Guys how do U solve a situation where U r in same office as ur ex who u culdnt marry because her father refused it, u still feel each other but u r already involved with some one else. Ex cant understand the situation, disregards fathers warning and is still very much on your case - I mean u guys work together, see and connect everyday and this is affecting your new relationship.

u betr hold dat feeling and face ur wife.

@be-nice

I aint married yet. I only started seeing som1 else.

its really kinda diff though, there is alwys this thing btw ex, well, my advice, you'v got 2 be focused, try 2 avoid her since u already kw it cant work,
and pls, dnt even tink of tryn 2 'chop and clean mouth' u go just hook

@tutcy
thanks tutcy, I just noticed we were hitting each other back to back, we seem to both be going thru turbulent times.

as your parent control your life,
plz let the babe be
let her go

@ Opuro
Try and understand my post, not my parent refused, her own father refused, my parents gave us their blessings.

izi-n-bizi:

@ Opuro
Try and understand my post, not my parent refused, her own father refused, my parents gave us their blessings.

there is reason for her father refusal
abi you be osu?

@ Opuro
I don see say you no be serious person.

Wow!! Thats tough. But hey its not your fault, her parents refused _{for God knows why}.

Anyway I think you should make it clear to her that its really over. You could bring your present girlfriend around your office more often. Let her see you are with someone else now and be serious about it. No stealing kisses and looking at her like you still want her oh. Infact no games at all. Except her parents will change their minds, the r/ship is really over. Get used to that.

It's awkward I know, but you guys will get over it.

izi-n-bizi:

@ Opuro
I don see say you no be serious person.

asking you a simple question result to insult?
now tell us the reason the father gave for not accepting you as his son inlaw

opuro:

asking you a simple question result to insult?
now tell us the reason the father gave for not accepting you as his son inlaw

nairaland will kill me
with laughter

@ Opuro

I didnt want to go into that, but if u insist, her father(som kinna pastor) says, he prayed and God told him we we not meant for each other, that we have seperate paths in life, and we would have a turbulent marriage if we went ahead - so did he says God told him.

izi-n-bizi:

@ Opuro

I didnt want to go into that, but if u insist, her father(som kinna pastor) says, he prayed and God told him we we not meant for each other, that we have seperate paths in life, and we would have a turbulent marriage if we went ahead - so did he says God told him.

then what are you trying to do?
wanna undermine God?
abi you are not a believer?
olboy, erase that babe from your life
and let her be!

izi-n-bizi:

@ Opuro

I didnt want to go into that, but if u insist, her father(som kinna pastor) says, he prayed and God told him we we not meant for each other, that we have seperate paths in life, and we would have a turbulent marriage if we went ahead - so did he says God told him.

absolutely ridiculous now I feel ur
pain her father must be really insane
how can he talk to God? makes no sense
I think some medicine man told him that, if you really
love the girl do not give up.

opuro:

then what are you trying to do?
want to undermine God?
abi you are not a believer?
olboy, erase that babe from your life
and let her be!

what do you mean dear? you believe
the father?

i hate when parent get involve in this kind of issue
what da hell is there problem

_{cant wait 4 sum peepz 2 die so life can be enjoyed}

@rokiatu,
it is not what I believe, it is what the guy in question believe
the father told the guy a lie and he fell for it!
he is in a new relationship, and at the same time eying his ex
what is he trying to do?
two timming

@Opuro

izi-n-bizi:

@Opuro
I never sat to talk with the father, she told me what the father was saying, when I went to see him, he refused meeting me and later sent me threatening txt messages to keep off his child - that was when I knew it was serious. OK?

and you left his child for another babe abi?
now if I were you,
I will do anything to keep off the babe and face my new catch
abi you never shag her before you seperate?

opuro:

the father told the guy a lie and he fell for it!
he is in a new relationship, and at the same time eying his ex
what is he trying to do?
two timming

I wouldn't blame the guy much
some in laws can be very very hard to deal with
as for him eying his ex well you know he didn't leave
her so the love for her still exists in his heart

@rokiatu,
if you love a thing you will always be ready to fight for the thing
this guy jumped on the opportunity that the father didn't accept him
and left the babe for another for God sake!

opuro:

@rokiatu,
if you love a thing you will always be ready to fight for the thing

true da

opuro:

this guy jumped on the opportunity that the father didn't accept him
and left the babe for another for God sake!

you are right he was a bit coward
by doing that but then everyone make mistake,
if he really still love the girl then he will learn from his
mistake and go back to win her

rokiatu:

true da

you are right he was a bit coward
by doing that but then everyone make mistake,
if he really still love the girl then he will learn from his
mistake and go back to win her

so that he dissappoint the new babe abi?
if na you be the new babe nko?

opuro:

so that he dissappoint the new babe abi?
if na you be the new babe nko?

don't mind her

rokiatu ,I'm very much disappointed in this ur reply

the break up thing is so easy when u guys are far apart, but Opuro not when u find urselves in same office. actually after the fathers refusal, she left the country for a course abroad for over 5 months during which there was no communication and I got involved again 2 weeks before her arrival.

opuro:

so that he dissappoint the new babe abi?
if na you be the new babe nko?

I would be heartbroken at the start but later
on I will thank God. can't you see he does not love her
he love the other girl and I do not think he can forget her
it is better to have no love then a fake one

jennykadri:

don't mind her

rokiatu ,I'm very much disappointed in this ur reply

really why?

rokiatu:

I would be heartbroken at the start but later
on I will thank God. can't you see he does not love her
he love the other girl and I do not think he can forget her
it is better to have no love then a fake one

really why?

who told u ,he does not love his new girl?he might be infatuated wt d old one  for all we know

how r u so sure that the former is d right one for him?

abeg we all r women,dnt wish heart break for another woman

since they have broken up,why is he going back to his vomit?

roki abeg ,no type again

jennykadri:

roki abeg ,no type again

sorry I have to, I can't swallow what I think

jennykadri:

who told u ,he does not love his new girl?he might be infatuated wt d old one for all we know

from his post I call tell he love the old one better
if not he wouldn't have started this topic anyway.

jennykadri:

abeg we all r women,dnt wish heart break for another woman

ah ah am not wishing her heart break am just speaking
sincerely and giving my point of view _{he can do what right for him}

jennykadri:

since they have broken up,why is he going back to his vomit?

I wouldn't call it a vomit, the very reason he look
back on it shows something

rokiatu:

sorry I have to, I can't swallow what I think

ok,go ahead

rokiatu:


from his post I call tell he love the old one better
if not he wouldn't have started this topic anyway.

says who,is it everybody that opens a thread about ex,that is still inlove wt d ex?   abeg don't put words in d guys mouth

rokiatu:


ah ah am not wishing her heart break am just speaking
sincerely and giving my point of view _{he can do what right for him}

then let him watch it,because u can't just get an innocent girl into a relationship and then dump her for d old one

seriously don't u know that if d new girls lays a curse on him,it will work?

the girls parents don't like him,i saw a thread where u said u love ur mum roki,and wouldnt marry wtout he consent or so

tell me how happy do u think their marriage will be when both parents don't give their consent,for reasons good enough?

rokiatu:


I wouldn't call it a vomit, the very reason he look
back on it shows something

the reason is looking back on it is nothing,gosshhhh sweetie r u so naive?

there was a thread a married woman opened here(queenisha) telling us of her ex,who is trying to come back

this woman is happily married,and does not love d man,does her happening the thread and asking for advises show smthing like u said?

things should be analysed well abeg,d guy opened up a thread for advise,which is very normal ,but the fact that he opened it up does not show or mean that hes still madly inlove wt his ex

@Poster
I think you were too hasty in letting her go.
Even if you were pretending to love her, you ought to have given the father a good run for his money
The way you ended the affair sounds like either of you were looking for a reason to be separated.

Being in the same office, its just about maturity and not allowing your relationship to interfere with your job.
But the best option is that either of you should begin a job hunt right away assuming you are no longer interested in the relationship.
if you truly believe in his father's missionary/religious calling, then there is a reason to leave her.
But if it is otherwise, then there is NO reason why you should leave that girl because you say you love her.

If you ask me, let God forstall that marriage in his own way. if you pray so well about it, one way or the other,
that marriage will be called off in the most divine and stress free manner beyond your own understanding.

Or better still pray well to be with her. afterall, God answers prayers.

jennykadri:


says who,is it everybody that opens a thread about ex,that is still inlove wt d ex?  

no but the manner in which he wrote, I just assume that
he still  love his ex and want her back

jennykadri:


the girls parents don't like him,i saw a thread where u said u love ur mum roki,and wouldnt marry wtout he consent or so

tell me how happy do u think their marriage will be when both parents don't give their consent,for reasons good enough?

yes I wouldn't married without my parent consent but then my own is a different case,
cause I know my mother will not disapprove of the man I love.  

this is life tough times comes, he should not just come to conclusion that the father wouldn't
agree who knows what may happen at least?

jennykadri:


things should be analysed well abeg,d guy opened up a thread for advise,which is very normal ,but the fact that he opened it up does not show or mean that hes still madly inlove wt his ex

and the fact that my point of view is different from ur does not make me
wrong. it is open for advice and that is what am doing, at the end of the day it all
comes down to him he will decide for his self.

You live in a real world hence should realize this is no home video.Well if this actually happened my advice is this.If you have not married then I will advice that you face reality which is the fact that you don't love your second girl enough,if you do you wouldn't be talking about your ex.Remember you and your ex are grown up and should be given the right to choose your life partners which is your fundamental right.Guy wake up before you make a life long mistake.Can you reallly tell your children in future that you loved their mum or that she was a second choice!