Two things are involved

yinkuscious: If I shuld ask... Ladies and gentle men, why do u actually want to keep the same room wit ur wife\husband? Is there any reason attached to that?

Don't mind them. Na insecurity dey worry them.

I'ld want my own separate bedroom. As much as we're married, I'd need my personal space...

OmoAlata1: separate room what if you woke up at 2am ho.rny? it really defeats the purpose of being married. I like 2am sexx, when you are half asleep, half awake. you always get the best orgassm

A good sleep life is just as important as a good sex life.

One of the disadvantages of separate rooms is that when there is a disagreement and both parties aren't agreeing with eachother, the separate room helps prolong the disagreement and malice. one of the parties can decide to lock himself or herself in her room thereby making reconciliation on the bed difficult to achieve unlike one room where the body touch body can easily end the quarrel.

I have more disadvantages to share though.

Different strokes for different folks.
Marriage have no fixed rule or guidelines.
@op marriage is all about sacrifice so if she really oppose the idea, all she have to is sacrifice all those excess luggage, make it small and move back to your hubby room since that's the only reason he opted for a separate room. Imagine starting a war in your home Becos of excess luggagessss... Smh

U can't always expect to be in same room all the time. Marriage does not give a total answer to all life expectations. For the loads and accessories I could cope with them. But the need to be alone once in a while is more important and a better excuse

I would do exactly same cuz excess familiarity with a woman brings down the discipline standard in the home. What I want best is INTIMACY and least is FAMILIARITY. Even God does same to christians. So when she's getting arrogant than appropriate, I'ld have to keep her in check

nairaland don turn place for marriage.....even king solomon with 600 wives and concubines never asked such silly questions

It is only an underage or someone who has never been married that would say separate rooms would lead to separation. There is no one rule in marriage that fits all. Almost all couples who got separated or divorced lived in the same room. Living in separate rooms would actually keep the sparkle in their sex lives going on, a problem that most couples experience after a few years of living and sleeping together. There is the real danger of the sex turning into a boring routine and this is the major catalyst of infidelity in marriages, especially from the man. Mind you, this has nothing to do with love or "true love", but human nature. Love, alone, is no guarantee that the marriage will work. Only married people will understand what I mean. Unmarried people would always say such things as "if there is true love, this and that will not happen or he will not do this or that". Fantasy!

damiso:

WORD.. I like the idea of a private suite, 2bedrooms and a lounge with a connecting door btw the two bedrooms that is never locked complete with a walk in closet and ensuite toilets and bath.That way we sleep in the same room most times but can also retreat into private solitude when needed.

It is said though that newer couples should share a room but like above quote said it is subjective.what works for A might not work for B.

I love the description above, ladies need more space esp for their assessories,
For me we will use both rooms together, one will serve as dressing room with no bed in it. (Except she insists o o)

Both of us should sleep together, can't afford sleeping alone all this years still sleep alone after marriage, nawao

[quote
author=OmoAlata1]separate room what if you woke up at 2am ho.rny? it
really defeats the purpose of being married. I like 2am sexx, when you
are half asleep, half awake. you always get the best orgassm[/quote] My hubby calls that early morning sex morning glory. hahahahaha. we can't have seperate bedroom please.

shizzleStar:
reduce libido ke??

Na im be say konji neva hungry u. No be person dey travel 17hrs go find puccy to f ck?

lol.. na wa o

toprealman:
You be witch? Why 2 am and not 10:27 or 11 04 pm?

You be alarm clock, see as you specify 10:27 or 11:04

It will inhibit intimacy in marriage wit time.

Smartsyn: One of my aunties was complaining to me that her hubby gave her a separate room in the new house they pack in recently, citing her having many clothes, shoes and other feminine accessories as the reason. She's arguing that as a young couple, they should be staying in one room.

When the issue came up as I was having a chat with her hubby, he maintained that the separate room is just for his wife to have room for her numerous accessories and that he sometimes need to be alone. He however said that the wife sleep in his room almost all nights and all what not.......



But should married couples have their separate rooms??

I do not see anything wrong with that. I actually insisted on having my own room in our just finished family house. my reasons is that I need really big wardrobe and dressing table for my personal use. My hubby refused saying it will keep us away, but it didn't'.

nikilala: I think it leads to cheating.....

Haba! No now.. In very many cases its for the purpose of some "me" time

2me its absolutely wrong jor, which kind mumu space.............................my hubby n I share d same room,eat,shower together,datz d fun of it all,,,,,,what more can I ask 4,there is this inseperatable closeness btw couples that share things in common#fact.

I would love my personal space... where I can arrange and keep things properly... use my pink bedsheets, decorate the room to my taste.. make the room look feminine. ..But hubby says no ... I don tire for scatter scatter . ..

Mutuwa: Room separation,beginning of separation proceedings. b4 marriage and some few years after couples are usually glued to one another.Y must.their rooms suddenly change?for personal rests in d afternoons no probs,bt at night we have to be one.even if a our baby malcom maybe in the middle.

. Eeehya our baby s name is malcom too

When we build our own house, we will keep 2rooms;one a closet for our clothes,shoes,baggage,dressing table with a huge standing mirror but no bed. The other will be our bedroom,we dont even have enough time for ourselves after spending more than 12hrs apart each day and all the watching of TV,facebooking,pinging and nairalanding that follows after work. We cant afford to spend the remaining 8hrs apart. Also bathing and dressing up together is my favourite part of marriage not even sleeping together. @OP let ur auntie do what works for her.

shizzleStar:
Abi'o!


Is his room in maiduguri while your is at ogbomoso? 2am or 1pm, how many steps will you require to walk to his room when you are horn.y? Oh well, whatever rocks your boat hon.

. Haba! She has a point dere don't u know dat wen u r sleeping stretching ur hands nd touching bo obs or down dere facilitates d horniness but walking from one room to anoda. Urge go don disappear

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alutacontinua:


I'm the most gentle Nairalander.
I've been earning that award for 2 years and still counting

how did they arrive at that award to u or nairaland don get machine to see us as we dey type posts.

luvablesam: Marriage isnt an institution that has a 'one rule fits all' kinda policy...Every family has what works for them...If your family would thrive by everyone having a separate room,so be it.If not,stay in a room...

Do what works for you.

i wonder wat typ of family nd policy such a family z gonna create for d children. Where will d intimacy b wen dey sleep seperately nd to talk of delibrating nd talkn abt issues at dead nyt in their cold bed wrapping dia arms around each oda Wat abt d sex part Abi na tym table u go write for sex Take it or leav it,d intimacy btwn such couples cnt b strong compared to sleepn togeda!

For me, she has her room and we have our room. Really, I'm the one who doesn't have a room. Her room iڪ basically for her extra luggages. All those clothes, shoes, bags, hats etc. that she rarely uses. But our bedroom iڪ where she sleeps. You don't expect her to bring her female siblings into our room when they come around and begin their "fashion shows/parade".
If I need time for personal meditations, the study room iڪ there.

That's how it works for me.

Esee

rozzay: . Haba! She has a point dere don't u know dat wen u r sleeping stretching ur hands nd touching bo obs or down dere facilitates d horniness but walking from one room to anoda. Urge go don disappear

May be you missed my next comment where i said separate rooms do not apply at night for the sole reason of taking konji-veitis. Personally i like to the grabbing a lot when sleeping. The feeling is always good

But talking about the konji disappearing by the time you get to her room,(assuming you went to bed in different rooms) na lie'o, unless i no just want shine wifey dat nite. I even have high libido so dat one no apply to me'o. I will surely sustain the libido even if i have to walk for 5mins to get to her room

My husband and I have always shared a room because it works for us. It's easier for us to make up when we have misunderstanding and it keeps us even closer. But in the end, I guess it's whatever rocks your boat!

shizzleStar:

May be you missed my next comment where i said separate rooms do not apply at night for the sole reason of taking konji-veitis. Personally i like to the grabbing a lot when sleeping. The feeling is always good

But talking about the konji disappearing by the time you get to her room,(assuming you went to bed in different rooms) na lie'o, unless i no just want shine wifey dat nite. I even have high libido so dat one no apply to me'o. I will surely sustain the libido even if i have to walk for 5mins to get to her room

. Lol ok ooo

OmoAlata1: separate room what if you woke up at 2am ho.rny? it really defeats the purpose of being married. I like 2am sexx, when you are half asleep, half awake. you always get the best orgassm

I have being following ur comments for something, they are always hilarious, funny but u do always make sense.

How did u come across d name "omoalata'? Do u sell pepper?

so what happens to ppl like me and my hubby with our six lovely kids that share one room apartment

Aitee1: so what happens to ppl like me and my hubby with our six lovely kids that share one room apartment

you gotta be kidding me?
how on planet earth would you even have 6 kids when you stay in a 1-room apartment?

no offence, ma-am, just tryna understand