Lifted123:

Quite interesting.

zeb04: Well lifted this is ur 7yrs of marriage we are talking about here,if you tink it ok to throw it away cz of someting she did b4 u guys were married,is up to u. Mayb divorce wil b better atleast u won't give her the guilty look and make her life miserable cz of something very litlle nd pls don't tel me u ve gone 4 therapy to look for solution. The solution is in u,if u are ready to let go, u would bt clearly u don't want to cz u want her to feel guilty always. Bt pls don't make that woman's life miserable cz of ur childish atitude.

Lifted123:
If the Gestapo officers tried for the holocaust after 50 years were Nigerians, I am pretty sure they would gotten have away with mass murder.

thegoodjoehunt: What matters is that your wife still loves you. She made a mistake and realised her mistake.

Don't give yourself an excuse to walk away from your marriage. Love is a battle because of challenges that shakes it. Put the past behind you and truly forgive her. Also console her.

Even married couples make mistake and still forgive each other and move on. Let alone before marriage. Goodluck.

Lifted123: The original post was placed on another forum in a Western country and the comments were quite the opposite. I want to believe I can make deductions from this as a basis for understanding value systems in Nigeria as against another western country.

There is no hope for our dear country Nigeria. The things that are unacceptable in other climes or morally are so deeply rooted in our psyches. We as a people do not understand the importance of responsibility or even accountability.

Ballotti: Origyinor post don disappia ni?

bellong:

I couldn't get to read your initial submission but read through people's comments to have an idea of what you posted. All I can deduce is your wife offended you prior to tying the knot which you discovered late, for that you plan to divorce her.

I may not have contrary opinion to what other posters have advised but I have to completely disagree with the crap you wrote up here about the country being hopeless. How can you arrive at such a conclusion based on the little issue you had with your wife? If you have problem with unforgiveness, does that mean everybody should tow that path?

Your analogy of the Nazi holocaust is quite opposite and at variant with overall picture of your own scenario. If we are to go by your claim of western country's moral uprightness, Hilary should have divorced Bill a long time to mention only one of numerous cases.

Bro, stop comparing Yam with Banana..

Lifted123:
Sorry you quite misunderstand the analogy. Nigerians do not believe in accountability and the duration and circumstances of events affects our view of issues. That is what I meant. The holocaust was war and war is no child play so one could excuse the excesses of the nazi. Even till now, nazi war crimes are still being punished. get it now?

Lifted123:
Yes dear, because it has already served its purpose