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Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:22pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
craziebone: Your answer just goes to show how cruel men can be. It would have been kinder for the man to leave, but no, they want to make sure they impact as much emotional damage on the wife as possible, by subjecting her to another woman. When the wife now leaves the home, the man will say, well she left, not me, not knowing that they had already left her in all aspects by taking another wife, and then you will now come on Nairaland to quote nonsensical statistics. Women should also be encouraged to take more husbands when the husband misbehaves. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:24pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
craziebone: Thanks for pointing that out, but I knew it might have a different connotation. Was just trying to be funny. 3 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by brilapluz(m): 9:25pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
joomiegirl: I don't understand this OP at all....waoooooow....slightly speechless but God bless you and grant u a lovely husband ...1trillion likes!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by cococandy(f): 9:26pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
Look around you. See marital abuse Come to NL,read their stories that touch Listen to your fellow women and cringe from their horror stories of what they call marriage. But hey everyone with a brain knows it's the 'fault' of feminism that women are now able to up and say no to abuse. Can't you get what the message is? Feminism is so bad it makes women look men in the eye and say enough is enough. Even in the society where it advocate equal rights for men/women in the social affairs,govt,education etc. It must be an evil term to even think of getting the message of equality to those women who are still in bondage or limited and see it as their place in life. How dare they? Death to feminism. Back to shackles. You get power. You go debate tire today I don't envy you kmcutez: 3 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by tintingz(m): 9:27pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
kmcutez:yeah, that's the logic there. but the question now is how many women are ready to pay all bills in the house. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
@kmcutez i do not endorse polygamy on the ground that the wife is 'misbehaving'. Thats a mockery of Polygamy! I only said it becos thats what happens in some cases and i have friends who say this too. But to say men do walk out of their marriages becos the woman is misbehaving is whats not true. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
cococandy: Look around you. See marital abuse Do not mind all this lily-livered men on nairaland. They want women to be their slaves, hence quoting all these submissive nonsense. All men are equal regardless of gender, race, tribe etc. I wish women everywhere will stand up for their rights, just like the blacks did to the white during the era of slave trade. The whites also used the bible to subjugate the blacks, just like the men are doing to women nowadays. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by tintingz(m): 9:38pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
BluIvy: Our God is wise beyond our understanding. If you really read into the reason behind such a stipulation in the bible and the life actions of men you will understand that God knew in essence that men are the weaker sexxx and can be easily be replaced in the scheme of things. Hence He had to instruct the stronger sexxx to submit and give them the title of "the head" to make them feel relevant.men are the weaker sexx? interesting. even feminist will laugh at this. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:40pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
tintingz: yeah, that's the logic there. You just might be shocked on how many women are already doing it in their matrimonial homes. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by shaybebaby(f): 9:45pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
cococandy: Hahaha.Following right back at ya coco. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
no one has answered the question i asked earlier. What are the acts of control men exercise over women that women have always talked about? 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Ejb061286(m): 9:49pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
@Op, go and busy ur over fertile mind wth more productive ventures. Your wife can head and lead u. It's not a norm or must for all. Stop pushing ur feeble and ill ego on others' pschology. Gender equality has been/is preached enough and attained reasonably, so i don't knw what u 're talking about. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
when you say men want women as slaves, i ask what really you mean? We have never depended on the woman to bring us food, neither have we depended on them to protect us. We have always gone out to fend for ourselves. So what do you mean when you say men have always made women their slaves? |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:53pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
kmcutez: i dont understand it. It is believed that economic power is still in the hands of men. So where do women get all the money to do the bills. Or are we talking about those times when things go wrong for the man? 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by tintingz(m): 9:57pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
kmcutez:whose home, the man or the woman's house? Those women that pay bills in the house never thought of that in their marriage nor accept it as their responsibility in the first place. any woman who is ready to pay my bills should holla me. where is that Bruno mars song. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 9:59pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
craziebone: And men are fighting to keep it that way, but the women are saying no to that. The women also want economic power. Beauty depreciates over time, but wealth will keep on increasing. With wealth you can do and undo, including marrying trophy husbands just as men marry trophy wives, I wish more women will realize this. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Ladybluecash(f): 10:00pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
Mr or Ms op, i totally dsagree wit u, u r no motivational writer/speaker. Damn any woman who listens to ur crab, men r mearnt to b d HEAD, meanwhile evry gud man undastnds dat he needs a gud neck to lean on nd ds neck happens to be d WOMAN. women shud b loyal nd submissive to dia husband and d man shud LOVE hs wife as d bible clearly states. Pity any woman who wnts to CONTROL her husband, for HELLFIRE awaits her. Thanks 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 10:00pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
tintingz: whose home, the man or the woman's house? most women who are bread winners in US homes are actually single mothers. There was no choice. A lot of them are black americans. My heart goes out to them 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by tintingz(m): 10:09pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
craziebone:True. Those women that even divorce their husband will still want child support from the ex husband. but yes Ofcos the father must take responsibility of the child. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
After reading this i.dio.t's post about how God killed his siblings, i just know the reason why he has lost it. He is suffering from hyperdeceasemeciatonuistosuidementia! |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by brilapluz(m): 10:19pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
shizzleStar:....future senator patrick o... .... 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 10:50pm On Jul 27, 2014 |
kmcutez: men are not trying to keep economic power. There are no institutional barrier keeping women from economic emancipation as far as i know. Pls shed more light on what you mean by 'trophy husband and wife'? 1 Like |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 12:08am On Jul 28, 2014 |
shaybebaby: Aren't you married to a white liberal guy? It's better you argue based on context and your experience than to lead these women involved with African men astray. Before some of them get battered by their husbands and boyfriends for being belligerent, thus destroying relationships that would've been better-off with normal progression. And those who're single, remain single till menopause kicks in. Regardless, of how globalised the world is today, there are still certain cultural differences wired into the mentality of the different races of people. You of all people should know that there are certain things that you can do with white guys that're unacceptable to black guys - and vice versa. Just as I know I can't relate to black women the same way I do with white women. That's just how the real world works. Anyway, sorry for bringing race into it, I just wanted to tell you to keep it real, and make your arguments in context of your experience. Furthermore, I think the OP has his(or her) own innate problems by finding a non-existent correlation between being the "head"(team leader) with domestic violence. Even in normal partnerships, someone has to always take the initiative. And in African societies men are naturally tasked to do that, so I honestly don't see anything wrong with it, to be honest. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by VMLTDSMS(m): 12:32am On Jul 28, 2014 |
Relationship101: Kudos to all the women (and men) that are standing up against domestic abuse. Africans have experienced a large dose of abuse (especially to the women) and we need to stand up against this devilish act. I lopve women. They are queens. They are strong, energetic, important and compassionate. Damn! Did I forget to mention that they are sexy? REVISIT YOUR BIBLE |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by shaybebaby(f): 12:37am On Jul 28, 2014 |
shymexx:My argument is based on what I reason to be true not what is defined as the norm " irrespective of race". To me it's common sense which is applicable in all relationships not just in romantic ones. You have no insight into my reality so cannot question it. You exist only as far as nairaland and the same applies with me, I do not presume to know or even begin to know you despite what you may have shared on this platform. Now the world is more connected, the fact I can even have debates with people on the other side of the planet is an attestation to how the limitations of physical boundaries do not apply to the sharing of ideas and new knowledge. People travel and mix and because of that there will be influx of ideas and change. Regardless of how you might wish to keep things like they are, the world is changing, Africa is a part of this world hence will be part of that change, a bit slower but definitely. The idea of " headship" is outmoded and with time will be fully eroded giving way to a more balanced relationship between genders. Are we there yet, no but we are lot farther than we were 100 years ago. It is happening, whether you agree or not or choose to disregard my contributions because I'm married to a white fella. Does not negate what is and will continue to be. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by pseudonomer: 12:41am On Jul 28, 2014 |
@OP(Relationship101), just a question. Can you let your children bear your wife's surname. |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by brilapluz(m): 12:42am On Jul 28, 2014 |
lawanson44: After reading this i.dio.t's post about how God killed his siblings, i just know the reason why he has lost it. He is suffering from hyperdeceasemeciatonuistosuidementia! |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 12:56am On Jul 28, 2014 |
craziebone: Please, you're killing me You have a warped view of the U.S. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 1:16am On Jul 28, 2014 |
shaybebaby: Well, I don't really have time for debates especially when the subject-matter is redundant, and it involves building castles in the air. There are certain things you might "reason to be true" based on your experience. However, when you apply it to the universe, it will turn out to be false in other climes, hence the basis for human interaction to thrive has to be built on mutual respect and a clear understanding of what's wired into people's mentality. Based on your assertion of how connected the world is: I'll like to stray away from this topic a little bit, and draw a comparison from something else in the "connected" world. Democracy for example is what everyone in the west "reason to be true" when it comes governance. However, how has it turned out when folks tried to apply the same concept in other climes like: middle east? Well, it failed woefully. That's what folks need to understand...people are raised by different cultural values, and change has to happen by gradual progression. Not because someone discovers something to be "true" and kumbaya, everything has to change. Thus creating a counter-productive conflagration, that will actually cause more problems - than solve anything. Regardless, I still don't see the correlation between being "head" of the family and domestic violence. And no matter how balanced the relationship is, someone has to take the initiative - with the other partner contributing to it, for it to work. It's just like a car - there can only be one driver. Even in the west, most conservative folks always lay emphasis on the need for men to be the head of the family and lead by example. I'm sure you know about the law that was passed by David Cameron's government about absentee fathers. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by Nobody: 1:44am On Jul 28, 2014 |
shymexx: gold medal! Gold medal!! Gold medal!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! by HISON(m): 2:17am On Jul 28, 2014 |
So u never know? R u a learner? Relationship101: |
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