psyrizzla:
Help me!

Hello nairalanders,call me rizzla for privacy's sake. I am a Nigerian male,20 years of age, intelligent, beautifu-minded and I'm dying! I've always been the weird kid,the black sheep,the different one,I've always not know how to talk to people,how to socialize,how to make friends ever since I was younger I have always unconsciously isolated myself I don't know why but I always did.

When I got quite older I started cutting people of my life, people I love, people that loved me... everyone,with every passing day I was more alone than the last day. The final straw that broke the camel's back was the time I was given admission to study Mechanical engineering in a Nigerian University. I finished my clearance and school resumed,only that I didn't resume with it,I had no friends,and no way to make one,I always felt awkward...weird!

One my first day attending lectures,I got to the hall and the number of people who I saw left me stunned,it was as if every single person in the hall was connected to my energy and kept sapping it away,with every passing moment I felt weak. WEAK!!! I convinced myself it was atress and all that stuffs but with every visit to the halls,every visit to my course advisers office,every visit outside of my lodge I felt my energy level drop,I felt weak,useless,worse than dead! Sometimes I wouldn't step outside my lodge for weeks upon weeks because I was afraid,ashamed, humiliated, embarrassed by what I don't know!!! It was so bad that even merely thinking of "people" would trigger my panic attacks.

This kept happening until after the first semester exams which I did very very badly! Second semester came and I couldn't even register a single course,every single day,I would curl up in my bed and feel the life force get drawn out of me,every single day I would curl up in pains wondering why God that so much loves the world would see it befitting to create on of his precious humans like this...to be so afraid of commitment,so afraid of other humans! And the funny part was that nobody knows what I really felt,I always plastered a smile across my face every single time I was around someone (mostly because I hate sharing my problems and because I really value company)
Without necessarily saying, y'all should know second semester bleeped me up!!
I started this year with a resolution,that I would put an end to the Bleep ups of last year. But the moment I got back to school,the depression resumed!! Pains,anger, sadness,more pains, anxiety,more anxiety,pains,more sadness... Yesterday,I tried going to a class,I got outside the class and the bare noise I observed from where I was stunned me,I couldn't go on,so I sat under a tree and blasted some music,I just couldn't literally move!!!!
My family put a lot of hope and trust in me,but then they do not see their son for the broken young man that he is,they do not see the tears behind the smile,they do not see the pains in every word... I'm dying!! I need help!! This is a distress call!!!!!!!!!!


SOCIAL ANXIETY!!!
DEPRESSION!!!
PANIC DISORDER!!!

I'm just about your age and I can tell you that their are some days I feel this way. I think one of the solution to your issue is to have a close friend or friends in school (not necessarily your rommie) that you can relate with. For instance if you have this friends, when you enter the class instead of you standing their looking awkward, just locate that your friend and gist. At first you might not have stories to talk about but when you grow in friendship, it becomes easier. Do not force yourself on anyone, meet a friendly person in your class.
2. Avoid masturbation. This evil act tends to make you feel inferior and can also give you depression for the rest of the day
3. Please always dress up very well. It tends to boost one's confidence.
4. Try to walk straight like a man and act friendly to whoever that wants to talk with you.
5. Say hello or shake your course mates or acquittances.
6. Read more or watch good movies to increase your ability to talk intelligently.
7. Since you are a christian, be a worker in church (I'm an usher in my campus fellowship).
Most importantly try to pray deeply to God every day, the holy Spirit tends to bring strength in our weaknesses.

chineduisaac:



I'm just about your age and I can tell you that their are some days I feel this way. I think one of the solution to your issue is to have a close friend or friends in school (not necessarily your rommie) that you can relate with. For instance if you have this friends, when you enter the class instead of you standing their looking awkward, just locate that your friend and gist. At first you might not have stories to talk about but when you grow in friendship, it becomes easier. Do not force yourself on anyone, meet a friendly person in your class.
2. Avoid masturbation. This evil act tends to make you feel inferior and can also give you depression for the rest of the day
3. Please always dress up very well. It tends to boost one's confidence.
4. Try to walk straight like a man and act friendly to whoever that wants to talk with you.
5. Say hello or shake your course mates or acquittances.
6. Read more or watch good movies to increase your ability to talk intelligently.
7. Since you are a christian, be a worker in church (I'm an usher in my campus fellowship).
Most importantly try to pray deeply to God every day, the holy Spirit tends to bring strength in our weaknesses.

thanks for the advice,but then again I stated that the mere thought of people gives me shivers...if I can't stand people I can't make friends and that is a huge fail.

xrayj:

Pls share it & how old are u?

i am 24. the more i talk abt it the more i hate life....i really hate my life i have been thinking about suicide lately am tired please

massalati:


i am 24. the more i talk abt it the more i hate life....i really hate my life i have been thinking about suicide lately am tired please

suicide is not the way out...
The other side you want to go,do you know how it is there?

Ajoboss:
suicide is not the way out... The other side you want to go,do you know how it is there?

thanks for your kind response

massalati:


thanks for your kind response

any time bro..
We all have our issues(me inclusive)
Buh what's the way out?
I think its time we start facing each and everyone of them

Introvert are usually intellectuals. The more they are able to spend time alone thinking, observing and reading, the broader they grow.
Based on facts, most of our scientists, inventors and some very exceptional medical experts with record of breakthroughs are introverts. However, they have moments they mix with the "flow" and be sociable. But their greatest strength is honed in solitude. And I will say the same for myself.

fairheart:
Introvert are usually intellectuals. The more they are able to spend time alone thinking, observing and reading, the broader they grow.
Based on facts, most of our scientists, inventors and some very exceptional medical experts with record of breakthroughs are introverts. However, they have moments they mix with the "flow" and be sociable. But their greatest strength is honed in solitude. And I will say the same for myself.

Lol.. Bravo!

Conclusion upon Conclusions

Introverts are creative and bask in impressive inventions. Check out the who is who is science and peruse their information, it will shock you to know that they're mostly introverts.

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psyrizzla:


thanks for the advice,but then again I stated that the mere thought of people gives me shivers...if I can't stand people I can't make friends and that is a huge fail.

This is serious. Do you kush or get high?

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massalati:


i am 24. the more i talk abt it the more i hate life....i really hate my life i have been thinking about suicide lately am tired please

. Drop your WhatsApp number let talk

@iLegendd boss pls write a psychological book on how an introvert can come out of his shell and become and extrovert or at least an ambivert


Majority of people in this thread really need help

Tony142:
@iLegendd boss pls write a psychological book on how an introvert can come out of his shell and become and extrovert or at least an ambivert


Majority of people in this thread really need help

Hmm.

iLegendd:


Hmm.

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Tony142:
. Drop your WhatsApp number let talk

sorry please i dont have a smart phone for nw (i'm not on whatsapp) can we do it on fb?

Tony142:
. Drop your WhatsApp number let talk

please drop your number so as to give u a call thanks boss

massalati:


sorry please i dont have a smart phone for nw (i'm not on whatsapp) can we do it on fb?

yes boss, send your Facebook username to my email


Omoanthony98@gmail.com

For anyone out there feeling alone, the fact is that you are not alone in this. People always wonder a times what it feels like to be introvert. Sometime, you feel you are lost or probably you think you are not normal. You might even feel intimidated by your peers. But always remember this "you are the original version of yourself". Yes! you need family, friends, mate but they don't define who you are.

You have all it takes because you got YOU. No one can know you better that yourself. You have got potentials in YOU and the only way you can find out more is spending time alone which is why introvert are mostly intelligent. If you find yourself being an introvert do not bother to be like everyone because you’re good being you.

Below are good qualities of an introvert.

https://www.nairaland.com/5615293/10-reasons-why-intelligent-people

Tony142:


yes boss, send your Facebook username to my email

Omoanthony98@gmail.com

DONE BOSS

Tony142:


yes boss, send your Facebook username to my email

Omoanthony98@gmail.com

DONE BOSS

Tony142:



yes boss, send your Facebook username to my email


Omoanthony98@gmail.com

Are you a psychologist?
I also need to speak with one

R2bees:
I don't know how to put this... I'm still at the first stage, i hope to drop everything here once i grasp all that's going on.. But here are the things that's changed in me.

I have become more compassionate

Fake people most especially Narcissist make me sick in the stomach.
I can now see through people's weakness
I subconsciously predict stuffs and it comes to past.
I tend to lose focus a lot( which i have started working on with meditation).

People and animals are drawn to me, a dog can never bark at me.

If i need something, all i have to do is to think about it and it will come to past.

I have trimmed down the number of friends i had.. Right it's just family and two close friends out of over 2 thousand friends i made in high school.

People always want to help me all the time and it's creepy especially coming from those u least expect...

See guys, there is a lot going on in this world that we don't know about, this might sound stupid, but like i said u will never understand until it happen to you.... I learned it's not something u will experience over night, u will have undergo a lot of suffering and stress for u to see these. I read somewhere that near death experiences can lead to this..

I created this thread as far back May, and i had my first awakening experience by july...I had a weird dream and quickly created this thread hoping i would get an answer, knowing Nigerians na, they all called it a bluff, Aside one guy "Billyonaire" who as at that time wasn't making sense to me until now.. This is crazy
https://www.nairaland.com/5206637/feel-strange-seems-universe-preparing

OMG!
This is scary and intriguing

massalati:


i am 24. the more i talk abt it the more i hate life....i really hate my life i have been thinking about suicide lately am tired please

Nigeria is already over populated.
We will appreciate your sacrifice

DADDY2or3FISHES:
Nigeria is already over populated.
We will appreciate your sacrifice

Get lost bad energy! We do not need your type here. Nigeria's recorded mortality rate this month alone already stands at 213,000 plus. Which is quite on the high side. Encouraging suicide is not even a population control method. An illiterate like you wouldn't even know.

DADDY2or3FISHES:
Nigeria is already over populated.
We will appreciate your sacrifice

This is a very dumb thing to say. Are you allergic to thinking or something?

DADDY2or3FISHES:
Nigeria is already over populated.
We will appreciate your sacrifice

Are you human at all? You are cold!

Professorcplus:
For anyone out there feeling alone, the fact is that you are not alone in this. People always wonder a times what it feels like to be introvert. Sometime, you feel you are lost or probably you think you are not normal. You might even feel intimidated by your peers. But always remember this "you are the original version of yourself". Yes! you need family, friends, mate but they don't define who you are.

You have all it takes because you got YOU. No one can know you better that yourself. You have got potentials in YOU and the only way you can find out more is spending time alone which is why introvert are mostly intelligent. If you find yourself being an introvert do not bother to be like everyone because you’re good being you.

Below are good qualities of an introvert.

https://www.nairaland.com/5615293/10-reasons-why-intelligent-people

Very correct. That's y I have never feel I need someone s to b alive I feel that I can do it alone and happy never feel I need help to b more friendly or need crowd to celebrate me. No am a loner

plz i need help asap i constantly hv panic attacks each time am in public and i have just been appointed for a public post that i couldnt turn down. what can i do

Maccoy507:
plz i need help asap i constantly hv panic attacks each time am in public and i have just been appointed for a public post that i couldnt turn down. what can i do

Talk to any of these people, they have helped with issues like this.

1.Marriage Matters International - https://www.marriagematters.com.ng/
2. Temple's Counsel -https://templeobike.com
3. Psych NG - http://www.psychng.com/appointment-schedule

proud introvert