Please fellow NLs i need your candid advice on a this personal issue.

It all began after my secondary school years as a school leaver. I had this personal lifestyle of keeping to mysef and maintaining few friends. Some years later i found mysef in the University as an undergraduate. I was very happy like every other fresher and decided to make best use of my time here in the university.

Fast forward!

I tried breaking my personal lifestyle of keeping to mysef just to give love a trail. But that singular action changed my whole life. I had 7 relationships as an undergraduate, out of which only 3 survived the 5h month anniversary. At first i thought it was the ladies fault cos i always advocate and maintained a SEX free relationship.
I discovered that after each breakup, i feel more happy and relaxed over the whole saga as i will always say - she wont say i used her and dumped her. I must mention many occassions that i was called names like deadwood,impotent, gay etc. But within me i knew i was strong and healthy just doesnt wana cave in.

My Problems!

Many years after graduation and serving my country, i have discovered a sudden change of attitude. I find it hard to go for a relationship. I have a close friend in my life now whom from her actions and deeds seem interested, but am scared of losing her like others. I love her now as JUST FRENDS and cannot assure her any committment. I have many close female frends that i hangout with and they seem to make me happy than being in a relationship.

Please what should i do about this frend of mine? Should i go on and start an affair with her hoping things will work out well? Or should i just tell her the truth? Will my current lifestyle really affect me in the future when it comes to marriage?

Live byong ur fear,start a gud relationship with her n try 2 avoid all those tinkz dat makes u brk up with gals

Smh

Overcoming your fear is the begining of your liberation. If you like her, give it a try. afterall, their is no harm in trying. If you dont try, you wont know.