hi guys, need help on this one. been dating a girl for about a year now and i really do love her, she means the world to me.
problem is, there's probably no future in the relationship 'cos we have this genotype thing working against us. we've talked about it and we're both reluctant to quit the relationship just yet.
are we being fair to each other by remaining in the relationship?

Neikid:

are we being fair to each other by remaining in the relationship?

No. I'm sorry for your situation though

I have to agree with Karma. You are not doing yourselves any favors in continuing this relationship. You are going to have to do some tough love and leave.

@ poster

Sadly, the answer is No. I would advise you to start break up proceedings immediately. Genotype mismatch is definitely a risk not worth taking. Marriage is hard work on its own, talk less of adding the discomfort of raising sick children with that. Please, there is nothing to think about. you need to act fast.

there's no way to work around mismatched genotype, topup

unless they wanna risk having a sickler as an offspring. No person should willingly do this in the name of "love"

Hang in there bro. Science has made things easier unless of course you still live in Nigeria. You can easily determine your unborn baby's genotype and decide to terminate the pregnancy before its born. I say go on soun, enjoy ur woman.

thanks for your replies. we actually tried breaking up once but she completely broke down and i mean really, really down. i didnt particularly feel good about the seperation either, so we found our selves back together again. mmnnn.

I know exactly how that feels when a relationship breaks down, my relationship broke down and we both broke down and then got back together and got married! Now we are so happy. But with the genotype thing, it can work but you have to be prepared to cover the expense of having a lot of medical intervention to prescreen any developing baby at foetus stage for if it has sickle cell (if this is the issue) and be prepared to abort. This will mean you have to be committed financially, commited emotionally and be prepared to only be able to afford a small family (or perhaps no children worst case. Or you can go with the grace of god and pray all will be well but then you have to face the realities of what may happen if you have a child with sickle cell.

Me and my husband have one son and he is a carrier of the sickle cell gene so I know that one day he may have this dillemma, me and my husband are just lucky that only one of us carried the gene. All best wishes.

When did you find out the Genotype stuff ?Your decision to call it off is wise,but you dated someone for I YEAR (365 DAYS) (and the relationship was headed for the brickwall _{and you knew it)}
What a waste of precious time.

If u love yourselves truly, then the genotype shouldn't be a problem.

Yea let her keep aborting the wrong foetus til they hit the right one

You people arent serious.

There are other ways to have babies. Dont give up on true love because of Genotypic difference.

KarmaMod:

Yea let her keep aborting the wrong foetus til they hit the right one

You people arent serious.

its a 25% chance. Besides she will be aborting (if she has to) well before the second trimester.