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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by rhymxkid(m): 12:13am On Dec 30, 2015
Naam22:
Ok!so a friend hooked me up with boyfriend's frnd,knowing am single..and we went out on a date and we click so I thought,we exchanged numbers and guess wat? He didn't call me,am so confuse infact I taya for guys,I feel lyk I shud call him and ask y he didn't call me,lol but I know better,u don't force yourself on people...still single till I find dat person that'll actually call back..he probably couldn't handle my Awesomeness grin

mam are u still single now?? don't want u ending the year without we hooking up...cos even ur boo get boo...
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by rhymxkid(m): 12:15am On Dec 30, 2015
[quote author=enomasly post=20239451]See tedy i undastand d way u comin from but bak 2 d 1st page u advised ifex to go into d 'guess wat am thinkin chat' n u said d short gown with ur backside.....best advice dat technique wud kill ur chances hw wud u just bring up such randy talk of backside in a chat u maywonder if i ave experience ave done an experiment in d past 3months of my stay in skul n ave had relationships n flings wit 12 girls 'unbeleiveable but its true infact i cud advise anyone who needs help' [/quote
then open your own thread na...y come here and flaunt ...

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by martoz(m): 8:49pm On Dec 30, 2015
jmaxjohn:
Xxxtedyxx ure teaching suckers bro. Did u nt mention dat d 1st rule book says "a PUA never spends on d gal" unless d rapport nd kino test has been established and validated as an IOI?
I beg shut up ur most,wu tel u say na only u knw all dis....hv read most of d pua books,z it d game or Venusian art...buh dis z d best guy hv ever seen,I dey fel Tedy,he s teachn niaja settngs...so shut up most...com here I go teach u...go neg naija babe,and c bad result u go get.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by jmaxjohn(m): 10:31pm On Dec 30, 2015
martoz:

I beg shut up ur most,wu tel u say na only u knw all dis....hv read most of d pua books,z it d game or Venusian art...buh dis z d best guy hv ever seen,I dey fel Tedy,he s teachn niaja settngs...so shut up most...com here I go teach u...go neg naija babe,and c bad result u go get.

I'll just ignore ur ignorance
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by bentoochi: 2:50am On Dec 31, 2015
xxxtedyxxx:
So we kick It off wit FMAC....FMAC is an acronym for Find Meet Attract Close.

Find-- dis is basically d part where u av to look for the chick, be it online, or one-on one

Meet- dis is d part where u open the chick.. Or say hi. A simple line I crafted myself dat works all d time is "" hey..hi..I av seen u arnd a few times, but we a avent met...am <insert ur name here>"" #smile...u can move ahead from there. Note its ur dilivery dat matters..u may or may not use d same exact words.u can frame it arnd to sth dat suits you.

Attract -- this is d part where u ease her and make her relax using different methods. Humour,buying temperation,teasing,role play etc

Close- this is d part where u get her contacts or u move the convo to a different location. Closing can also mean s**x too. So it all despends on your time constraints.

Note..u don't av to be Goodlooking...Just be LOooking GOOOD.

op i jst asked a girl out and still waiting for reply wat if she say no wat ar the should i do to convincer to accept ma proposal.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by martoz(m): 9:18am On Dec 31, 2015
jmaxjohn:


I'll just ignore ur ignorance
I no dey fight u,atleast jex appreciate d little work dis guy z doing,he z trying...wel,its nice seeing many pua dey naija too...my favorite pua z David deangelo,gambler and Neil strauss,we can sarg togeda nw or compare game...give me ur numba.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by jmaxjohn(m): 9:21am On Dec 31, 2015
#sighs#
Didn't condemn his work, did i? If i previously did, den i take it baq. He's doing grt, honestly. He's my 1st meeting with a naija pua nd he's awesome.
Xxxtedyxxx, ure grt, keeping it real since 2013.


martoz:

I no dey fight u,atleast jex appreciate d little work dis guy z doing,he z trying...wel,its nice seeing many pua dey naija too...my favorite pua z David deangelo,gambler and Neil strauss,we can sarg togeda nw or compare game...give me ur numba.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by donklint86: 11:54pm On Dec 31, 2015
xxxtedyxxx:
. Goin the open ended route is easy, with a little practice u will become a guru. Here is how it goes. Holding a convo with a girl involves some little verbal tools techniques of which two are paramount. 1)teasing 2) humour.
Before we talk about teasing/humour, let's get a good view of interesting topics u can discuss with a girl. From fashion,to romance,sex, to school talk, to latest trends, love life, embarrassing moments, her family,work gists, her sexiness ( hair, face blah blah),to hobbies, relationships, the list is endless.
xxxtedyxxx:
there is a pattern u must follow to hold a convo with any girl. The reason y ur interesting convo with her is going cold is because ur not following the open ended route. U need to know how to ask open ended questions, or make a simple comment sound open ended. Hold on
Thanks boss
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by chidexxy007(m): 3:34am On Jan 01, 2016
happy new year guys.
xxxtedyxxx.. big ups to u, keep it going dude.
jmaxjohn, I dy look u one kin eye but y u no dy chok mouth for this mata nau cos e b like u sabi one or two tinz on top this mata... I for like make we relate guy... watcha say.. OK? check my signature..
all d other PUAs making this thread boom.. more grease to ur elbow.. keep it coming guys
may we all achieve bigger tinz this new year.
HAPPY BLESSED YEAR.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by WHIZKIDEFE(m): 10:18pm On Jan 01, 2016
Compliments of the season to all hre.. This page number though.. *clears throat*
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 4:32pm On Jan 05, 2016
Compliments peeps. Today's lecture will begin by 5pm. Watch out for the updates. Bigups to everyone here keeping this thread hot.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 4:33pm On Jan 05, 2016
U are mouthed bro
chidexxy007:
happy new year guys.
xxxtedyxxx.. big ups to u, keep it going dude.
jmaxjohn, I dy look u one kin eye but y u no dy chok mouth for this mata nau cos e b like u sabi one or two tinz on top this mata... I for like make we relate guy... watcha say.. OK? check my signature..
all d other PUAs making this thread boom.. more grease to ur elbow.. keep it coming guys
may we all achieve bigger tinz this new year.
HAPPY BLESSED YEAR.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by vizier007(m): 5:10pm On Jan 05, 2016
xxxtedyxxx:
Compliments peeps. Today's lecture will begin by 5pm. Watch out for the updates. Bigups to everyone here keeping this thread hot.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:26pm On Jan 05, 2016
For guys having issues with holding a chat/voice convo, try and master these: teasing,humour, and asking open ended questions. That way you won't run out of things to say. Don't forget you have to start with attraction first, before u can rapport, den finally,stage 3-where u go for what you want.(Your mission)
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:32pm On Jan 05, 2016
If you don't have a plan, you will keep making the same mistakes over and over. That is why girls give you the ultimate "k". Follow a pattern. For attraction,use teasing and humour. You are in a bus with her, and u see her opening her purse.

You can say
" nice purse tho, hope ur paying for two? "

"Yea. Check it well, am sure u av enough money to pay for the two of us" smile..

The key is keeping simple with a smile. Delivery is key. This is teasing. If you gauge your approach properly, its gona work for u. Don't rush it.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:39pm On Jan 05, 2016
This simply stage one. You try to attract her with teasing before you can rapport. It might seem awkward and socially inappropriate if you skip this stage and ask her a direct question like "what's your name". That's rapport. Don't get me wrong. It might work and it might not. It will in this scenario: let's say your eyes met with hers, and u smile in return...you can follow up with " how u doing babe, what's ur name".

To be on the safe path, don't rush approaches, chill, you are a social guy who is responsible. You are not a robbot. No need acting on impulse.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:44pm On Jan 05, 2016
Making a girl laugh is key, just don't laugh at your own jokes. A smiling face is enough and that unique teasing voice you use when you jokingly talk to your little sister @ home is key. It's no news that girls have a thing for funny guys.
Y u tink say dem like comedians grin

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:49pm On Jan 05, 2016
You transition into rapport when you ask something like
" so what's ur name babe".

Add the babe,dear...its important for her to immediately know you are a socially aware dude. Confidence is key. You can also use.

" So what can I call u..". Don't make your convo sound like your interviewing her. That's what girls don't like. A boring one-way convo.
She is not looking for a job in your company bro...skip the interviews grin

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:58pm On Jan 05, 2016
Conversation with a girl shouldn't be boring. Its a two way thing, just don't interview her, and you are good to go. Don't forget the power of listening. It also applies to social networks/chatting. You can't see each other, that's why proper use of emoticons/smileys is key. Don't ask a question like..... " so how's family" and end with big laughing smiley grin.

So how's family grin.

Just use the normal smiling emoticon or the blush. Some guys will ask a babe. ...."Where do you reside" and end it with big laughing smiley grin. Your passing the wrong message bro. Calm down. Let your emotions/mood be relaxed.

A simple wink is ok.


" So where in Lagos are u hiding naomi?" wink

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 6:00pm On Jan 05, 2016
Keep it light, your not trying to impress her. All you are doing is making your self better socially. This mindset is key, or else your are gona flop. Focus on fun, forget "kpanshin" for now.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 6:19pm On Jan 05, 2016
If you don't care that she loves you, she will love you. Have no expectations. Focus on good convo.

Your in rapport. So get to know her better. Don't start with rapport-(What's your name, where do u stay, what do u do for fun etc) and try to attract her ( make her like u) to u later with love sms or sweet words. It sounds awkward. Attract her first,-teasing humour, nicknames, etc, den move to rapport.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 6:45pm On Jan 05, 2016
In rapport, you can talk abt, family, her hobbies, school,most embarassing moments, dreams/aspiration etc. Its important you don't make your convo awkward. Don't sound like your trying to know her better, sound like you are trying to know each other much better.

And never use this line. "Can I know u better babe".

It sucks and sets her in the mood for boring interview questions.

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 6:48pm On Jan 05, 2016
You wana make your interaction natural, not rushed or awkward. Transition from one topic to another using words like;

Oh that reminds me...

That's cool dear, its just like...

Oh really? U mean its like blah blah


So that reminds me...

Me too,...blah blah

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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by tomzee2(f): 6:56pm On Jan 05, 2016
Thanks for the update am glade you are back nd the thread is not dying like I tut


WELCOME BRUH
xxxtedyxxx:
Conversation with a girl shouldn't be boring. Its a two way thing, just don't interview her, and you are good to go. Don't forget the power of listening. It also applies to social networks/chatting. You can't see each other, that's why proper use of emoticons/smileys is key. Don't ask a question like..... " so how's family" and end with big laughing smiley grin.
So how's family grin.
Just use the normal smiling emoticon or the blush. Some guys will ask a babe. ...."Where do you reside" and end it with big laughing smiley grin. Your passing the wrong message bro. Calm down. Let your emotions/mood be relaxed.
A simple wink is ok.
" So where in Lagos are u hiding naomi?" wink
Thanks for the update am glade you are back nd the thread is not dying like I tut


WELCOME BRUH
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 6:57pm On Jan 05, 2016
She tells you her hobbies.....dancing, reading novels, going out...etc. You have a lot of convo to feed on here, u could choose novels,...and the whole convo digresses into talking about novels,fiction,romance, detective etc...or you can feed on dancing...the whole convo gets stirred towards the latest trends..clubbing etc

But before u reply her, know ur hobbies too bro...

To be continued
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by tomzee2(f): 7:04pm On Jan 05, 2016
What if u have approach her before nd she told u that she have a bf can u still send her love messages nd call her those sweet names like( baby, bae, sweetheart,)
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 7:24pm On Jan 05, 2016
tomzee2:
What if u have approach her before nd she told u that she have a bf can u still send her love messages nd call her those sweet names like( baby, bae, sweetheart,)
your subsequent approach will depend on how you acted wen she told u "I av a bf". If act like its a big deal then your next approach will flop...but if u can say sth like

" oh dts cool,". Den continue the convo..


Or " oh, am not jealous". Immediately continue ur convo, den yes, u can send her messages later. But u can't just send love messages if the foundation of stage 1 is not strong. The love messages will look out of place.

As for the sweet names, dts a must, it improves your bf potential. Say it like u mean it,like a bf would say it, not saying it n laughing.
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by tomzee2(f): 8:10pm On Jan 05, 2016
xxxtedyxxx:
your subsequent approach will depend on how you acted wen she told u "I av a bf". If act like its a big deal then your next approach will flop...but if u can say sth like

" oh dts cool,". Den continue the convo..


Or " oh, am not jealous". Immediately continue ur convo, den yes, u can send her messages later. But u can't just send love messages if the foundation of stage 1 is not strong. The love messages will look out of place.

As for the sweet names, dts a must, it improves your bf potential. Say it like u mean it,like a bf would say it, not saying it n laughing.
thanks bruh tho I don fuckup having giving her too much Space without calling nor chatting, but when she told me that she had a boifrnd I just said the same thing u told me( am not the jealous typ) after den I slow down drift away from her. But we chat 2day nd I told her I will be coming to their area( they stay far from me 300 from my place to hers) nd she said ok. Now will it be okay if I resume the calling now nd how to go about it when we meet( mind you we have never talk in person I only saw her once nd she saw me too before I left their area den my friend sent me the number nd I did the runs true chatting nd calling)
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by calcus(m): 10:08pm On Jan 05, 2016
evening bro... dia z dis babe in my area, in fact, she's my neighbour. we've never talked for over 5years now. i talked to her two days ago and she gave me her number, so i called her that i wana see her. the problem now is what to say n hit her fast because am leaving that area soon and wont be back until november
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by martoz(m): 12:06pm On Jan 06, 2016
xtedy,u r realy sumtin...monster legend..if u were born n abroad,u wud hv bin competing with pua masters lyk mystry,neil straus,deangelo,savoy,gambler..etc.hv bin tryn dis pua,no b beans o..cos it takes courage....for u to reach dis stage u must hv WORKHARD...even true d dreadful approach anxiety,which still ma little prob...a time I always fel lyk d whole eyes on me...dat has been ma fuckin prob....pls enlighten me from ur experience baba Hw to get pass it...cos u r now ma naija pua master..I beg teach ur student..
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by vizier007(m): 1:33am On Jan 07, 2016
A little something on approach anxiety. .

Approach anxiety is normal, it's the feeling your body gives you when yo take risks.. it originates from the same part of the brain that's stimulated when you do things like riding a roller-coaster or riding a motorcycle for the first time.. It's a sign that you are moving out of your comfort zone.. in short it's the body's way of making sure we are safe by remaining in our comfort zones (ur brain starts generating all sorts of excuse not to approach )..

What to do to overcome/reduce approach anxiety..

1. just go out and talk to anybody u see around be it the old man just passing by, the woman you are buying from, the salesgirl, the okada man, anybody.. just say hi if u can't talk to them for long.
if it's someone you can talk, just strike a conversation and keep it short.. Talk about things going on in the country, ur state, ur town, ur school, ur department. ..
This will help you to get over the fear of talking to strangers. .

2. Approach without expectations : forget about what she's going to say or think about you, forget all the 'ifs',what if that is running through your mind, stop thinking about what you want to say ( this is where the 3 seconds rule helps), just go and talk to her without expecting anything from her (forget what you want to do to rhe girl)..
give ur opinion about what she's doing, about something happening around you .. DON'T GO WITH THE MINDSET THAT SHE'S THE GOAL, JUST GO IN AND HAVE FUN..

3. plan your approach : once u are comfortable with talking to strangers and ppl of the opposite sex, you can start planning your approach. what you want to say, how much time you want to spend and so on..

4. Don't take rejection as failure, take it as FEEDBACK.. learn from your mistakes and improve yourself. you cannot dictate the outcome of your interactions with other people. the person might be having a bad day or just antisocial. so it's not always your fault .

5. PRACTICE. practicing biulds confidence and it also brings about improvement. dont quit because you are not getting your desired outcome. when practice continously u definitely improve.

And ABOVE all, always have a smile on your face ☺...

you can check pages 1-12 for more info and some great examples on how to start a conversation given by xxxtedyxxx

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