Sex is the least he can do for being a loser.

i didnt even see the spot where she talked about enjoying the sex.
why women choose to open their legs to just about any irresponsible fellow who comes across their path is beyond me. No wonder you find it so hard to walk away. The guy is probably just enjoying the sex and the money until he makes it and moves on with one with firmer boobs.

ppl are saying this and that, but don't you think at one point she made it seem okay for him to ask her for money? I mean maybe she was carried away with the sex part, she wants him so bad she didn't care about what she has to sacrifice for pleasing her. And now i think she can't take the burden she created for herself, now its hard to move on after realizing she just can't keep up ( so its a complicated story), did you ever asked how the whole "buying his family things just to prove big girl", Thats what she tried to portray and she got caught up in the games. You can't blame either of them, They knew what they both were doing !

LMAO The sex must be pretty good cause she don't want to leave him alone.

davidylan:

why women choose to open their legs to just about any irresponsible fellow who comes across their path is beyond me. No wonder you find it so hard to walk away. The guy is probably just enjoying the sex and the money until he makes it and moves on with one with firmer boobs.

So true.

Oya, Stephen, why are you always agreeing with David sef?

Oya, talk ya own or comot form the thread. follow follow

Well he's said all I basically wanted to say.

I don't know about the rest of you ladies, if the sex is real good and I never have to fake it, I don't mind footing the bills but for how long?

DaPhoenix:

I don't know about the rest of you ladies, if the sex is real good and I never have to fake it, I don't mind footing the bills but for how long?

ROFL!! That definitely caught me off-guard. Well, thank you for being honest, hopefully, you don't end up in the same dilemma of the poster.

By the way, when should I submit my resume and recommendations from the girls who've a piece of "Da Chocolat"?

There's no where on the original post that the poster even acknowledged that the man has a private part.
Let's not jump to conclusions
there are still many unanswered questions


_{or did I miss that part}

Oh yeah she did, it's on the first post in bold.

Maybe I didn't mention one little detail. He is really good in bed    LOL  maybe that's why I still hang around I don't know.

Then why are we wasting our time advising her ?
she's getting her money's worth
why is she complaining ?

_Queenisha:

Then why are we wasting our time advising her ?
she's getting her money's worth
why is she complaining ?

this post sef!

KarmaMod:

Sex is the least he can do for being a loser.

I agree. What else is the guy useful for? You might as well just make him a lock-a-away man. Just have your fun with him, then lock him away. I mean there is no way in hell I could even be in the presence of such a lazy human being. I mean utterly a disgrace. How do you call yourself a man when you behave like a teenage boy? I mean this just baffles. I mean you aint even married yet, he acting like this. God forbid I married a guy like this. Might as well set up a room for me in the asylum cause im going to go insane.

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joichi:

Hi nairalander,
[b]Do I love him? That I do not know[/b].
Maybe I didn't mention one little detail.  He is really good in bed   LOL  maybe that's why I still hang around I don't know.
No yaps, snide talks

You don't know if you love him, so, keep paying for the sex.
BTW, with a yarn like this, snide remarks are inevitable.

and you say ladies dont have "chicken brain"

By now I am sure every one has told you to leave his sorry ass. By staying you leave the impression that you can't do any better than this man. You sound like someone secure in herself and intelligent. Drop the bum. Find someone who respects you and himself.

,

uhm, silver or gold i av none but wat i av i give to thee, rise up and walk-out!
just kidding, good thing you spoke out about wats bothering you.
your maturity will be judged by the decisions you take
cos they av positive or negative implications about your future
i hate to say this, but i guess you feel age is on your side (heck, it actually is at 24! you can still afford to enjoy the guys sex!) but ask me baby, time flys, you'r youthful, upwardly mobile, you need a compliment
so wats ur focus? future? family? a good home? i'm afraid you aint thinking abt these for now?
i hear the guy discourages you from acquiring a car!? dats ridiculous! wat type of guy is he anyway? and you too wat type of babe are you too?
the key to success in life is to discover who you are, and live up to it, nobody will do it for you, its by self discovery.

Just keep fuccking till you get a replacement, but please dont put your hopes on him at all , if he has he might probably forget about you and at the end you will feel the pains, just fucck if that is what u want, just fucck, dont spend your money on him, he should be ashamed of himself, to me these are men that take young girls for granted always trying to impose them selves on the ladies. When next he ask you for money just tell him you've spent it on your family, do it for some months and see if he is still there claiming he loves you, but if he quits just know he was there because of the money, i have been in this position before, and God knows i will never be in this type of position again.

@poser, i think you have really done your best for this guy. He should appreciate all you've done and shoud be in the position to look for a  job. If i were you, i would reduce the amount of money i give him by say 50% and later by 20%. I think if you do this, he wd sit tight and look for job. The job doesnt need to be an oil company job or bank job. It could be a menial job that he could survive with instead of asking him for money always. I do spend for my ex-girlfriend until i decided not becos the pressure was on me and afterthen she left me. So i am just myself , cool and looking for a comforter. I hope it comes

just leave this guy and move on with life
i've had the same experience in the past, that i just av to close my eyes and dump him, his own case is even worse, i'll spend all my money on him yet he's not appreciative.

beny_boy:

hello joichi,ur story is a bit fake(take no offence).hw on hell can a 24yr old be wasting time on a 31yr old,n her reason is sex n a probability of marriage.honestly,i don't believe it.if you rily want to make it in life,dumping his ass shld not be negotiated.i'm happy u hv decided to wake from ur slumba.if u want to meet real guys,bug me a message(beny_boy2k2@yahoo.com).
take kia

for real? i doubt you!

@ topic,

you know what you want and how you hope to get it, one thing i know in life is: NOTHING IN LIFE STAYS THE SAME. It either gets worse or better, this boyfriend of yours, has he got a chance of success in life?  a lot of people are so quick to say dump him cos at 31 he still cannot figure out his directions, everything depends on you, if you cant wait, quit. good you enjoy something in him, life isnt about the money and of course no one PLANS to live a frustrated life, if you feel you are at your breaking point, then quit.

Please understand my plight. I'm not looking for a ready made man. I want someone I can grow wit in all aspects of our lives. But with his financial attitude, I doubt if I can stand it. Maybe I didn't mention one little detail. He is really good in bed LOL maybe that's why I still hang around I don't know.

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Chei ya!!!! Poor Poster.

See amma, I'll give you tips to help you make rightful decision. The issue here is not about how much you've spent on him or how much satisfaction he gives you on bed. Of course, these are obvious benefits of a r/ship and that's what most r/ship anchor on. And it certainly can come from either parties.

Let me quickly remind you that you're not the only one in such shoes, lots of girls are in it and are much more comfortable with it. It depends on what you want now that will also help you in future. Because i believe the answers you look for are futuristic. Now find out these questions:

1. Does your man really loves you to want to sacrifice for your sake? Now, the sacrifice i mean here is not all about money because money isn't every thing. I mean the much interest he shows on things concerning you.
2. Are his vision and goals what you want in your kind of man?
3. Are you comfortable with his features? By his features i mean the way he talks, the kind of friends he hangs out with, his size, looks, intelligence, etc.

If you get your answers (not mine) correct 3/3, girl, i'll advice you stay with him, if not, walk away!

leave the guy and move on with life

@poster,

Babe you can have it all!!!.A lot of rich girls dont enjoy what you are enjoying.
If you leave him hundreds of girls are waiting outside to snatch him.
Have you bought a car for him,have u built a house.abeeeeeeeeeeeeeegg,mechonu.

same situation here, saying he is here looking for a football club, but none yet, spent money on him, a lot. but nt alwiz, i guess it depends on d situation,

like my man, he is husband material, he tries to get money a little at a tym, transportation n all on his own, onli food is normally on me. unless sumtimes i juz feel like buying things fr him den i do it on my own will, not him asking or forcing, i guess once he gets a steady job den dis wud all b over,

but on the other end if u say it has been for long, den my own advice to u is leave dat jerk of a guy, n about him good on bed, errrr i left 3 exbf fr dis guy, he may not be d bomb compared to the others but still satisfies me, so der will b sumone der who is better den him out der, juz let him go, cm out ur coconut shell n open ur eyes n u will find,

wariowei:

Chei ya!!!! Poor Poster.

See amma, I'll give you tips to help you make rightful decision. The issue here is not about how much you've spent on him or how much satisfaction he gives you on bed. Of course, these are obvious benefits of a r/ship and that's what most r/ship anchor on. And it certainly can come from either parties.

The issue here is how comfortable he is with the ‘unfortunate’ situation. He’s out of job, so? No reason for him to let the poor girl spend all her life savings on him and his family. There are a thousand and one guys with no jobs and no girlfriends to rip off and they still survive. Helping him out once in a while is not such a bad idea, but making it a habit That’s absurd. Temporary as it may seem, it might become a habit if not checked.

Let me say something, I’m not against helping your spouse financially, or bearing the financial burden of the family occasionally when he’s down. I’m just seriously worried about the family part. Why should she even spend money on his family when they are not married? She’s his girlfriend for God’s sakes, not his wife. She has no responsibility whatsoever towards his people. She can pay him for the good sex for all I care, but bearing his burden and that of his family? That’s insane!!!

Hannibal, I get all your indignation about the injustice in this an all, but how will you feel if your wife/GF decides she’s getting tired of doing the chores, and you decide to step up as a man to help when she’s down. You clean, wash, cook . .  and all you get is ‘Honey could you add more salt next time??’ ‘I don’t want to eat rice today; I want moi moi’. ‘Sweetie could you please wash my sister’s underwear too?’. Honey aint you going to wash those dishes before we sleep??

Tell me you wont go crazy . .

Your boyfriend is probably using you as an available source of pocket money while he plans for a good future for himself(that future might not include you my dear).

You however have to be sure of what you want out of this whole thing,you said he is good in bed and at 24 should you be paying for a man to sleep with you?
You should look for more important things in a relationship rather than just sleeping with your man.
Try and develop yourself for the future instead of wasting precious money on a manwho isn't ready to get serious.
For instance, where do you see yourself in five years?
Do you imagine yourself married to this man and do you believe he can make something out of himself, become responsible and take charge of the family?
If your answer is yes then you can surely go ahead with the relationship.
If however your mind is made and you feel you are not getting as much as you've put into this thing then i'll advise you opt out.

You must however understand that life isn't a one way traffic.
Things could work out for him someday too.
If really you can make him see reason and settle down to serious life then the better for you two.

Na-waoh!!!!!!

A guy at 31 is not financially responsible and is not ambitious and doesn't see anything wrong in depending totally on you.

And you love him (mostly) based on the sex.

RECIPE FOR DISASTER!!!

@poster

I will advice that you keep tolerating your man, am sure he appreciates u and am sure he doesnt find pleasure asking u all the time. You are only fortunate to get a job. If u guy is responsible and meet all the qualities you want in a man, then i dont subscribe to your leavin him, Money is not a factor of classifying a good man. Things will definately get better.

I will also advice that you be careful how you spend money on his people, that isnt a wise one to do. Try and invest for yourself and your future.

And I am certain that the disrespect you have for him is due to the fact that he is jobless. You should know that everything is in your hands. You knew him better before ascepting the relationship, so you should able to strenghten the r/ship at times like this.

No condition is permanent, no matter how bad the situation is today, tomorrow holds better for the next dude.