Sometimes i ask myself,do i really embark on dis trip?I've being raised by my mum my whole life and i just want to embark on this "identity Search" cos i'm gradually becoming a man and you need a man to teach you how to be a man.I really need to,and most of all i need someone to talk to, that's why i'm doing it online.

but u've not stated any information that pple can use to help locate your dad,or that your dad himself can see to identify/find you.
Name,location and all,
peeps would be glad to help you out as long as its true

Go for it,  if he's willing you guys can build a good relationship together and it could be worthwhile. How does your mum feel about it, mine was against the idea so i would like to know your mothers reaction. Thanks.

henrydan:

Sometimes i ask myself,do i really embark on this trip?I've being raised by my mum my whole life and i just want to embark on this "identity Search" because i'm gradually becoming a man and you need a man to teach you how to be a man.I really need to,and most of all i need someone to talk to, that's why i'm doing it online.

First off,You dont need a man to teach you to be a man.Many have done well in life with just their mum around them.
If you feel deep within you that u want to see your dad,you have the longing to meet him then i wud advice u to go look for him.happy searching.

I wish u luck friend and pray your search ll be worth the time.Its good to know ur roots.There may just be some untold stories and its not good to live in assumptions and imaginations for a life time.whatever is the outcome of the search,I encourage u to embark on it

doe

I've found u

You ok?

forget it u dont need any fada,

idupaul:

forget it u don't need any fada,

I know your not serious?

U can't speak for him.

Poster it's better to find out now than spend your whole life wondering maybe even regretting.

@ poster

if it were me I would say screw him for abandoning me for almost 2 decades. I would make something of myself and ensure that my children get all the attention they can from me when I do have kids. However it is not me and I don't know every detail of your situation.

A father looks at his son and sees the boy he once was. A boy looks at his father and sees the man he will/can become. It's the fathers job to show his son how to become that man. Sadly many boys have no men to look to.

boys need fathers, otherwise what's the point of them making the child in the first place?

If you provide details there might be people who happen to know the other side of the story, and your dad, here on nairaland. You never can tell. I'd say go for it. You've nothing to lose, and a dad to gain.

OP is a bastard.
Oya na, someone should confirm their poor education by countering my fact.