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What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 9:31am On Jul 24, 2014 |
His wife abandoned him with their two kids and traveled abroad. Hearsay has it that she's hooked up with someone else now. Although they are not legally divorced yet. can he influence her deportation back to Nigeria? Note:he doesn't want to continue the marriage with her just wants to punish her for her wickedness. Is there a way to get her deported? |
Re: What Should He Do? by pickabeau1: 9:41am On Jul 24, 2014 |
What do you think? as a friend of the person I think he should move on and forget about her When time is due, legally divorce .. cococandy: His wife abandoned him with their two kids and traveled abroad. 2 Likes |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 9:58am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels. Because she cleaned him out financially before she left. He sold his shop,the land on which it was built and his car. Paid the money into an account they were supposed to use on getting there not knowing that all along she's been planning with the agent to get the visa only for herself as against the whole family visa which was their initial plan. Now he's a bus driver and kids pulled out of private school to public school. I understand if he's bitter. Besides she may never come back. When is the right time to file for divorce? pickabeau1: What do you think? as a friend of the person |
Re: What Should He Do? by An0nimus: 9:59am On Jul 24, 2014 |
He should channel that effort towards his children. Karma will one day visit his wife. 9 Likes |
Re: What Should He Do? by bizzlemie(m): 10:00am On Jul 24, 2014 |
First of all, what transpired between her and her husband that made her travel abroad? EDITED: Just saw the post above that answers my question That was rather harsh and cruel of her! His top priority and concern should be how to take care of his kids and himself. Seeking revenge or pursuing divorce would be a waste of time and effort for the time being. As for the wife - or ex wife - she should know she has kids, and for the single fact that she abandoned them when they needed her, nemesis will definitely catch up with her. |
Re: What Should He Do? by An0nimus: 10:06am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels.Ouch. Didn't see this before. Heartless does not even describe his wife's deed. It's understandable if he chooses to make her pay seeing the scenario above. I still believe Karma will surely visit the woman some day. |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:08am On Jul 24, 2014 |
One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge He shld pls channel all the strength on the kids and be a better dad, favour will smile on him soon, if she's the faulty one, she will surely pay in due time. God of these days strikes faster. |
Re: What Should He Do? by pickabeau1: 10:11am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels. Youcan be divorced on the basis of abandonment after 2 years . i think Revenge will take his efforts from the prirorities at hand and will alienate people who even will want to favour him Advise him to move on 1 Like |
Re: What Should He Do? by pickabeau1: 10:11am On Jul 24, 2014 |
dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge What reason do you think can justify the action of the woman above? I agree with your comment on channelling his strength to his kids Do you think God strikes fast.. i think He is extremely merciful |
Re: What Should He Do? by Tallesty1(m): 10:12am On Jul 24, 2014 |
dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judgeSometimes the reason is because they are stupid and heartless. @Op, tell him to leave everything for God. Karma will catch up with her very soon and he will be there to watch it if he is lucky enough. 1 Like |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:13am On Jul 24, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Am sure not u nor I can say |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:14am On Jul 24, 2014 |
I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal? Something he can hold onto while pursuing the case. I know it might be difficult,but I think he'll be willing An0nimus: |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:15am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Two years? Ok. pickabeau1: |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:18am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Sometimes the reason is because they are stupid and heartless. Not like am in support of her actions o, totally wrong and hrtless, bt who knows. |
Re: What Should He Do? by pickabeau1: 10:18am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal? which particular deed?,, the leaving or the fraud? A lawyer is best to provide the time frame but i heard 2 years somewhere... dytbabe: Do you think God strikes fast.. why u think so 1 Like |
Re: What Should He Do? by bukatyne(f): 10:18am On Jul 24, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Sometimes |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:21am On Jul 24, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Why not go out, knowingly, hurt a woman that has a pure heart, the one that hasn't done nothing nor wish u bad and watch what can happen in less than a year. Cococandy, bikonu, let him use the money to look after those kids, feed them well abeg He shldnt use to do ejo |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:22am On Jul 24, 2014 |
dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge Not in this case my sister. You'll cringe if you hear the full story. Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him. He trained this girl in nursing school too. they married while she was in school. She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend. Managed to snatch the guy from her friend. Married him and he sent her to nursing school. Trained her until she finished and got a job while he was still doing his business. They would have done well if she loved him. But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there. No one saw this coming. 1 Like |
Re: What Should He Do? by Tallesty1(m): 10:24am On Jul 24, 2014 |
dytbabe:She get luck say the guy no wicked else he 4 don wear her iron-pant. |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:25am On Jul 24, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Both. Afterall she took a vow. So abandonment should be a sort of crime. And the fraud too. |
Re: What Should He Do? by bukatyne(f): 10:26am On Jul 24, 2014 |
There are wicked men and wicked women This woman is a classic example of a wicked woman Kai! this is a real Jezebel! cococandy: |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:28am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Tallesty1: She get luck say the guy no wicked else he 4 don wear her iron-pant. Hahhahahahahaahahaha Abeg no burst my belle this early morning 2 Likes |
Re: What Should He Do? by edwife(f): 10:28am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: That is where is own Karma came visiting The former girlfriend might be feeling over the mood! Men respect your promises,all that glitter is not gold. 2 Likes |
Re: What Should He Do? by bellong: 10:29am On Jul 24, 2014 |
dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge Only women act for a reason? Men are irrational beings? The question is what can the man do not pass a judgement....... @Topic, her action is financial fraud, the husband can report to EFCC/ICPC, I wouldn't know which of two handles domestic fraudulent activities. I do not support revenge because she will surely reap whatever evil she had sown without a just cause. However, if the husband is interested in pursuing his case within the confines of the law, he should report to the appropriate authority. INTERPOL will be contacted to repatriate her for further prosecution at home. She will be placed on watch list by all security agents at all point of entry/exit in the country. He should learn from the mistake of marrying this wife to correct future occurrence. Every husband must have a depth of understanding of his wife to know her probable action in all cases. If he had known her well, he wouldn't have committed that much of trust to her. If he wants it faster, he should send a mail to the fraud center of FBI online and attach all necessary documents. Find the link below http://www.fbi.gov/contact-us I hope he finds peace with himself and children. 1 Like |
Re: What Should He Do? by apolonius(m): 10:30am On Jul 24, 2014 |
What did he do that a loving wife will abandon him and the kids to run into vast uncertainty? I qualified her as 'loving' because it takes some love to have conceived,kept and raised kids! Did he abuse her? Well,he should move on as she is sure to face the justice of time.Time is one phenomenon I know that delivers the most assured justice. She will come back pleading in no long a time. Of course,if he has not consistently hurt her. As men we easily take our prized women for granted until the consequences are too late to manage. In the interim,find love again and pay attention to the kids psyche to be sure they are healing from her 'porting'. Yes,genuinely find love again as this is one thing I know that shatters any ex. 2 Likes |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:30am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Na wa sha. I don't know what to say. But people break up all the time. If so karma go dey follow all of us around na edwife: |
Re: What Should He Do? by dytbabe: 10:31am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: pickabeau1: i think He is extremely merciful |
Re: What Should He Do? by An0nimus: 10:31am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal?Hard to say really as this is a family case and the wife is already out of the country. Personally, I'm not a fan of court cases due to our very wonderful Judicial system. Your friend could seek legal advise for starters. He should also be ready to invest good time and other resources if he wants to pursue this. Its the kids I worry for. |
Re: What Should He Do? by edwife(f): 10:33am On Jul 24, 2014 |
cococandy: Na wa sha. Dear,you said snatched! Not break up. Do you know how far his previous relationship might have gone?What she might have done for him? How messy it might have been? Let him check well! I sympathize with him though,i hate any woman or man who abandon their families.Silly if you ask me. |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:37am On Jul 24, 2014 |
@ bellong thanks for that tip. apolonius: What did he do that a loving wife will abandon him and the kids to run into vast uncertainty? I qualified her as 'loving' because it takes some love to have conceived,kept and raised kids! Did he abuse her? |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:42am On Jul 24, 2014 |
You may be right in a way too. I heard the former girl cried and cursed him when he broke off the engagement after all they'd been thru together and his promises to marry her. Personally I'm not one to believe in curses so I take that with a pinch of salt. Besides it's only the man and his wife and their both that I know very very well. I don't know the ex much so I guess it is easy to accuse her of anything now that she's no longer in the picture. edwife: |
Re: What Should He Do? by cococandy(f): 10:44am On Jul 24, 2014 |
I guess I've to advise him to leave it like others said. Which money to make case sef An0nimus: |
I Have No Money, Not Even To Eat. Edit: Got a Job now / Serious Sister In Law Issue- What Should I Do Help / Things Women Do To Save There Marriage.
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