Loving someone who doesn’t love you is one of the most hopeless feelings in the world because it isn’t something you can control. Then again, this isexactlywhy you need to start the healing process: it’s not your fault, there’s nothing you could have done differently, and the only thing left to do is move on
1. Be Honest With Yourself.
How and why you feel about another says a lot about you. How and why the other person feels about us says a lot about them. It is important to let it sink in deeply that the person being loved does not love back. It hurts. Feel it. Allow yourself to grieve. You do not have to know why. Grieving is the beginning of the healing.
2. Focus on the Negative.
Though you don’t need to start a crusade to turn the person you care about into a monster, it’s time to start thinking of some bad things to balance out the good ones.
Accept the fact that this person will never love you back. Too hurtful? The better. The more you internalize this fact and hard wire it into your system, it allows you to remove any false hope that’s within you, making it easier for you to stop loving this person.
3. Get Rid of Mementos.
Make space for a new person in your life by letting these things go. In fact, make a mini ceremony for it. As you go through each item, think of the memory associated with it, then imagine putting that memory in a balloon. As you get rid of the thing, imagine the balloon drifting away never to be seen again.
4. Avoid Memory-Triggers.
If you associate the person with a particular song or album, stop listening. If you always used to hang out in a certain spot, stop going. If you have a lot of mutual friends, make a point of hanging out with other people. If you still see each other regularly, stop if at all possible. (This may be difficult at work or school, but you can start by wearing headphones when they’re around, eating lunch somewhere else, walking along new routes, etc.) Don’t surround yourself with mental and emotional reminders; it’s no substitute for having the real thing and will just delay the healing.
5. Find Creative Ways to Stop Dwelling on the Person.
While it’s impossible tonotthink about something, itispossible to divert your thoughts elsewhere whenever you start to go down that rabbit hole. Every time those memories bubble up, distract yourself with another thought, activity, or project. Call a friend. Watch a hilarious movie. Build something. Work in the garden and anything that will engage you for long enough to get the person off your mind for a while. The more of a habit you make of not thinking about the person, the easier it will become.
6. Think of everything you’ve been missing.
How long have you been in love with this person now? Months? Years? And in that time, how many opportunities for other relationships do you think you have passed up? Remember, the next love of your life isout there right nowwondering when they’ll find you. Don’t waste another moment being unavailable.
7. Get back in the game.
Put yourself out there, meet new people, flirt, and remind yourself how great it feels to be a catch. Your confidence surely needs the boost – and in the meantime, you’ll meet interesting new people. In fact, every time someone is better in some way than the person you’ve been chasing – better looking, funnier, smarter, more down to earth – make note of it. It’ll put things into perspective.
8. Don’t be ashamed of having loved and lost.
In some cases, it can be impossible to stop loving someone, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Loving another person is a beautiful, selfless act, even if it doesn’t result in a relationship. With time, the hurt will lessen, you will become interested in someone else, and you’ll create new love. If there’s anything the world needs more of, it’s that.
9. Keep Looking for Another Person.
It’s good option to keep looking for another person of your match. Sometimes it may take time but you don’t know when fortune takes your turn
10. Good luck

thanks op

You have finally freed me from my Parrot
thanks for the insight.

I don't think it is appropriate to stop loving anyone, regardless of whether they are in love with us or not. I believe the most we should do is stop the emotional involvement because it is quite possible to love someone and not be in a 'relationship' with that individual, thus we can have some other meaningful relationships irrespective of our love for this person.

On the other hand, when we are emotionally involved with an individual, it becomes very difficult, if not a near impossible task, to date and have a meaningful relationship with someone else because more often than not we would find ourselves prefering the individual who our emotions go out to. So for me, the ish is not with love but emotions.

ahnie: thanks op

You have finally freed me from my Parrot
thanks for the insight.

U welcome