i met a young girl between 22-23 in that same beauty studio and i asked her hope the strike isnt affecting you,she said ha,no o aunty.infact,i am trying to get pregnant,i want to hook my new boyfriend down with pregnancy,i dont want him to escape from my hand,i said why do you want to do that,she said,he has money na.he is a big boy o.at least even if he doesnt send me again after the marriage,i can always use the baby as a tool to collect money from him.i said ehenn..school nko?wont you complete your education and earn a degree.she said abegiii.who needs certificate,i am all after money joor,dont you know its expensiveto do fine girl,i said lobatan.anyway the point i am trying to make is desperation and wrong priorities cause things like this

O ga o. I wonder how those girls grew up into being that. Right from childhood, all I wanted is make my own money. I find it hard asking anyone for anything. I'd rather suffer.

And when the man turns her into a punching bag, we wouldn't know the genesis.

Chillisauce: Na dis kin topic you go see kulyie with her stories.

before nko na this kain matters wey dey pepper me enter bone :p

una don dey prepare for xmas and by the way una no go buy xmas cloth for me :p and shey i no go do xmas hair ni? 8-)

kulyie: before nko na this kain matters wey dey pepper me enter bone :p

una don dey prepare for xmas and by the way una no go buy xmas cloth for me :p and shey i no go do xmas hair ni? 8-)

Xmas hair ke? I hope say u don sew your bubba.

As per topic, if a lady truly wants kids then they should go for it, make sure they are settled financially incase the bobo deny.
This life everyone needs a company, the sooner we realize the better, if husband no find you, get your baby and be a baby mama. For old age, you won't as miserable as you would be. Something will keep you going.

You can as well adopt.

Chillisauce:

Xmas hair ke? I hope say u don sew your bubba.

As per topic, if a lady truly wants kids then they should go for it, make sure they are settled financially incase the bobo deny.
This life everyone needs a company, the sooner we realize the better, if husband no find you, get your baby and be a baby mama. For old age, you won't as miserable as you would be. Something will keep you going.

You can as well adopt.

gba,.you couldnt have said it any better,as per xmas cloth,yes na,my oleku is ready 8-) remaining to starch it so that it will stand 8-)

remaining hair na :p bet indian hair lemi fe o new year i fit do cotonou hair :p

ledafaze:

SEX Before Marriage is NOT a sin.... Fornication is a SIN... Some married folks still fornicate... Fornication is a like a basket of fruits...

Please read your post again. Please what is fornication? Kindly consult your dictionary for the meaning. Define fornication. So sex before marriage is not a sin? May GOD forgive you.

SEX BETWEEN ANY PERSONS OTHER THAN THAT BETWEEN TWO LEGALLY MARRIED MAN AND HIS WIFE (a woman) IS A SERIOUS SIN. TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT!