How soon after the death of a spouse to start a new relationship? And do your in-laws still have a say in your life after the death of your partner? Pls ur opinion will mean a lot

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They can only make suggestions on the life of the kids if there is any. How soon depends on you.....and your relationship with the spouse before his/her demise.

beeevan: They can only make suggestions on the life of the kids if there is any. How soon depends on you.....and your relationship with the spouse before his/her demise.

Tanks .....

How soon depends on YOU alone. Relative to how soon you get over the loss of your spouse.

There is no universal law on how soon one can remarry after the demise of a spouse.

radiorebel: How soon after the death of a spouse to start a new relationship? And do your in-laws still have a say in your life after the death of your partner? Pls ur opinion will mean a lot

There's no fixed timeline but then if she was truly a part of u, u'll find it very difficult to replace her immediately. Don't be in a haste - grieve her for sometime, be single for yet another time, else peeps will think you murd her to get someone else. Her family have got no say in ur life except when u've got kids. Irrespective, show them respect for their daughter.

For love,respect her demise and don't jump into a relationship soon.

If there are kids involved,take some time except the kids start mounting pressures on you to do so.This has happened with both young and grown kids.

For practical purposes,even if you see the NEED to begin another relationship try to avoid it for awhile as in-laws and those who know you and the late will draw funny conclusions if you do otherwise.

If you decided to after a year or two,let it be covert initially and not full blown.

By the way,a pastor of Redeemed Church in one of their posh parishes in Lagos married a known fashion businesswoman and Vanguard columnist who was close to his late wife after 6 months of her death. You can imagine the impact and the field day the gossip media had!

Like someone once told me, there's no set time. It depends on individual strength and traits.

My advice is for the living spouse to take his or her time . Don't be so desperate to enter into another relationship but don't hesitate when the opportunity present itself.

As for your in laws. You apply wisdom to deal with them, don't forget that they just lost a child. Peace#

radiorebel: How soon after the death of a spouse to start a new relationship? And do your in-laws still have a say in your life after the death of your partner? Pls ur opinion will mean a lot

I hope say you no wan do the unthinkable?

apolonius: For love,respect her demise and don't jump into a relationship soon.

If there are kids involved,take some time except the kids start mounting pressures on you to do so.This has happened with both young and grown kids.

For practical purposes,even if you see the NEED to begin another relationship try to avoid it for awhile as in-laws and those who know you and the late will draw funny conclusions if you do otherwise.

If you decided to after a year or two,let it be covert initially and not full blown.

By the way,a pastor of Redeemed Church in one of their posh parishes in Lagos married a known fashion businesswoman and Vanguard columnist who was close to his late wife after 6 months of her death. You can imagine the impact and the field day the gossip media had!

Are our present crop of pastors models?

jusRadical:


Are our present crop of pastors models?

Not even one is a model in my view.

A chic is showing interest now huh?

Focus on your kids if children are involved. Make sure they are well settled and adjusted to the new life before you bring in another lady.

Btw, don't forget to barber your head and wear black for a long time.

radiorebel: How soon after the death of a spouse to start a new relationship? And do your in-laws still have a say in your life after the death of your partner? Pls ur opinion will mean a lot

radiorebel: How soon after the death of a spouse to start a new relationship? And do your in-laws still have a say in your life after the death of your partner? Pls ur opinion will mean a lot

men - 4 weeks
women - 12 months

coogar:

men - 4 weeks
women - 12 months

berem:

why are you shocked?

6months.
Before you start dating again.
Marriage: 2yrs before you marry again.

coogar:

why are you shocked?

are you asking me why I am shocked? If what you wrote is a joke,abeg make you stop that rough play. E no funny at all. 4weeks for what na? Haba Coogar!!

berem: are you asking me why I am shocked? If what you wrote is a joke,abeg make you stop that rough play. E no funny at all. 4weeks for what na? Haba Coogar!!

men generally move on quicker. no time for recrimination or mourning for a year. what's done is done. within 4 weeks, a man is ready to put the incident behind him.

coogar:

men generally move on quicker. no time for recrimination or mourning for a year. what's done is done. within 4 weeks, a man is ready to put the incident behind him.

true but 4weeks is too sudden. Not in support of that anyway

berem: true but 4weeks is too sudden. Not in support of that anyway

what's not sudden? 4 years?

coogar:

what's not sudden? 4 years?

if you had said 4months,that's considerable. 4weeks is a no no.

why? because of kongi/agro. Itchy johnny must be catered for

coogar:
men generally move on quicker. no time for recrimination or mourning for a year. what's done is done. within 4 weeks, a man is ready to put the incident behind him.

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armyofone: why? because of kongi/agro. Itchy johnny must be catered for

must everything be about agro/konji?

coogar:

must everything be about agro/konji?

yes because that's all what you always make noise about all over the place. If a woman is arguing with you you will say maybe because she's hurni

He thought we aren't paying attention .

kulyie: yes because that's all what you always make noise about all over the place. If a woman is arguing with you you will say maybe because she's hurni

What else would make a man mourn for 4 weeks if not because most can't keep it together ?

coogar:
must everything be about agro/konji?

kulyie: yes because that's all what you always make noise about all over the place. If a woman is arguing with you you will say maybe because she's hurni

me?
you need to apologise for this blatant lie against my person.

armyofone:
What else would make a man mourn for 4 weeks if not because most can't keep it together ?

because time heals the wounds of men faster than his female counterparts. women mourn heartbreaks for months in a normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, let alone losing one's spouse. men don't really have that time to waste thinking about what could have been.

i will say when ever you are ready be it seconds,minutes, hours,days weeks,month years, decades, centries, milleniums. When you are redy go for it.

no no no!!! am gonna wait till we meet in the heaven

It depends some ppl neva get over it there are some things u can neva really get over

It depends some ppl neva get over it there are some things u can neva really get over
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..it depends on a lotta factors, age, sex and emotion.
you cant expect a very emotional person to get over the death so soon.even if she gets over it, it'll be like years because she would like to make the next guy fit the standards of the former.(i choose women mostly xuz dy are very emotional)
also, if the lady's quite old like lets say 60-70 old, it'll be quite hard to find a man to settle down with again, but unlike a man who is of the same age bracket and decides to remain celibate..after like 3-4 small gals shake yansh for him.he gazz to choose one and move on..which is very hard for a woman.
all in all, the odds do not favour women cuz mama nature even programmed it that women outnumber men 3;1