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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by juman(m): 2:24pm On Dec 30, 2013
The money belong to the wife to be, it should be given to her.

Anyway the money is always small amount of money.
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:26pm On Dec 30, 2013
If they try that return bride price thing with me, I will tell them to marry their daughter. I don't need badluck and witchhunting in my marriage abeg. Marriage is for life, they shouldn't be expecting their daughter back, she's no longer theirs.
Anyway, I know my money will be going to the South east so no worries.

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by femi4: 2:28pm On Dec 30, 2013
nekaa: cause the money is too small to be used for anything actually....















Before you start barking and biting; I am a yoruba gal smiley
For where?
Nneka
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by gratiaeo(m): 2:28pm On Dec 30, 2013
Orikinla: I hope Igbos can learn from the Yorubas.
Look @ them morons! Return of bride price is practice in Igbo land since time immemorial. I am a witness

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by duni04(m): 2:29pm On Dec 30, 2013
Yoruba gals are very low in demand so guys end up paying almost nothing for them as bride price. That's why d money is eventually returned. Igbo gals are high in demand n low in supply, that's why their own bride price is high. Its simple economics smiley

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Nobody: 2:29pm On Dec 30, 2013
Mr. Lecturer don't say what you didn't even know not to talk of understand
Chaleeee: If I hear say Igbo man return the money!!!!!! Yorubas do not sell their children unlike the igbos. From Yoruba weddings I have witnessed, the average bride price is around N10,000 coupled with yam, fruits and other little things.

My Igbo neighbor has 5 girls and he's always saying he's sending them to sch so that he can use their bride price to buy land and build a new house. The price range can be ridiculous at times.... so families even ask for cars and landed properties in choice areas. Marriage shd be a thing of joy, not a money making avenue
Mr. Lecturer don't say what you didn't even know not to talk of understand
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:31pm On Dec 30, 2013
felzylix: Cos they know for sure their child is not worth the price been paid
*just trying to b honest

More like they are trying to play safe, knowing their daughters' tendencies grin
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by ChristyG(f): 2:33pm On Dec 30, 2013
duni04: Yoruba gals are very low in demand so guys end up paying almost nothing for them as bride price. That's why d money is eventually returned. Igbo gals are high in demand n low in supply, that's why their own bride price is high. Its simple economics smiley
who is dis moronic poster.why are u pple so dense and stupi.iid.so in u idiotic mind,u ave made sense abi?btw only few yoruba families do it and not all.u can keep u dumb economics to urself

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by IYANGBALI: 2:33pm On Dec 30, 2013
Toks2008:

Yes very compulsory for virgins only
thank God I am still a virgin. My own na pounds him go pay and na me go chop am as him go chop me
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by ChristyG(f): 2:34pm On Dec 30, 2013
Duke_Nija: If they try that return bride price thing with me, I will tell them to marry their daughter. I don't need badluck and witchhunting in my marriage abeg. Marriage is for life, they shouldn't be expecting their daughter back, she's no longer theirs.
Anyway, I know my money will be going to the South east so no worries.
blah blah blah,no one cares

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 30, 2013
Dolly-Parton:


Dumbass

Amu to kwa gi na your somethinggrin
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by nekaa(f): 2:37pm On Dec 30, 2013
femi4: For where?
Nneka
yea, mixed race mixed tribe
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by IYANGBALI: 2:37pm On Dec 30, 2013
duni04: Yoruba gals are very low in demand so guys end up paying almost nothing for them as bride price. That's why d money is eventually returned. Igbo gals are high in demand n low in supply, that's why their own bride price is high. Its simple economics smiley
no wonder we have a lot of them doing ashewo work in hotels,they are really in high demand

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Toks2008(m): 2:39pm On Dec 30, 2013
IYA NGBALI: thank God I am still a virgin. My own na pounds him go pay and na me go chop am as him go chop me

Na you biko.

I am proud to pay my wife's bride price because i am guilty. Though she was not molested o,but she consented to the act but believe me, how sweet will it be for men to pay monetary bride price on their wives knowing they are guilty as in they are the man who defiled her. But unfortunately, we now pay a bride price that another man should be paying.
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by IYANGBALI: 2:39pm On Dec 30, 2013
Christy G: blah blah blah,no one cares
gbam,tell the hediot

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:39pm On Dec 30, 2013
smurfy:

I think the return-the-bride-price trend started among some yorubas when they saw what the Igbo men were saying and doing to their expensive wives.

It's not about the money but the honour it brings.

Again, I repeat, I will collect BP for my daughters.

I don't think it has anything to do with the igbos. Because I'm very sure the igbo's will never make a culture alteration based on what the yoruba's are doing wrong or right.

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by gratiaeo(m): 2:42pm On Dec 30, 2013
IMO bride price are outrageous unlike other part of Igbo no wonder their woman hardly marry. I hope they will one day lower their bride

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:45pm On Dec 30, 2013
Christy G: blah blah blah,no one cares

You cared! You quoted me. E pain u abi? tongue

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by gratiaeo(m): 2:45pm On Dec 30, 2013
duni04: Yoruba gals are very low in demand so guys end up paying almost nothing for them as bride price. That's why d money is eventually returned. Igbo gals are high in demand n low in supply, that's why their own bride price is high. Its simple economics smiley
You are dump! Very unfortunate you don't even know culture and tradition in Igbo land
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:46pm On Dec 30, 2013
IYA NGBALI: gbam,tell the hediot

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by ChristyG(f): 2:49pm On Dec 30, 2013
Duke_Nija:

You cared! You quoted me. E pain u abi? tongue
hehehe broda ode,i mean no one cares about d tales by moonlight u are ranting about,ur money may as well go to niger republic,we are discussing yoruba here and not ajeokutamamomi.

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Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by maasoap(m): 2:51pm On Dec 30, 2013
Mine was returned too. Telling us that their daughter wasn't for sale. And to think that it was included in the list of items given to us. I think I like the practice, even in our family, we don't collect it.
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by henryobinna(m): 2:52pm On Dec 30, 2013
if the reason is cos they dont want it to be lyk they're sellin dia daughter, its good...yea
www.legitstuffs..com
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Validated: 2:54pm On Dec 30, 2013
maasoap: Mine was returned too. Telling us that their daughter wasn't for sale. And to think that it was included in the list of items given to us. I think I like the practice, even in our family, we don't collect it.

However, you spend more in Aso Oke, Party, bride mother and family dressing, etc. At the end, it is just flash!
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Iykeponti(m): 2:56pm On Dec 30, 2013
Good idea by Yori-yori pple, cuz most of their women r very ugly -,- giving dem away 4free is really cool.... Once again dey got it right... Kudos....
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by meforyou1(m): 2:56pm On Dec 30, 2013
In igboland, bride price is also returned. Goes this way -both families may haggle all dAy about the price. May end up agreeing 5k or 10k, when it's paid, the bride family will take N125 which is the actual bride price and return the rest to the groom family.
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 2:57pm On Dec 30, 2013
Christy G: hehehe broda ode,i mean no one cares about d tales by moonlight u are ranting about,ur money may as well go to niger republic,we are discussing yoruba here and not ajeokutamamomi.

Little wonder why parents no longer accept dowries all in the name of not selling their daughters. Looking at the way you and that Kid called Iya Ngba have been spewing your saliva all over this thread insulting people's opinions show you both lack good morals and tact to make good wives. Why won't yoruba parents protect their kids when they know they are giving out vipers to unsuspecting men.
If you are hurt that my money will not be coming to the SW, then work on your attitude. And pls stop quoting me. I'm not marrying you!
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by wilbase: 2:57pm On Dec 30, 2013
This bride price is normally final rite of the African traditional wedding, however some people tend to return it based on what has happen to someone closed to them in the past.
you can call a woman your wife in my place if the family return the bride price( without taking one kobo from it). She is just a mere girlfriend then. hence she is allowed to sleep around and no ripple effect on her. but when the bride price is collected no matter how little, she cant have the thought to going outside. the effect of that action is usually bad. hence the reason why no edo man get married to a woman with out in-law taking something from the bride price.
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Waspy(m): 3:00pm On Dec 30, 2013
IYA NGBALI: thank God I am still a virgin. My own na pounds him go pay and na me go chop am as him go chop me
Taaah! lipsrsealed
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Toks2008(m): 3:02pm On Dec 30, 2013
Validated:

However, you spend more in Aso Oke, Party, bride mother and family dressing, etc. At the end, it is just flash!


This is because yorubas follow the Abrahamic culture that does not lay any emphasis on monetary bride price but expensive gifts.

Genesis 24:52 "When Abraham’s servant heard what they said, he bowed down to the ground before the Lord. 53 Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother. 54 Then he and the men who were with him ate and drank and spent the night there"

57 Then they said, “Let’s call the young woman and ask her about it.” 58 So they called Rebekah and asked her, “Will you go with this man?”

“I will go,” she said.

59 So they sent their sister Rebekah on her way, along with her nurse and Abraham’s servant and his men. 60 And they blessed Rebekah and said to her,

“Our sister, may you increase
to thousands upon thousands;
may your offspring possess
the cities of their enemies.”

61 Then Rebekah and her attendants got ready and mounted the camels and went back with the man. So the servant took Rebekah and left.

Lovely
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by Princess4eva(f): 3:02pm On Dec 30, 2013
[quote
author=ichidodo] Because they are scared of the Groom
demanding his money back after a few months knowing how ***** yoruba
ladies are these days
[/quote]


I beg your pardon, how are Yoruba ladies these days?
Re: Why Do Yorubas Return The Bride-price To The Groom's Family? by DukeNija(m): 3:03pm On Dec 30, 2013
wilbase: This bride price is normally final rite of the African traditional wedding, however some people tend to return it based on what has happen to someone closed to them in the past.
you can call a woman your wife in my place if the family return the bride price( without taking one kobo from it). She is just a mere girlfriend then. hence she is allowed to sleep around and no ripple effect on her. but when the bride price is collected no matter how little, she cant have the thought to going outside. the effect of that action is usually bad. hence the reason why no edo man get married to a woman with out in-law taking something from the bride price.

The truth is as long as the Father gave out his daughter to the Groom, their marriage is acceptable before God and man. Bride price is not a must, its just customary.

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