idocare:

I agree with you when you say there are all kinds of reasons people use others;
I believe my ex reason was denials he received from the embassey the times he
tried to come on his own. Back then I didn't know much about immigration and
how some other countries want to be in America. I didn't know that your passport
is stamped every time you attempt to migrate and I really didn't know that his last
attempt to migrate the moral way was denied within a very short period of him
wooing me to the alter.

Well I guess ur case is different and can be perceived clearly as a case of marriage scam; but u must also accept part of the blame for not doing your due dilligence on the issue before getting married.


Actually I feel that any man that can plant and seed and stay around long enough to name it then abandon that seed without knowing how the seed is sprouting has some serious issues within themselves, especially if they continue to call themselves religious, there's nothing holy about marrying for greencard benefits and planting a seed that they know they have zero intentions of sticking around for.

People that have done that to others may be laughing now and having a good time talking to family and friends about how the whole scam played out, but they just don't realize that they are also telling them that they care about nobody but themselves and could at any time also scam them. Just as they can turn there back on the children they create; they must find it equally easy to do the same to the other family members as well.

Many people are still too embarressed to talk about being a victim of a marriage scam
however I've always been one to be honest and call it what it is.

I'm still wondering if that's how professionals act in my ex homeland Nigeria, do they go after what they want at the expense of hurting others, I'm wondering if his family is ashamed of what he's done or if they're high fiving him for all the hurt and pain that he has brought on me and his son, or do they even realize the deptness of the situation we all find ourselves in.

I can categorical tell you that no one will high five anyone for abandoning his family; especially his young child, and there is no need for generalisation- Most professionals in nigeria wont behave this way; most professionals on decent pay will get visa to Uk or US easily; also i wonder why a medical doctor who is doing well in nigeria will go to that extent to leave the country.

between- Marriage scams is not only perpetuated by anyone country; it involves citizen of every, UK & US citizen included. I wonder sometimes at the premium people place on "greencard" that u may end up losing or being chased for alimony paymentsfor the rest of ur life

idocare:

Your giving bad advice sistawoman. He will still be breaking the immigration laws. He may find himself in a very bad way for trying to evade immigration rules. He just might get caught-up and have to leave the country in handcuffs for his deeds.

Although there may have been many in the past who were successful in breaking the law, there has also been many that have been put out of this country for being dishonest and shipped back to their own country in shame.

I believe that our immigration unit is getting wiser to the tatics of some Countries in their persuit of a greencard.

iamdnegro, try to come to America the honorable way; don't do as others have done and disgrace your family.

CIwu:

Im a african american woman married to a Nigerian we have a mutual loving relationship, but found recently that he is out of status, should I be a little suspicious