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Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by anonimi: 8:19am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Guys what could i possibly do that would warrant such meanness? Its so petty and i wouldnt ever bother to mention it, he visits nairaland and would probably see this and write back, Fyi i ddint cheat or steal or even commit any offense.thanks y'all for your comments, Whatever will be will be, i didnt ask for any gifts or money, i just felt " Happy Birthday " would have meant alot, cheers guys I thought you said you APOLOGISED in your own OP after saying you had ISSUE Czechrep: Hi Nairalanders, my hubby is emotionally mean The tori get as e be o, madam |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by hamabra(m): 8:19am On Aug 01, 2014 |
seriously she should tell us the issues, so that we can know if we will need to help beg her hubby. |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:19am On Aug 01, 2014 |
rokiatu: He is an insensitive husband period. If he was really in for peace he would have even just let it go for the sake of her birthday.@ bolded, 100% agree. i luv i when pple see things for wat dey r. i don't think op did anything serious either. some pple just behave in very immature ways oloriB: My hubby & yours should become friends. Mine would intentionally say words that would hurt u deep, when you react he is ready to keep malice for days. Some men are malicious in nature, they grew up in such environment so don't expect anything less. Big secret if you are tempted to talk back or say ur mind just shut up. It works for me.woow, how do u cope? dis is y i want to be careful with who i marry. can't imagine living dis kind of life. u got a lot of strength |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Oahray: 8:21am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Did you talk to your husband about how you feel before offering him to a bunch of NL strangers who are probably worse, to attack and tear to pieces? I can't judge until I hear the husband's side of the story. What may seem like a trivial matter to you may mean alot to your husband. Ignoring your birthday is probably his way to make you see how much it meant to him. We have to realise that 'sorry' is not an eraser that wipes away wrongs and hurt. At times you need more than that. He didn't accept your apology, did you try harder? One thing is obvious. Your husband is not pretentious. It could be a good or bad thing, depending on how mature you both are. Go and talk to your husband 6 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by jnrbayano(m): 8:21am On Aug 01, 2014 |
aflyingbird: Keep calm and reason deep. The Op "lamented" that her hubby is "emotionally mean" out of heartbreak. She has already evaluated the situation and come out with that adjective. Now she wants you to advice her on how to ameliorate her hurt and possibly win her hubby back (reverse her hubby's emotionally mean status she has already given him) She doesn't want you to begin another judgement/appraisal of the hubby and the situation, if she did, she wouldn't have called the hubby "emotionally mean". She would have told you the story as it happened (what offence she committed against the hubby and how hubby snubbed her and her birthday) and requires you to now judge the situation for her. I don't expect you to agree with me, but issues about other people's marriages require wisdom to handle it well and not exuberance. 5 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by honeric01(m): 8:23am On Aug 01, 2014 |
See "kids" assuming for the man. Some are even saying she didn't commit any offence How come she skipped what she did? Or you think every offence is worthy of the same punishment? Well, there are some offences you can't even stomach to tell people, maybe this particular one falls under this region. Until you give the forum a clue of what you did, sensible people won't even give you any legal/illegal advice. Enjoy your pity party. 5 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:24am On Aug 01, 2014 |
[quote author=oloriB]My hubby & yours should become friends. Mine would intentionally say words that would hurt u deep, when you react he is ready to keep malice for days. Some men are malicious in nature, they grew up in such environment so don't expect anything less. Big secret if you are tempted to talk back or say ur mind just shut up. It works for me. [/quote] thank you for this tip. My hubby is like yours but when i shut up and ignore him, he feels am keeping malice too |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by kedukc(m): 8:24am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Guys what could i possibly do that would warrant such meanness? Its so petty and i wouldnt ever bother to mention it, he visits nairaland and would probably see this and write back, Fyi i ddint cheat or steal or even commit any offense.thanks y'all for your comments, Whatever will be will be, i didnt ask for any gifts or money, i just felt " Happy Birthday " would have meant alot, cheers guys Obviously there was nothing "Happy" about the birthday... Too bad you ladies prefer lies to the starkness of reality. 5 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by OdenigboAroli(m): 8:24am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Hi Nairalanders, my hubby is emotionally mean He need to man-up and stop being a cry-baby....Children shouldn't be getting married. |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:26am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep, if you had created this thread on the family section, you would have gotten better responses...Most people commenting here ain't even married and know nothing about marriage 2 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:27am On Aug 01, 2014 |
jnrbayano:u r going on abt nothing. i said misthik was correct for saying op's hubby is insensitive, n i agreed dat it was also hurtful. sooo, wat is dis story u r giving me? op n her hubby shud talk things out, dat's all. she can't force him to talk but hope he will soon start. |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by rightflank: 8:30am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Hi Nairalanders, my hubby is emotionally meanMa'am, it's more than just saying sorry. 1 Like |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by fm7070: 8:31am On Aug 01, 2014 |
@OP is economical with the truth. Why can't you give a hint of what happened. What you thought was minor could be serious to him You must have hurt him so badly for him to react that way, men are not dumb that can forget ugly experience in a jiffy. He proposed the birthday dinner, shows that he meant a nice birthday for you probably something more could come out of that check yourself, your words, your reactions and work towards satisfying him If not, with this kind of reaction, i pray your marriage will not crash 3 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Oahray: 8:32am On Aug 01, 2014 |
adorable29:so if you wrong your husband and he gets upset enough to reject your apology, you'd just relax and hope he'd forget about it just because you were born on a particular date many years ago? If he doesn't act as you expect, you'd call him bad names in public so people can follow your steps and condemn him? Is that right or are you simply supporting her because she's a woman? You don't even what she did or how she apologised. If a woman is hurt, do you think there would be real peace in that house? 4 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Sagamite(m): 8:33am On Aug 01, 2014 |
OliverPin: LOL* you go sabi scatter marriage gan. See as you conclude without knowing the root of the matter. I salute you ma. Shut up! Did they not teach you that a man is always to blame for anything that happens in a relationship? What era do you think this is? You don't know it is the 21st century? Useless fake man. You are so immature. andromida, abeg come and give this guy, that dared to stand up against women, your expert "Real Man" training so that one more man can be converted to a debilitating mugu. 5 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:34am On Aug 01, 2014 |
ednut1: so wat shud we doadvice her |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by bigx(m): 8:34am On Aug 01, 2014 |
You didnt notice the trait before accepting him as your husband? |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by jamesbridget13(f): 8:35am On Aug 01, 2014 |
i see! Op is hiding alot from her hubby. Pls op try 2 win ur hubbys trust. I noticed u opened this account yesterday. Probably cos of this issue. N u dont want ur hubby to stumble on it in nl. Anyways op, since u cant say wat u did. I guess u wont get d exact advice. So, for d sake of peace, go on ur kneels n apologise. Forget abt d bday neglection. Bdays ll come again n u ll ve a better celebration. For now, go down on ur kneels n do d needful. Win ur hubby back 4 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by MadCow1: 8:35am On Aug 01, 2014 |
bigx: You didnt notice the trait before accepting him as your husband? When I was advocating that couple live together before marriage, most of the Nairalanders almost killed me. Now you see yourself?! How would anyone know anyone fully if they dont begin and end their day together? 1 Like |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by rattlesnake(m): 8:37am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Some ladies are so silly to use their ex as dp |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by chris070(m): 8:38am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Hmm. Usually don't comment. But don't worry he will tell you sorry after the birthday GUESS THAT WILL SOLVE THE PROBLEM |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:40am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Sagamite:Even when the woman is wrong? Meanwhile, I only said mstik shouldn't push blames without knowing the full story. I didn't even answer the Question so abeg find ur own lane 1 Like |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:44am On Aug 01, 2014 |
MzMariah: I want to apologize to you naNah don't ooo. Some apologies fit make your anger rise sef. Hubby- I told you not to........ Wife - Oya sorry naaa, sorrryyyy!!! Hubby- Listen and hear my out firs....... Wife - Hiaaa sorry . shey I have told you sorry .Why are you still angry na? I know why I'm saying sorry ooo,anyway it's ok sorry......... blah blah blah. 5 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Tikitaka(m): 8:45am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Permit me to ask a few questions. How long have you guys been married? Do you have kids? How often do you guys quarrel? What are the causes of your quarrels? It is very ok to apologize when you are wrong but please try to avoid the situations that make you say sorry all the time. Lastly Proverbs 14:1 says ' The truly wise woman builds up her house, But the foolish one tears it down with her own hands' discussing family matters in a public forum is a recipe for disaster. If you have issues you can't settle with your husband privately please look for a spiritually matured christian to talk to and not a public forum 1 Like |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by MadCow1: 8:47am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Guys what could i possibly do that would warrant such meanness? Its so petty and i wouldnt ever bother to mention it, he visits nairaland and would probably see this and write back, Fyi i ddint cheat or steal or even commit any offense.thanks y'all for your comments, Whatever will be will be, i didnt ask for any gifts or money, i just felt " Happy Birthday " would have meant alot, cheers guys If you wouldnt tell us what this issue is, then we cant possibly help you. You dont have to cheat or steal to piss your boo off. I once threw a girl out of my house for messing during my morning devotion. That biitch had no respect for God. So if you tell us what that issue was, then I can tap into the mind of your husband (who sounds like a really nice guy) and tell you what it was you did that annoyed him and teach you how to correct your ways and seek his forgiveness. NOTE:: Never keep your boo angry for too long. Thats when cheating is most likely to happen. 9 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Oahray: 8:47am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Czechrep: Guys what could i possibly do that would warrant such meanness? Its so petty and i wouldnt ever bother to mention it, he visits nairaland and would probably see this and write back, Fyi i ddint cheat or steal or even commit any offense.thanks y'all for your comments, Whatever will be will be, i didnt ask for any gifts or money, i just felt " Happy Birthday " would have meant alot, cheers guysyou have no idea how you sound. Making up excuses for yourself is petty. You didn't even have the maturity to talk to him first. Instead you go public and hope he sees it here and comes to talk to you? No wonder he's still upset with you. Who knows, you may have flung a shabby apology at him, expecting him to just accept since you are the one with a right to get upset, not him. So only stealing and cheating are bad enough to make a man upset? But you have a right to be upset that he didn't mention just two words? That's even the kind of person I am. I wouldn't pretend that I'm happy with you when I'm not. I'd tell you. Why pretend? Just because it's your birthday? You'd have another one next year. Women are so wrapped up in their own emotions. 11 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by gidjah(m): 8:48am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Issues get level madam so what really happened?I KINDAsupport your claim tallest,my hubby does same and even worse too,she do es not apologise when ever offends ,so i guess this our op na d same line of person be that o!its only when they need things that they want to go low.this makes me become un emotional about her just like the op said her husband is emotionally mean! |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by ednut1(m): 8:48am On Aug 01, 2014 |
rane06: tunde that's meanmy name is nt tunde o |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Michyeddy(f): 8:48am On Aug 01, 2014 |
I believe in communication...you waited till night and he still didn't wish you..u should have taken the bull by the horn and politely ask him why. You are his wife not just anyone..now if he sees this on nairaland i have a feeling dat he won't like this thread..he maY see it as a bridge to his privacy..sort ur differences in ur room. 2 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Sagamite(m): 8:49am On Aug 01, 2014 |
OliverPin: Even when the woman is wrong? Meanwhile, I only said mstik shouldn't push blames without knowing the full story. I didn't even answer the Question so abeg find ur own lane The woman is what? You have the audacity to say a woman is wrong in a relationship issue? You need deliverance from the demons possessing you. You need to learn that when you hear an issue between couples, for you to show you are a REAL MAN, you need to always take the woman's side. A real man knows men are always the ones wrong. They are only right when they do what a woman wants and the woman is happy. Saying a woman is wrong is soooooo immature. 6 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by sailormoon: 8:50am On Aug 01, 2014 |
Sagamite:What is wrong with you? 2 Likes |
Re: My Hubby Is Emotionally Mean by Nobody: 8:51am On Aug 01, 2014 |
onegig: This thread just confirmed the romance section is filled with kids having mucus running down their noses.1000000 likes..... 1 Like |
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