Are you in a relationship that is going
south? Are you dreading the moment
when you know you'll have to break up
with your girlfriend? Breaking up is never
easy, but neither is staying with someone
you don't love anymore. Here are some
quick and simple tips to help you break up
with a girl. Just remember: be thoughtful
and aware of what this girl is going
through, and that will make a huge
difference.
Breaking Up with a Girl
Find a legitimate reason to break
up with her . You need a reason to
break up with her, even if your
feelings have simply changed and
she hasn't done something
wrong. When you're in a
relationship with someone, you
owe it to them explain yourself.
You'd want a reason if you were
being broken up with, wouldn't
you?
Here are some common reasons
that people break up with one
another:
**Cheating**. A relationship is
between two people. Three's
a crowd.
**Disrespect**. Your partner
doesn't treat you the way
you know you should be
treated.
**Manipulative relationship**.
Your partner manipulates
you to get what she wants.
Falling out of love. You
realize, after time, that you
don't have feelings for her
the way you used to in the
beginning.
**Distance**. The physical
distance between you two
makes it hard for a
relationship to happen.
Find a quiet, isolated place free of
distractions . Breaking up in
person can be really hard, but
again, you definitely owe it to her.
Where you do it can be virtually
anywhere — a room, a park, or a
schoolyard, so long as there's not
much to distract you while you
break the news

Be calm and reassuring. Breakup
speeches can escalate or go
wrong in so many different ways.
The key is to stay calm, put
yourself in the other person's
shoes, and try not to "win" the
argument. She'll probably counter
with some other facts; she may
even call you names. (You probably
would, too, right?) Think about
what she has to say, don't lose
your temper, and try your best not
to make her feel bad.
If you're genuinely sad that
you're breaking up, and you
think it might comfort her,
show some gentle affection. Ask
her if you can give her a hug;
put an arm on her shoulder;
look into her eyes and offer her
a heartfelt smile. These gestures
can go a long way toward
reassuring her in a tough time.
Talk to her, but keep the
conversation short . She might
have questions; answer them
truthfully. She might have a
different side of the story she
wants to tell; listen to her. Let her
get things off her chest.
If you notice the argument
going in circles and circles, tell
her gently: "I know this is hard,
but I feel we're just going
around in circles. Can I give you
some time to think about it?"
Offer her the opportunity to
discuss things at a later time.
Say something like: "I know this
is a lot to process at once. It is
for me, too. Maybe you want to
talk about it a bit later when
emotions aren't going
everywhere at once?"
Follow the list of "don'ts." There
probably isn't a breakup
"protocol," but there are definitely
things that you shouldn't do when
breaking up with anyone, no
matter who they are to you. They
include:
Don't lead her on. If you don't
think it's a good idea to stay
friends after a breakup, say so.
It's better than giving her false
hope.
Don't be a tattletale. There's a
saying "loose lips sink ships."
Well, it's not that serious, but
what happens between you
and her is no one else's
business. It's okay to tell your
good friends, but don't go
telling everyone every single
detail of the breakup.
Don't get with someone else
before you break up. That's
what is called cheating. Have a
little bit of patience and wait
until you've broken up if you're
in love with someone else.
Don't use the breakup as an
excuse to treat them badly.
Whatever they might have done
to you, it's honestly not worth it
trying to make their life hell.
Have respect and treat them the
way that you'd want to be
treated. It'll make the breakup
easier on both of you.