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Why Do ‘nice’ Ladies Get Dumped Easily? (part Two) by ODION777(m): 8:21pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
THE ‘NICE’ LADY VERSUS THE ‘CRAZY’ ONE Dear Nairalanders, for those who saw my PART ONE as a good read, you are appreciated. For those who tongue-lashed me, well, no comment; for those who have got the free eBook, share your experiences; for those who have not got theirs, get yours by sending your email address to unclelucky123@gmail.com. It is strictly for above-18 ladies! Now, let’s get down to business! “Without tension, without anxiety and suspense, there can be no feeling of release, of true pleasure and joy. It is your task to create that tension in the target, to stimulate feelings of anxiety, to lead them to and fro…” Robert Greene WHO IS A ‘CRAZY’ WOMAN? Let’s adopt OUR own definition for the purpose of this PAGE, not the literal meaning. Read the points below to grasp this ‘special’ usage of the terms ‘crazy’ and ‘nice’. A crazy woman is not afraid to command respect or stand up for herself. She shows her partner that she should be respected. She’s not rude or insulting, but she will never compromise herself in a relationship. She’s ready to respect and honour a man but will never be his servant. She is confident, honest, and very frank. A man can never take advantage of a ‘crazy’ woman; she will put him where he belongs. She is not perfect and doesn't pretend to be. She is a happy girl whether single or married; whether engaged of without a boyfriend. She is not desperate and doesn't wear a “marry me” tag on her forehead; WHETHER SHE IS 18 OR 38. She is able to control her emotions, as well as her mouth. She’s not quarrelsome. She doesn't attach to a man too soon. She’s intelligent but she doesn't flaunt it unnecessarily. She doesn't need a man’s approval to live her life and be herself. She is not easily predictable by men. Her lifestyle is not monotonous; she’s full of surprises which gives her an aura of mystery. She can function on her own, and this makes her sexier than the rest. And, she is not needy or dependent, even financially, so from the get-go, she doesn't appear like a burden to a man. She is never afraid to lose a man, and so, she doesn't lose herself. A crazy woman does not nag, rather she shows you by her actions that she’s not to be toyed with. She knows what to do on her first date and how to manage her phone conversations with a man. Her dressing is not too revealing yet she is sexier than the scantily dressed ‘nice’ girl who is trying hard to ‘catch’ a man. She knows when to say NO and when to simply walk away; YES, WALK AWAY! THIS IS DIFFICULT FOR ‘NICE’ LADIES. Whether you give her compliments or not, she knows her self-worth and carries herself well. She loves herself. She knows what to do or say (or what never to say) after sex with her man, she knows how to reignite the sex spark and rekindle the fire. A ‘crazy’ woman knows that the road to a man’s heart is not only through her stomach or sex. When a man doesn't pop the question, she knows what to do. When a man takes her for granted, she knows what to do. She doesn't have to speak in perfect English but she knows when to open and shut her mouth. Most times, she thinks like a man when dealing with men, and this doesn't stop her from acting like the lady that she is; and this challenges men mentally which in turn makes her sexier. She is not your normal girl, no, she is simple but ‘crazy’, an attribute that keeps men off-guard. She is all these and many MORE. WHO IS A ‘NICE’ WOMAN?[b][/b] It is very easy to define a ‘nice’ woman, the one we are referring to here. She is just the direct opposite of the crazy woman. She appears too perfect (which is boring), she needs a man’s approval to live her life; she nags her way out of every relationship; she appears desperate and therefore becomes a prey in the hands of the bad guys. She’s unnecessarily talkative, in trying to press home her demands, and this turns men off. She dresses to kill, showing a lot of skin, which makes her to be tagged “sex-only object”. (Men will still look at her, try to get her to bed, and gets ready for another loose, desperate, ‘nice’ woman!) As Robert Greene admonishes, being too “nice…however, though it may at first draw someone to you…soon loses all effect. Being too nice can literally push the target away from you.” That’s a turn-off! She’s so artificial! She puts all her cards on the table even during the early days of the relationship and this gives the men a sort of ‘expo’ on how to MANIPULATE and nail her. She is always sweet and agreeable. She can always compromise herself just to please a man. A man disrespects her and she apologizes, just to keep him; she is too obsessed with the fear of losing him that she ends up losing herself… and the man. She thinks the best way to catch a man is through his stomach and underneath his pair of boxers so she wears herself out TRYING TO provide them. (How sad!) She condones a man’s excesses hoping she would change him eventually. (Really?) She always flops on her first date with a man because she tries too hard to please him. To a ‘nice’ woman, the guys always have the upper hand. She can’t control her emotions, and she always needs reassurance to live her life. She has got no surprises, too doting on the man, and becomes a bore easily. According to Sherry Argov, the author of Why Men Marry Bitches: “A smart, together guy won’t build a life with a woman he feels doesn’t have her feet firmly planted on the ground. Men do not marry ‘little girls’ type because they don’t want to feel like they are adopting a young child. The only reason men like silly women is so they can take advantage of them – in the short term. A quality guy worth his salt wants a partner who…can handle things when he’s not around.” In another part of the book, she tersely stated, “the fastest way to become boring to a man is to always ‘do as you are told’.” It follows therefore that men are intrigued by a woman who has her own way of doing things. We admire them secretly and we hang on to such women. So, dear friend, if he slaps you and you condone it, you are a ‘nice’ woman. Your relationship is about two years old, you have not seen anybody related to him, and the guy is blowing hot and cold, YET you don’t think something is wrong? You are too nice! …TO BE CONTINUED! (From Part One of the eBook: “Why Men Dump ‘Nice’ Ladies And Go After Crazy Ones”) Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional; nothing is cast in stone. COMPLIMENTS OF THE SEASON 1 Like |
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