I found this picture to funny and had to share




Though as someone who grew up/went to school in a "chocolate city" there was no real concept of a nerd. The smart people were among the most popular people in the school...and for a very mundane ordinary reason. If you did bad in school your parents don't get you anything. The people who rented out ball rooms for birthday events, or setup dinners for the senior class, had a car & nice clothes, etc were basically people who made good grades and came from middle/working class families.

On the flip side there were people who weren't sociable and couldn't relate to others and they might catch flack but it wasn't because they were "nerds" or good students. If you could relate to other people that superseded pretty much anything else. You could be poor, well off, mean, nice, funny, smart, stupid, etc and you'd be fine for the most part.

Actually the funny person superseded everybody else socialy. Everybody likes the funny person ...period.

Ahhhh man, this stupid picture won't pull from the server

Boooooo!

RandomAfricanAm: Ahhhh man, this stupid picture won't pull from the server

Boooooo!

Remove the s on the 'https' just change it to http. Server has an issue with https protocol links

Good call !

Now that's one of those qualities that separates the "I want power" mods from the quality ones ...catching and passing on those fine details that most people wouldn't know/pickup on. thanks

RandomAfricanAm: Good call !

Now that's one of those qualities that separates the "I want power" mods from the quality ones ...catching and passing on those fine details that most people wouldn't know/pickup on. thanks

I've seen that picture before. Some men are stupid though and don't care if a woman who treated them like crap when they were young like them now that they are doing well.

Fulaman198:

I've seen that picture before. Some men are stupid though and don't care if a woman who treated them like crap when they were young like them now that they are doing well.

I think a lot of that derives from children(at least in the U.S) not being told what the purpose of a relationship, marriage, family, etc is suppose to be.

My parents grew up in the poor rural U.S black belt. My ma's family was sharecropping when she was a girl before my grandparents moved them to the city. My daddy's family were carpenters/well diggers(they were better off). Both sides eventually grew up in the city finally working for the phone company. People from that poor background and found economic stability drill in there kids "don't bring no babies in this house" and "boy you betta do good in school".

Now while there's nothing wrong with that in general. The problem occurs when the want to not have their children grow up/end up poor like they were when children may blind them to teaching more fundamental things about how you (treat/should be treated by) people in the context of a relationship or general wisdom reguarding family life.

luckily my folks set a good example of how to work together to manage a home ...but some folks really need to be sat down and talked to.

Now that I think about it a good example would be a friend of mine from kenya who worked on his PHD in the same lab as me when I was a student researcher. He had a wife who was a dentist(Though they wouldn't let her practice in the U.S without going back to school) and a new born baby. You could see them working as a unit to help each other build their future together.

Now the people who grow up here have this random idea that you're suppose to do all this work by yourself then go out and get this spouse you now "deserve" because of all the work you've done. The idea that you can build that future with someone is lost on them cause they aren't told how to be of use to your spouse and how that spouse can be of use to you. It's like they get in a relationship to not be alone or cause they are getting old.

In that type of head space sure they wont "care if a woman who treated them like crap when they were young like them now that they are doing well." Cause in their head as long as she's physical attractive she serves the only purpose he's certain a woman is good for.

Now why would he think that? Cause someone failed to tell him the qualities of having a good woman on his side and what they can do together ...for themselves, and their children.