ladygudhead:
My childhood made me so. The damage has been done long b4 now. It cannot be fixed. It is sooo bad. i have always prefered indoors than 2 go out. When i go out i just wish no one would noticed some1 passed. I just prefer to be with myself indoor, though i would begin to feel so lonely when it has become too much.lol. I am a very shy type that in my shyness you will think i'm a snub,lol. i don't just want wahala.

@bold It got nothing to do with your childhood, but your nature.
Funny u... What damage are u talking about & what do u want to fix? As u grow older your shyness will gradually disappear. Often times we try to do things above our age...

GloryIsaac:
Anyone having issues with the introvert personality should read

1. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Dr Stephen Corvey

2. Quiet - Susan Cain

3. The Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Mark Henson

4. Making Friends and Influencing People - Dale Carnegie.

Im making my way thru #3 now. If you get past the abrasuve title, it is a good read.

Backfornow:


Im making my way thru #3 now. If you get past the abrasuve title, it is a good read.

A lot of people get turned off by the title but ironically, that's what attracted me to it and I never looked back.

Nice to know that you read it.

Rubbiish:

@bold It got nothing to do with your childhood, but your nature.
Funny u... What damage are u talking about & what do u want to fix? As u grow older your shyness will gradually disappear. Often times we try to do things above our age...

Yea... u won't understand though, and i cannot put down everything about my passed here. It's nice seeing u again,lol.

ladygudhead:
Yea... u won't understand though, and i cannot put down everything about my passed here. It's nice seeing u again,lol.

@bold Same here...
The problem with introverts is so much about making sth out of nothing, thinking there is someone they ought to be, something they should have done which they didn't, they always have a reason to complain about themselves, looks or lifestyle, because they spend better part of their time alone, thinking what they shouldn't be thinking...A lot of things can only be corrected with age in the life of an introvert. As u grow older u will laugh over the things u use to worry about or lack the confidence to do....

Rubbiish:

@bold Same here...
The problem with introverts is so much about making sth out of nothing, thinking there is someone they ought to be, something they should have done which they didn't, they always have a reason to complain about themselves, looks or lifestyle, because they spend better part of their time alone, thinking what they shouldn't be thinking...A lot of things can only be corrected with age in the life of an introvert. As u grow older u will laugh over the things u use to worry about or lack the confidence to do....

U are right,i get what u are saying.thank u...but it seem u are thinking i'm still a teenager. And what are u doing here, u are not an introvert, are u?

ladygudhead:
U are right,i get what u are saying.thank u...but it seem u are thinking i'm still a teenager. And what are u doing here, u are not an introvert, are u?

Sure i am an introvert...

Rubbiish:

Sure i am an introvert...

Umm interesting, lol. Tell me about yourself, your introvertive nature i mean,do u like it?

ladygudhead:
Umm interesting, lol. Tell me about yourself, your introvertive nature i mean,do u like it?

My introvertive nature is d best thing i love about myself. I can't trade quietness & peace for anything. I naturally get attracted to serene environment & quiet people. Anything that got to do with calmness & tranquility i can't do without in the real world...I maybe different online though

Often times u discover most peaceful homes are run by introverts. Introvertive nature is largely linked with peace...& i cherish peace alot...

Rubbiish:

My introvertive nature is d best thing i love about myself. I can't trade quietness & peace for anything. I naturally get attracted to serene environment & quiet people. Anything that got to do with calmness & tranquility i can't do without in the real world...I maybe different online though

Often times u discover most peaceful homes are run by introverts. Introvertive nature is largely linked with peace...& i cherish peace alot...

This is nice. Tranquility and peace are qualities i like too. I could be in a room n the only sound i want 2 hear is the ticking of d clock, but when i want a loud muzik then i want g loud muzik. I like my space.i'm boring 2 a person i am not familiar or close to but a very interesting n lovable fella to friends. Everybody can't be like me, i can excuse that. Characters has to be variant for life to be interesting. I cannot argue 2 save my life o, i don't av my time 2 persuade some1 at all. To d person he/she has won,2

Na Wah o!

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I'm an introvert and it affects my attitude towards friends and colleagues.. Growing up as a kid, I saw it as normal shyness but it bacame a challenge when i discovered I wasn't comfortable having a roommate during my university days at school.. This minutes am in a happy mood gisting and smiling and the next minute I will suddenly feel like just being alone in the whole wide world. I'm in my late 20's now and looking forward to starting up a serious relationship with an opposite sex soon but my fear now is how do I overcome this challenge am having.. Marriage is a life time event and wouldn't want to go into it as an introvert.. I've tried mix up with friends, go to parties, attend occasions even hangout on weekends. But during those outings, the moment am saturated, staying alone is the only option I have left and that has made most of my colleague and friends to see me as a snub which I know am not... Please I need help. Thanks all..

pls can i become an artiste as an introvert

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People here confuse themselves with being shy and being introverted. Biko, work on your shyness. Introverts I know ain't shy.

Iambees:
pls can i become an artiste as an introvert

Lol...Yes

Rubbiish:
Lol...Yes

ok tanks alot

iamnavy1:
Am an introvert and the same time am shy I feel like committing suicide sometime to just end my life it is too overwhelming no matter how hard I try to break out maybe if I finally take dat snipper it will end all my misery please is it a crime to be shy or to be an introvert am tired of this life walking on the street with people eyes starring at me pisses me a lot am damn I have tried a lot to socialize but I will end up fumbling with shaky legs and voice am a teenager who looking for admission into university please if I got the admission how will I survive there with this trait of mine

Lol...So u wanna commit suicide because u are shy?

iamnavy1:
Am an introvert and the same time am shy I feel like committing suicide sometime to just end my life it is too overwhelming no matter how hard I try to break out maybe if I finally take dat snipper it will end all my misery please is it a crime to be shy or to be an introvert am tired of this life walking on the street with people eyes starring at me pisses me a lot am damn I have tried a lot to socialize but I will end up fumbling with shaky legs and voice am a teenager who looking for admission into university please if I got the admission how will I survive there with this trait of mine

Many introverts has survived in the University, many are surviving and many more will survive. There is nothing new under the sun! And mind you being an introvert is not the same as being shy. Your shyness could probably be as a result of social anxiety, and judging from the way you are speaking, low self esteem. You can be a confident introvert if you are able to eliminate your shyness; to do that, first you have to be your biggest cheerleader. Statements like the one above will not improve your esteem. To become confident you need to believe in yourself even when others don't believe in you. So what if people stare at you when you are walking in the street, stare back and they will look away. Nobody is better than you! And borrowing the words of a wise woman, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Next, start small, do not expect to metamorphose into a boisterous outgoing confident individual overnight. Expecting to become confident instantly will only overwhelm you and make you feel sad when you don't see results. You could start by greeting neighbours in the first week, making eye contact with the few people you feel comfortable around, then strangers. And even if it doesn't go as planned, pat yourself in the back for trying. Never berate yourself if you are not seeing quick results, or if anyone mocks you for trying. The moment you criticize yourself, depression sets in. Lastly, never compare you self to anyone or think they are doing better or are better than you. You are a unique individual with strengths and weaknesses, and truth is nobody is perfect; Everybody has flaws. Killing yourself will only bring misery to your loved ones and derision from low lifes who would use you as a reference point to why their lives are better. And within a couple of weeks, all will be forgotten. The world needs you. Imagine the joy you would feel if you are able to overcome this and look back to how far you have come. Toodles.

Rubbiish:

Lol...So u wanna commit suicide because u are shy?

You don't understand how I feel every blessed day when I finally return to bed I cry my self to sleep my parents are not helping matter they will be like "Mike why are you so dull" I hate to hear

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Krasid:
Many introverts has survived in the University, many are surviving and many more will survive. There is nothing new under the sun! And mind you being an introvert is not the same as being shy. Your shyness could probably be as a result of social anxiety, and judging from the way you are speaking, low self esteem. You can be a confident introvert if you are able to eliminate your shyness; to do that, first you have to be your biggest cheerleader. Statements like the one above will not improve your esteem. To become confident you need to believe in yourself even when others don't believe in you. So what if people stare at you when you are walking in the street, stare back and they will look away. Nobody is better than you! And borrowing the words of a wise woman, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Next, start small, do not expect to metamorphose into a boisterous outgoing confident individual overnight. Expecting to become confident instantly will only overwhelm you and make you feel sad when you don't see results. You could start by greeting neighbours in the first week, making eye contact with the few people you feel comfortable around, then strangers. And even if it doesn't go as planned, pat yourself in the back for trying. Never berate yourself if you are not seeing quick results, or if anyone mocks you for trying. The moment you criticize yourself, depression sets in. Lastly, never compare you self to anyone or think they are doing better or are better than you. You are a unique individual with strengths and weaknesses, and truth is nobody is perfect; Everybody has flaws. Killing yourself will only bring misery to your loved ones and derision from low lifes who would use you as a reference point to why their lives are better. And within a couple of weeks, all will be forgotten. The world needs you. Imagine the joy you would feel if you are able to overcome this and look back to how far you have come. Toodles.

I will try this out thanks sir


But I like to be alone I don't know if am introverted too

iamnavy1:


You don't understand how I feel every blessed day when I finally return to bed I cry my self to sleep my parents are not helping matter they will be like "Mike why are you so dull" I hate to hear

Why do u cry yourself to sleep?

iamnavy1:


You don't understand how I feel every blessed day when I finally return to bed I cry my self to sleep my parents are not helping matter they will be like "Mike why are you so dull" I hate to hear

@Krasid has said it all. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You are not what people say you are but who deep down you believe you are. So don't give anyone the power to berate you and make you feel bad.

@bolded, I can relate. When I was much younger, there is no name under heaven as relates to dullness or slowness I wasn't called. You're a teenager so you might not know "The Undertaker". But WWF (now WWE) fans would know who I'm talking about.

The Undertaker was a wrestler who fought in world wrestling federation from the 80s up to early 2000s. In the 90s, he was as notorious for his eerieness as he was for being slow. He usually took forever to get to Ring. I was nicknamed after him as a kid.

I was so slow that task that should normally take 10mins to get done, I'd use over 30mins. I was usually the last to leave my class as a result of writing slowly. The bike man sent to pick me would wait and wait till he's tired. I suffered academically because of this.

Then something happened, the details of which I don't want to go into, that changed me for life. I'm not going to say I transformed from a tortoise to a hare but I got better and better to the point where people who knew me then wonder how different I am now..

Why am I telling you this? The capacity to be the best version of yourself lies with you. If your parents don't encourage you, encourage yourself. I was already in 400L the first time I came across the word " introvert ". Meaning I navigated through most of my life without being aware of who I am and why I did things the way I do.

You have discovered yourself earlier than I did. Which means you get the chance to be better as you move forward. As humans, challenges are inevitable, and only in overcoming these challenges do we get to grow and become stronger.

Suicide is not the answer. Crying your eyes out will not solve the problems for you either. When life throws challenges your way, don't cower or wallow in self pity but rise to occasion. A problem identified is already halfway solved. Now that you know you have a problem with shyness, the next logical line of action should be finding ways to overcome it and not looking for the shortest way out.

Forget about people looking at you when you're walking the streets, it only exists in your head. Introverts have an irrational fear of being judged by prying eyes. The people you think are looking at you, what could they possibly know about you to warrant judgment? And if at all they're judging you then you should be happy that whatever conclusion they come to about who you are is wrong because they know next to nothing about you. So I want you to eliminate that thought from your head.

My advice to you is to read up some of the materials shared on this thread and apply what is within it's contents. I always emphasize on application because that's the only way to grow. It's not just OK to know these things, apply. You could also search the internet on some psychological hacks to overcome shyness, they come in handy especially when you meet authority figures.

Here's an exercise I want you to do to immediately boost confidence. When next you see someone looking at you, look back until they take their gaze away. Also, when moving along the road, look the people coming in the opposite direction in the eyes, don't blink, don't look away until they're behind you. If that's too much for you for start then look at their foreheads, you'd still come across as looking them in the eyes.

Goodluck!

Rubbiish:

Why do u cry yourself to sleep?

When I do mistake due to shyness I feel stupid and I instantly I will become depressed

iamnavy1:



When I do mistake due to shyness I feel stupid and I instantly I will become depressed

What kind of mistakes are u talking about?
No one is infallible, we all make mistakes...Why do u take yours so serious, thinking u should be perfect? how old are u?