Being dumped is hard on anybody. You go through phases when you feel like a loser and doubt yourself. Your self-esteem takes a knock and you wonder what you could have done better, how you could have made things right. If he dumped you because he was seeing someone else, you probably feel even worse. It leaves you agonizing over what she has that you haven’t or the relationship they now probably enjoy that you once did.

But if you sit back and take a good, hard look, you will realize that all these self-doubts are only causing damage to your already fragile emotional health. Instead of looking at where you went wrong or why things didn’t work out, you need to take a different view. Think instead, of why you are better off without him/her and all the complications which the relationship left you having to deal with.

Give yourself something positive to think about and that would involve reflecting on how the relationship was probably no good for you.

Here are some of the top 5 reasons you should be happy that you were dumped.

1. You Can Heave a Sigh of Relief

Heaving a sigh of relief can act as a great release of all that was pent up within you. There are many reasons for you to be doing this. And it can offer a powerful feeling of finally being free. You have to think of certain qualities of his that made you extremely uncomfortable while you were dating. If he/she was the jealous type and got edgy every time you so much as looked at or talked to another member of the opposite sex. Or if he was possessive and wanted you to himself all the time. Or wanted to control you and be in charge of the relationship. Or had a foul temper and would fly into fits of rage. Or worse yet, act abusive if things didn’t go his way. And of course the ultimate torture – if he/she was unfaithful and cheated on you. You can be absolutely sure you are better off and can thank your stars you’re no longer in the relationship.

2. You Don’t Have To Tolerate All His Irritating Habits

You can make a list of all the dumb, exasperating, infuriating or even downright nauseating things he used to do. How lucky for you not to have to watch him pick his nose in public again. Or emit unseemly and impolite noises when in the company of others. And how about all those times he drank too much and started causing scenes in public, which embarrassed the hell out of you. If you can’t come up with enough disgusting traits, you could enlist the help of friends of yours, who didn’t really like him. Indulge in a good session of character bashing and you’ll be amazed at the amount of dirt you dig up. Amarachi, an undergraduate, was crestfallen when she was dumped by her boyfriend of six months. Until she was having a heart-to-heart with her girlfriends and discovered something they had been reticent to tell her before. Brad was constantly coming on to them whenever she wasn’t around. She was mortified, but finally realized how she had a lucky escape from that creep she used to call the love of her life!

3. You Can Find Yourself Again

This is the time to re-establish your identity. Often in a relationship, we tend to spend so much time exclusively with one another that we lose sight of our real selves. In an effort to please, and keep the other partner happy, you may do things that are really not ‘you’ and neglect taking time out for yourself. Get in touch with your needs again. Very often, in an attempt to be together all the time, you might have spent most of your waking hours either on the phone with each other, or meeting, to the exclusion of everything and everyone else. It could also be stifling if your partner didn’t give you the space you needed and was constantly breathing down your neck. Appreciate this time which you now have to get some much desired ‘me’ time and make the most of it. You might surprise yourself by how much you enjoy it.

4. You Can Do Things He Never Wanted You To

Now think of all the things he/she stopped you from doing because it didn’t suit their ideas or interests. You could also meet up with friends that you had neglected or that he/she wasn’t keen on. Or enroll in the art class you never had time for earlier because he complained that you were neglecting him.
And think of this: If it was torture for you, but you did it for his sake, you don’t have to suffer through another soccer match and wonder what all the fuss was about who won or lost!

5. You Can Now Widen Your Horizons

And by that we mean, feel free to check out that pert little brunette who’s been giving you the eye. Or go ahead and flirt with that cute guy without feeling guilty about it. Keep it light and have fun. Don’t get involved in anything intense or serious, after all you’re still getting over one relationship gone sour, you don’t want to get in over your head again, do you? The key is to have fun and revel in your freedom once again.


NOTE: Before it was the guys that do dump girls, but these days girls do dump guys. Although about 85% of dumping in this part of the world is done by men.


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Why wouldn't the women get dumped when all they do is to cheat, gossip, and flirt around?

why do women often cry when they are dumped?

u often hear them say" u think u can use and dump me?"

what do they mean by "use and dump"?

didn't they enjoy all d sexx, money , taking out, shoppings?

just bcs d man is tired of them and wants to move on they start talking of being used and dumped

On a more serious note, its not easy for ladies to get over been dumped, especially if they really love d guy and may was hoping the relationship would lead somewhere.

That is why u hear stories of women committing suicide after been dumped.

I know of a girl that was living around our lodge, she was cohabiting with another male student . They practically lived as husband and wife. The girl did everything a wife does for the husband for d guy. Then she took in, the guy told his campus friends about it at drinking joint, he was advised to leave d house for d babe if she refused to terminate d stuff.
He later cajoled d babe into terminating d stuff and she succumbed.
But d guy dumped her at final year 2nd semester.

Meanwhile they used to call them husband & wife.

so in such instance , its not easy to get over being dumped.
The girl slimmed down.
Her friends asked her to get cultists to deal with d guy, , she refused as she claimed she still loved d guy and that she doesn't want scandals so that her pastor Dad wouldn't get to hear about it in case if d case escalated.

Easier said than done. Go psychiatric go see people wey seriously fall in love and get dumped.

My guy, heartbreak dey pain make we no lie

maxism2: Why wouldn't the women get dumped when all they do is to cheat, gossip, and flirt around?

smh

Didn't u read about the recent new that a 32 and a 23 year old guys killed themselves bcs their babes said they no do again?

Hmm,and so everything seems to be hinging to one angle-its all a burden!! Free bird fly over rainbows!
@bustyhelen:link or Abilivsmall!

P.S a break up no matter how you put it is not pretty, one person gets hurt at the end.

rokiatu:

P.S a break up no matter how you put it is not pretty, one person gets hurt at the end.

Funny pic. True though.

I have used and dumped like 7 chicks 4 their bad habits while some were lousy in bed

nobody can b happy at being dumped

hugelyendowed: I have used and dumped like 7 chicks 4 their bad habits while some were lousy in bed

congratulations

clap 4 urself

People dey brag about their financial prowess;you dey brag about chicks abi na puppies wen you don shagg..oya cum collect award or trophy..

hugelyendowed: I have used and dumped like 7 chicks 4 their bad habits while some were lousy in bed

Long write up!

Dump b4 u get Dumped!shikena!

correct girl

nikkypearl: Long write up!

Dump b4 u get Dumped!shikena!

Do people still have the time to date these days? Meet, straff, move the fvck on. Life's too short

everyone acted oblivious of the op been so stereotype here.. c'mon, guys get dumped too

maxism2: Why wouldn't the women get dumped when all they do is to cheat, gossip, and flirt around?

am sure u r talkn frm experience.....u mean all d women arnd u cheats,gossip n kips malice....den i think u shud change ur environmnt ......dere r gud n beta women outdere...mayb u also need to work on ursef to get a beta one too instead of dos gossipers....

hmmmm....dos 2 months was d most challenging moments of my life....cried day n night....always remembern dos happy moments we had 2geda...just tank God my mum n siblings was dere for me...aldo,he gave me mature reasons y we cant b 2geda..but,still i felt so so wounded...i av dis feeling dat it has made me a beta woman,a stronger one...

No 1 and 2

Aderola15:
No 1 and 2

from experience??

Presh9OO:
from experience??

Yes Sir

Cut the crap! No one likes being dumped no matter how sweet you try to make it look.

Presh9OO:
Lala's first heartbreak..

....Ban

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Catalin:
Cut the crap! No one likes being dumped no matter how sweet you try to make it look.

Lol, it's called rationalization

RB007:



....Ban

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lol... Na true I talk nah

Aderola15:

Yes Sir

lol... The Guy's bad luck... "Sir" is too formal, why not something lyk "Honey-pie"