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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by broswilli: 4:04pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
aaronson: I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM So how has ur contribution solved her problem identified by other nairalanders as virgi... |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by prince088: 4:14pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
@ op. To be candid..some virgins do experience this problem. While in sch my gf was experiencing the same thing. But she later adjusted and started even asking for it. Same with some of my other girls. With time as u sex on...u will get free and start enjoying it. Let your husband get a lube and get it well oiled before trying to penetrate....have a lot of fore*play..try to ease ur mind away form the pain. I'm sure at first u get all wet...but as he tries to penetrate u loose interest and start getting dry cos of the fear of pains. With a good water based lubricant....you should be fine and with time u won't even need it again. I promise you when u start enjoying it....he will be the one to start running. Love that man...he tried waiting up to 5months. Wow!!!! |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by unmask: 4:16pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I would hate to be married to you o....five months?.....what the hell did you do on your honeymoon?.....anyways do what rachel did with jacob, or sarah with abraham.....get a concubine for your husband, probably you seeing him shagging another would help you overcome psychological fear......You could also watch "Hairy pvssy and the socerer's rod".....it would help set the tone...... 1 Like |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Alexk2(m): 4:20pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM u re very wrong, pls...dont turn d bible upside down to justify a sin. pre-marital sex is wrong morally and a sin to God. the starndard of God isnt change yet. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Omadachi(m): 4:22pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Your first point of call should have been to see a medical specialist . |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by joy4fa: 4:28pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
4get this long story nd advice.beta visit a gyno. and knw what is wrong wit u.i am 23yr and a mother of two kids thats my suggestion.visit a clinic. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by baralatie(m): 4:41pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
joy4fa: 4get this long story nd advice.beta visit a gyno. and knw what is wrong wit u.i am 23yr and a mother of two kids thats my suggestion.visit a clinic.thank u 4 dat advice.al this nonsense 4rm som ppl. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by heilige(m): 4:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
A lot of fore-play is needed here. Fore-play will make you get dripping wet. Thereafter penetration will just be like hot knife going through butter. Tell your man to do a lot of pre-intimacy with you, before attempting to penetrate. You should be sexually ready after the forepaly. * Please inform us if this method works. It sure will work. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Empress2013: 4:54pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I actually understand your plight! I went through the same thing. What you are going thru is normal for a virgin. What you will do is simple: allow your husband to have sex with you often. Though it might be painful for a while, but with time you will get use to it. Don't stop sex for a long time cos if you do, the place will heal up with scar and you will experience the same pain again. Pls don't be discouraged. With time you will be very Good in it. I followed all these and they worked for me. Shalom |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Kanwulia: 5:00pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
If your problem is as severe as YOU CLAIM, what stops you from consulting a GYN for a well-needed hymenectomy? WHY MUST YOU SUFFER NEEDLESSLY? Sounds like your CONGO has grown DEVILISH HORNS AND TENTACLES! Unfortunately, you may be scarred for life. It is all in your head now, and you can NEVER learn to relax! Sad to say. Your marriage might be DOOMED! NIGERIAN men are soooooooo fascinated with virginity AND NEVER THE LEAST PATIENT OF ANIMALS when it comes to SEX!!! Expect your husband to take off after all this drama. All the best ma! |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by peterson4u: 5:04pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I have never commented on nairaland but as sumone who went through similar experience wish to contribute to this thread. First of all, its really a blessed thing to have preserved ur virginity till marriage if ur a christian. Secondly, i think ur husband has a big role to play as he is the one to run the show if he is experienced except if he too also married as a virgin. He needs to do alot of caressing and romancing to get u prepared before the main penetration. Thirdly, i also agree with those who also encourages the use of water based lubricants for smooth penetration especially if ur man is well endowed. Seeing a gyna should be a last option. Today, my wife and i enjoy sex tremendously and now carrying my baby. It will be ur turn soon. Best of luck. 1 Like |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by goldbearer: 5:11pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Having read your story, Step one I can tell you nothing is wrong with you.You've given your husband the best gift of marriage.I got marriage in August this year to a virgin too.Really I can tell you , it not an easy task tell someone ,you not going to experience any pain its all lies, but your hubby has a lot of job to do.Tell him to go online and read more about intimacy .So far you guys don't see sex as a sacred issue that is only meant to be in the bedroom.tell him to talk really dirty very dirty,spanking.... .Get yourself really relax having shower before . Likewise babe you need to read some books about get your hubby really honey and wanting more. Step two Lot of pre-intimacy really does help ,watch romantic movies ,tell him to send you very funny and sexy text messages during the day when you guys are at different location. Let him be in control and you just forget about being in control (this was a big issue with my wife ,I can recollect she even slap me because she can't bear the pains) but what I did was to get her really relax starting kissing her ear loops ,deep throat kissing and lots of kissing around the neck ,next to the fingers ,down to navel and now back to the gorgeous twins slow kissing for the nipples .Really after all these, she is looking for my stick ,already she is so wet that i have to start playing music to reduce her sound. but rather for me to penetrate I still just stay outside. Step Three.(main Koko) [b]Penetration is painful [/b]but babe you hubby needs to be really slow and gentle at the tip of the sweet blossom ,if you don't mind get some water based lubricant (But I must advise it does really help ,you need to be natural ,he might not like it but he cant complain). Most important thing is having good sex, which you can achieve by trying to ignore the pain and tell him to grind you gently ,lot of slippery insert and withdraw really helps my wife.he should not rush trying to get full penetration .for the next few weeks he should get it half way and withdraw and insert back gently with lots of kissing over your body. Finally stop missionary position and try all possible position. Give it to him everywhere,I mean at any position and location (Kitchen,corridor,toilet any position that permits) your dinning table is an asset use it well. Finally Dont let ppl tell you ,you got problem you are doing fine I mean it I'm really very long and loaded my wife is always afraid and shaking in bed before we marry but right now I'm running for her she want it even in the car now .She love it because I was gentle and ready to bear the pains too. Babe likewise pray too .Stop the idea of bedroom is for sex. Sex is good when u have it everywhere it helps the married to because u cant stop laughing when u remember what goes on at every location in you house.babe just endure the pain and lets him be in control. Check http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide Please note this was How I helped my wife.its of my own opinion . pardon my grammer 2 Likes |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by ufobabe(f): 5:17pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
my dear, i had dis problem too when i got married. I cry sometimes during intercourse becos of d pains. We deviced a means dat worked. He will finger me for a long time and finally penetrate wit d help of a lubricating oil. We engaged in sex more regularly becos if he dont do it for 2days, my v wil close up again. All dis while i wasnt concern abt orgasm. I jst want to satisfy him. He wil position me wit a more painful style just to open me up. All i did was to bear and tell him dat he is d best sometimes in tears. Not too long i became pregnant, normal sex wit pains continues bt lesser pain. Gradually, i started attaining orgasm during romance wit me ontop nt during sex. Now, i hav put to bed and he is expected to stay away for 6wks atleast. When we hav to resume sex, i hav closed up as usual. We used d oil once to open it and today, am free. He browses my site as he wishes. I can attain orgasm a thousand times without stress now. Child birth will help u a great deal 2 Likes |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Gudsyd(f): 5:50pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
With all these gud advice,i pray tins wil wrk out beta 4 u n ur marriage.gudluck |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Lawalemi(m): 5:56pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
The size of his cocck might be[color=#000099][/color] the cause |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by ManTiger(m): 6:01pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Are you that young oR? Is your husband Yerima? You need a small Love Machine to practice and in the absent of Love Machine, i can render some assistance, send me a pm. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by victorazy(m): 6:03pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Go for exercise like jugging, running, walking everyday. Get involve in bicycle ride etc dats all. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by kennethisland: 6:10pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Please pray and fast with your husband for just three days, the rest will be history. The Master Healer must definitely touch you. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Kalemba1: 6:10pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Allow him romance u̶̲̥̅̊ very well, u̶̲̥̅̊ will get wet den he can penetrate u̶̲̥̅̊ smoothly |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by ceejay80s(m): 6:17pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
bumdish: Though I hate to comment on the sexuality/politics section, I am compelled to drop a few lines here.and u call this script a few line |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by kpolli(m): 6:18pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
It's because you got disvirgined at an old age (after 23)..... You see why guys are running from virgins Just kidding |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by InvertedHammer: 6:38pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Mary_John247: The solution to your problem is simple: No doctor visit required. Lubricating Jelly....KY Gel. Available at your nearest pharmacy shop. The thing will go in singing lullaby...and your "V" will be whistling away in ecstacy. Simple solution my dear. 1. He should start off with kissing, touching, licking....this should get you wet 2. He should wet his "mamba" with good amount of lubricating gel... you can lubricate yourself too. (Vaseline cannot do it!!!) 3. Penetration will be a walk through the park. Thank me later. Patiently waiting for an invitation to the baby naming ceremony in 10 months |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Acelifted: 6:40pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Use KY-gel (ask in any pharmaceutical store and don't be shy). Its acts like a natural lubricant that relaxes the virginal area. Apply everytime he wants to penetrate. With constant use, the vulva should eventually relaxes. This is not going to ruin your marriage. It is well. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Reachyrich(f): 6:43pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by amoisi: 6:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
@op I can understand what u are going through.I got married as a virgin sex was painful and not enjoyable considering all d hype we hear concerning sex. I continued to endure,but after having my first child it became a different ball game.it was as if something just opened up in me. So pls don't feel bad or different it will get better as long as u have plenty love for your hubby and an open mind,the possibilities will remain endless. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by maybel(m): 6:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I understand perfectly what u're going through because my wife went through the same before now. We were told to use lubricating oil before sex and we used it but the pain was still there. In brevity,we were able to surmount this problem when we tried these: (1) We made sure we had pre-intimacy (very serious romance) for atleast 20 minutes before sex-could be more. After the pre-intimacy, penetration is made easier as she's already wet. (2) Regular sexual intercourse (atleast 3 times a week). You will soon get to a point where penetration may not require pre-intimacy as your thing should begin to obey the law of elasticity. Remember,mutual dependence is required to overcome these challenges. Ask your husband to bleep u REGULARLY,it is his responsibility. And whenever he calls, dont say,honey am tired. Try these and you will never remain the same. Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 7:04pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Go c a doctor |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by tobpel2: 7:08pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Lady , What is wrong wt both of u, I guess u must be a xtian as u abstain before marriage, marriage is not. all about sex, like u have said that u have done it barely some months into ur marriage, u people should be xpecting pregnancy and after child birth, sex will be very easy, then there wll be room for penetration. Be careful |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by biopat(m): 7:33pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
vicishow:U r looking for who to buy ur gbogboloshe.... Abeg OP, don't mind this guy. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by biopat(m): 7:35pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
vicishow:U r looking for who to buy ur gbogboloshe.... Abeg OP, don't mind this guy. Go jejely C doctor. Dat doctor couldn't solve d problem doesn't mean all others can't solve. Find a doctor who is experienced in dat field. I wish U Well. |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Effiwizzi: 7:43pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
IF YOUR HUSBAND HAD INSISTED YOU BOTH HAD SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, YOU WOULD HAVE TOLD HIM NOOOO! ITS NOT DECENT BLA BLA BLA, DON T WORRY WHEN WE ARE MARRIED , I WILL GIVE IT TO YOU ANYTIME , ANYWHERE AND AS MANY TIMES TIMES AS YOU WANT IT AND JUST MAY BE YOU SAID IT IF YOU WANT TO BE SINCERE TO YOUR SELF ND NOW LOOK WHAT IS HAPPENING. THAT MIGHT MAN MIGHT BE REGRETING NOW. BUT TOO LATE. i HAVE HAD A SIMILAR ISSUE HENCE MY COMMENT AND I M SO THANKFUL THAT I ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP AND DATED ANOTHER WHOM I FINALY MARRIED AND HAPPILY MARRIED TILL DATE. BABES ALLOW PERSON TEST HIM SHOE SIZE B4 HIM BUY AM PLSSSS. 1 Like |
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 7:47pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
TV01: @ OP, you appear to have a great union and this is merely a challenge to be overcome. You are in the best setting and with the right person to do just that.Much respect. Good to see you again, bro. |
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