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Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by promisechild(m): 8:28pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Op I feel you pains but the truth is that stopping masturbation is not a easy thing to do especially if one is addicted to it even deliverance no fit stop am I was also an addict of masturbation I have tried all my power to stop it but I still find myself doing it again You can't stop masturbation without replacing it with another act This is what I did to stop masturbation I got a girlfriend and fu*ck her when ever am in the mood I visit ashewo joint to fu*ck ashi when am in the mood I started hating self Servicing and put an end to it finally now I don't think about doing it again Am not advising to fu*ck ashi but it helps me clear off the mood if my babe isn't around 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Nobody: 8:40pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
I strongly belives in d, word 'determination', in wc they says leads to success. Just as self servicing is harmless so also is its addiction harmful. No best way or ways as to quiting can be more effective than a single action word 'stop'. U ar in d best position to tell Urself stop . I dnt blive dat I cant stop wot I started. Talk to Ur flesh, command it , U ar its owner it doesnt own U so it must'nt control U. If U ar nt able to quit now dat U ar single, U deffinetely can not quit wen U finally gets married and I guessed U wouldnt be needin Ur wife to do it for U then. My Dear , the best advice is the one given to U by Urself, to Urself and for Urself. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by prosperanyi(m): 8:50pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
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Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Tonylyte(m): 8:57pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Use loko\chinese balm to self-service ya self, ya life wil trans4m. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by phiszo(m): 9:07pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Go Get a girlfriend. 100% effective. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by ITbomb(m): 9:47pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
phiszo: Go Get a girlfriend. 100% effective.Terms and conditions apply. Sometimes people are not willing to sacrifice their freedom for the life of a demanding fvrkmate aka gf |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by STUNTS007: 11:27pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Chapter 25 How Can I Conquer the Habit of Masturbation? “I began masturbating when I was eight years old. Later I learned God’s view of the matter. I felt terrible every time I gave in. ‘How could God love someone like me?’ I asked myself.”—Luiz. WHEN you reach puberty, sexual desires can become particularly strong. As a result, you might fall into a habit of masturbation. Many would say that it’s not a big deal. “No one gets hurt,” they argue. However, there’s good reason to avoid the practice. The apostle Paul wrote: “Deaden, therefore, your body members . . . as respects . . . sexual appetite.” (Colossians 3:5) Masturbation does not deaden sexual appetite but fuels it. In addition, consider the following: ● Masturbation instills attitudes that are totally self-centered. For example, when masturbating, a person is immersed in his or her own body sensations. ● Masturbation causes one to view those of the opposite sex as mere objects, or tools, for self-gratification. ● The selfish thinking that is instilled through the practice of masturbation can make satisfying sexual relations in marriage difficult to achieve. Rather than resort to masturbation to relieve pent-up sexual urges, strive to cultivate self-control. (1 Thessalonians 4:4, 5) To help you to do that, the Bible recommends that you avoid circumstances that might arouse you sexually in the first place. (Proverbs 5:8, 9) Still, what if you have become enslaved to the habit of masturbation? Perhaps you’ve tried to stop but without success. It would be easy to conclude that you’re a lost cause, that you’re incapable of living up to God’s standards. That’s how a boy named Pedro viewed himself. “When I relapsed, I felt terrible,” he says. “I thought that I could never atone for what I had done. I found it hard to pray.” If that’s how you feel, take courage. Your case isn’t hopeless. Many young people—and adults—have overcome the habit of masturbation. You can too! Dealing With Guilt As already noted, those who have fallen into the habit of masturbation are often plagued with guilt. Without a doubt, being “saddened in a godly way” can give you the incentive to overcome the habit. (2 Corinthians 7:11) But excessive guilt can be counterproductive. It can make you feel so discouraged that you just want to give up the fight.—Proverbs 24:10. So strive to put the matter in perspective. Masturbation is a form of uncleanness. It can make you a ‘slave to various desires and pleasures,’ and it fosters unhealthy attitudes. (Titus 3:3) At the same time, masturbation is not a form of gross sexual immorality, such as fornication. (Jude 7) If you have a problem with masturbation, you need not conclude that you have committed the unforgivable sin. The key is to resist the urge and never to give up your fight! It is easy to become downhearted after a relapse. When that occurs, take to heart the words of Proverbs 24:16: “The righteous one may fall even seven times, and he will certainly get up; but the wicked ones will be made to stumble by calamity.” A temporary setback does not make you a wicked person. So do not give up. Instead, analyze what led to the relapse, and try to avoid repeating the same pattern. Take time to meditate on God’s love and mercy. The psalmist David, who was no stranger to personal weakness, stated: “As a father shows mercy to his sons, Jehovah has shown mercy to those fearing him. For he himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust.” (Psalm 103:13, 14) Yes, Jehovah takes into consideration our imperfection and is “ready to forgive.” (Psalm 86:5) On the other hand, he wants us to put forth effort to improve. So what practical steps can you take to conquer your habit? Analyze your entertainment. Do you watch movies or TV programs or visit Web sites that are sexually stimulating? The psalmist wisely prayed to God: “Make my eyes pass on from seeing what is worthless.”—Psalm 119:37. Force your mind to focus on other matters. A Christian named William advises: “Before going to bed, read something related to spiritual things. It is very important that the last thought of the day be a spiritual one.”—Philippians 4:8. Talk to someone about the problem. Shame might make it difficult for you to bring up the matter to a confidant. Yet, doing so can help you to overcome the habit! That’s what a Christian named David found. “I talked privately with my father,” he says. “I’ll never forget what he said. With a reassuring smile on his face, he said, ‘You make me so proud of you.’ He knew what I had to go through to get to that point. No words could have lifted my spirits and determination more. “My father then showed me a few scriptures to help me see that I was not ‘too far gone,’ and then some more scriptures to be sure I understood the seriousness of my wrong course. He said to ‘keep the slate clean’ until a certain time, and we would discuss it again then. He told me not to let it crush me if I relapsed, just go a longer period of time without giving in the next time.” David’s conclusion? He says: “Having someone else aware of my problem and helping me was the greatest benefit.” IN OUR NEXT CHAPTER Casual sex is no casual matter. Find out why. [Footnotes] Masturbation is not to be confused with involuntary sexual arousal. For example, a boy might wake up sexually excited or have a nocturnal emission of semen. Similarly, some girls might find that they are stimulated unintentionally, particularly just before or after their menstrual period. In contrast, masturbation involves deliberate sexual self-stimulation. For more information, see Volume 2, Chapter 33. For more information, see Volume 2, pages 239-241. KEY SCRIPTURE “Flee from the desires incidental to youth, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace, along with those who call upon the Lord out of a clean heart.”—2 Timothy 2:22. TIP Pray before urges become strong. Ask Jehovah God to give you “power beyond what is normal” to cope with temptation.—2 Corinthians 4:7. DID YOU KNOW . . . ? Any weak person can give in to his or her sexual urges. But it takes a real man or a real woman to display self-control even when in private. ACTION PLAN! I can keep my mind on things that are chaste if I ․․․․․ Instead of giving in to the urge, I will ․․․․․ What I would like to ask my parent(s) about this subject is ․․․․․ WHAT DO YOU THINK? ● Why is it important to remember that Jehovah is “ready to forgive”?—Psalm 86:5. ● Since God, who created sexual urges, also says that you should cultivate self-control, what confidence must he have in you? [Blurb on page 182] “Since overcoming the problem, I can keep a clean conscience before Jehovah, and that is something that I wouldn’t trade for anything!”—Sarah [Picture on page 180] A fall while running does not mean that you have to start over—nor does a relapse with masturbation erase the progress you’ve already made *** yp1 chap. 25 pp. 178-182 How Can I Conquer the Habit of Masturbation? *** Young people Ask Volume 1, Published by Jehovahs witnesses.. or visit Jw.org for more information. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by adde: 11:43pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
promisechild: Op I feel you pains but the truth is that stopping masturbation is not a easy thing to do especially if one is addicted to it even deliverance no fit stop amWierd, but true talk. OP just sieve out the best answers you feel are practicable. A starting point is to know that you are not alone. If God were to open your eyes, you'd be suprised how many people are advising you and still yet find it hard to break the act themselves. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by emekaD3(m): 12:35am On Jan 05, 2014 |
op i found something for you! go here http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Ichel: 12:53am On Jan 05, 2014 |
pheamy: I started masturbating when i was in secondary school in 2004, then i was a playboy in my area but it got to a point that i no longer derive any sexual pleasure with my girlfriends.Op, why u want stop? Now wey i wnt join d gang huh? Anyway, no P, i'll occupy till u come. Jst remember, once a member, is always a member. Tanks |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Ruq: 3:39am On Jan 05, 2014 |
What is A, 28 days aint freakin enough mehn. I tell you even if he doesn't do it after 90 and gives it a shot once that is some crazy relapse. There're are lot of vital points given here but that determination must never be of radar and even if it does track it back. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by MDMA: 7:18am On Jan 05, 2014 |
bknight: Well, realizing u need to stop it is the start of the redemption. You were going gay! Dude you get bad mouth. And you are as ignorant as a dumb dog. Both gays and straight people masturbate. You have no idea about how the world works. Waka cover your face in ashes. Odee 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by djeezy(m): 7:48am On Jan 05, 2014 |
@Op, it's now a habit. A habit is easy to form and hard to break. Self servicing is like a pill to relieve anxiety, stress, depression and tension and it does, but like every other drug or pills, it does have side effects, one which is extreme guilt. Well if you want to quit, you must be determined to. Emcumber every access to Indecency sites, videos, and perhaps what you stare at outside. Identify the trigger or stimulator, and then indulge in new activities like sports, hanging out with friends. Recreate your mind and what you always think about and lest I forget, avoid staying alone, always stay in the company of friends so as not to have the opportunity to self service, for instance if you're a student who lives alone, get a room mate. Goodluck. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Lordsonempire(m): 8:19am On Jan 05, 2014 |
Dannylux: U are right. Is a spiritual attack. I av seen many people been delivered in synagogue. He need to visit there. Ur way out has come. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by Dubemkelly(m): 12:38pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
The 1st solution to a problem is identifying what the prob is n now u have identified it,d prob is half solved....ur prob is addiction n all u need do is stop watching porns, try not to stay alone,get ur mind obsessed with productive things n things which are not canal, always tell urself dat u r a changed person n u don't have to do that any longer. |
Re: I Want To Stop "MASTURBATING" But I Don't Know How. Help! by TFLAME(m): 12:41pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
I would advice you to stay away from p-o-rn and and pornographic image or website , - always find something to do anytime you are idle - always stay around people. ( Don't stay alone ) - get a GF ( its important ) - then pray Cos this shiii will kill your er-ec-tion |
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