You're More Concerned With the Wedding than the Marriage


Many ladies spend more time preparing and agonizing over the wedding details than actually considering the marriage. If you know more about everyone in your ashewabi than you do about your partner's finances, marriage ain't for you.




You Don't Trust Him/Her

Some people don't believe it's possible to "fully" trust anyone, even the bible says "put your trust on no man" true but in a situation where you have to check his phone whenever he goes to the toilet (that is if he doesn't go to the toilet with it) my sister you are in for a bumby ride Trust is belief in one's integrity. No relationship can survive without trust.



You Can't See Yourself Parenting his Child

When you enter a relationship with a single parent, you enter a relationship with their children, as well. I've heard countless stories of people saying "I love the person but just don't love his/her kids." This unfortunately is an unworkable situation. Children are not accessories to be included or not, they are a permanent part of the equation.


Your Values Aren't Settled

Relationship values, are your personality type, and non-negotiables. These are all categories you should know and never amend for anyone. In as much as my next point is compromise, it doesn't mean you should change who you are. Some ladies comprises too much, a relation of mine cut of from everybody she knew just because she was getting married. It was so bad, she cut off from her friends, family, church (that she was a strong worker n always said that she could NEVER leave). You have to know who you are and make sure he knows accepts and loves who you are.


You're Not Ready for Compromise
"You can't have a successful relationship (romantic or platonic) unless you have a willingness to compromise." When times get tough, there is one of two ways we react. Either you become selfish and focus on yourself or you become selfless and focus on your loved ones. If you (or they) are the former, marriage is not the right move.


You're Being Pressured

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