If you want to transform yourself from being
single, to self-confident and in a long-term
relationship in no time at all, there are five
simple steps you should follow:
1. Change Your Mindset.
2. Become Desirable.
3. Socialise And Flirt.
4. Date Women.
5. Choose A Girlfriend.
Step 1: Change Your Mindset
This step helps to change the way you think
about getting a girlfriend, women in general,
your own looks and competition from other
men. You should:
Not come across as 'being desperate' to get
a girlfriend. By not appearing 'desperate',
women will be more comfortable in your
presence.
Know it's your responsibility to start
conversations with women, not the other
way around.
View women differently. They aren't
superior to you, meeting them is something
that should happen naturally and they don't
like being picked up.
Not worry about whether you consider
yourself to be good looking or not. Your
looks are only a small part of your overall
package that you can make attractive to
women.
Not worry about competition from other
men. You can become more competitive
(desirable to women) and start going to
places where women outnumber men.
Step 2: Become Desirable
To become desirable to women, this step is
about getting your own life sorted out,
developing a sense of humour, having a
positive attitude to life, improving your
physical appearance and becoming self-
confident. You should:
Get your own life sorted out first. This
makes you more attractive to women
because they know you're independent and
won't be relying on them for you to have a
life.
Work on your sense of humour. Most
women consider this a must-have in a guy.
Work on developing a positive attitude to
life. Like a sense of humour, most women
consider this to be an important quality in a
guy.
Improve your physical appearance. Pay
close attention to your grooming, smile
more (genuine smiles, not smirks), dress
nicely and stay in shape.
Build up your self-confidence. The last thing
you want to do is appear insecure (or even
scared) when talking to women.
Step 3: Socialise And Flirt
This step is about building up your confidence
to successfully socialise with people, and
importantly, talk to and flirt with, women. You
should:
Overcome your fear of rejection. If a
woman doesn't want to talk to you, no big
deal. It usually has nothing to do with you
personally - so don't take it personally!
Know the two important signals women give
out - 'leave me alone' signals and 'come
over' signals. In any social situation, the
combination of these signals will determine
the approach scenario you're faced with.
Meet people instead of just women. You
never know who you might get introduced
to when you have a large network of casual
connections!
Know the different conversation strategies
and in particular: how to make the right
opening comment, listening for 'hooks'
during a conversation and being able to
confidently handle 'awkward silences' when
they occur. Also be aware of the most and
least preferred discussion topics for women.
Know how to create sexual interest when
flirting, be selective when flirting,
understand the do's and don'ts of flirting
and choose your flirting locations wisely.
Step 4: Date Women
This step is about helping you understand and
master the dating game. You should:
Know why dating is important. It builds up
your self-confidence, improves your
chances of finding a girlfriend, enables
better selection of dating locations and
results in improved 'first impressions'.
According to girlschase.com, know how to
ask a woman out and get a yes. Strike while
the iron's hot, don't make asking her out a
big deal, ask her out on a high note, pick a
simple date idea and make sure you handle
the rest.
Know the important do's and don'ts of
dating, particularly if you're new to the
dating game.
Know how to tell if your date is interested
in you and if she is, what the first-time sex
etiquette is.
Step 5: Choose A Girlfriend
This final step helps you to choose an ideal
girlfriend and make your relationship
exclusive. You should:
According to charmingoo.com, use a '10-
point ideal girlfriend' checklist to see if a
woman you've been dating would make an
ideal girlfriend for you.
Still unsure? According to the article 'Best
Girlfriend - Tips For Choosing The Right
Girlfriend' by Rohan Ray, use a 'six types of
girlfriends to avoid' list to confirm your
choice of girlfriend.
If she passes with flying colours, know how
to make your relationship exclusive. This
can be done using either an 'unspoken' or
'spoken' approach.
And lastly, enjoy spending time with your
new girlfriend.
In conclusion, there are five simple steps to
getting a girlfriend faster: 1. Change Your
Mindset, 2. Become Desirable, 3. Socialise And
Flirt, 4. Date Women and 5. Choose A
Girlfriend. By following these five simple steps
and the strategies underpinning each, you too
can be transformed from being single, to self-
confident and in a long-term relationship in no
time at all.