For some time now, i have been latent when it
comes to relationship intrigues. Thats because i
have been on a research to comprehend why
men usually dont reciprocate love shown to them
by their opposites. The reasons are not far
fetched and is analysed below.
The most single broad truth is that most ladies
fail to understand certain things about guys.
There are phases which a guy loves a lady, it is in
understanding these phases that you may deduce
reasons why guys act the way they do.
1. The admiration phase: this is the very first
phase where most people make big mistakes.
Guys are generally admirers. Today, they could
admire Ada, tomorrrow, they admire Nkechi. And
apart from sight admiration, most men always
take bold steps in approaching the lady. Some
may state how they feel while some would forge
how they feel, you arent God to know the truth
but you are adviced to play a low key at this
stage. What he wants from you is to be who you
are in a positive sense. Dont go about unveiling
secrets... He wants to be your friend, make him
one, instead of a confidant or a mentor.. Or have
you fallen already for him to trust him with your
private issues. He doesnt need to hear them
except if such questions come by but when you
raise them by yourself, he would feel you have
uncontrolled manners when it comes to word. If
you push it at this stage, he would follow suite.
Men loves to make the decisions and to be in
control, allow them control the affair and ones in
a while, be of your best self by showing concern if
you like the person too
2. The Natural Love phase; this face should
embrace natural love not governed by self made
decision and were events takes place as a result
of true friendship. You are not surpose to invite
me and cook the best dish for me because you
want me to offer sex or because you want
something in return. Thats madness. Men dont
like pushers, stop pushing them to do what they
dont want to do, sex is the least of things on a
mans indepth mind but its the first thing on his
physical mind. Men rather prefer pullers, pull
them to their destiny, pull them to their vision,
pull them to their aspirations, Dreams and ease
their troubles without expecting anything in
return, they would love you even better than
their mum. Its only a stupid lady that throws
away the dreams of a man and feeds him
everyday or buys him the best of everything
without contributing or providing a helping hand
for him to triumph in life. Some men are good
people, try to be good yourself and treat them
with a Godly mind and you would see the best of
them.
3. The follow up love phase; you must have made
promises, a man would find it difficult to remind
you but he thinks of it everyday, make sure you
follow up and report every success or failure.
Many men would want to make best friend or
date ladies who are destiny help actors and not
mere physical providers. Thats why a man can
never love a sugar mummy even if the sugar
mummy does the former, why is because, shes
conditioned to continual sex which the man is
enslaved to give. The man may lustfully giv her
that but if any mention of marriage should come
by, he would stand up to his real self. The best
thing you can do for a man is to teach him how to
catch fishes and stop giving him too many fishes.
It makes him your toy which he hates with
passion
4. The critical or contemplative love phase; its
critical because its a period to weigh the impact of
the relationship, after such appriasal, one may
stay or drop the relationship. A man in a
contemplative mind usually finds fault in d
relationship, its either he stays or you go. But it
depends, sometimes, factors like pregnancy may
cause him to go, nt becos he hated you but becos
u pushed him into doing wat he may nt want to
do. 65% of sex cases, reports the lady yearning
for it and the guy providing her sexual wants.
Only stupid ladies test a guy with pregnancy, a
man has a prestige, you are always a curse to him
if you are pregnant and he is jobless. But this
same man wud celebrate u if u keep urself and
make him a better man. Many of them take this
special ladies to altar.,,,..but dont forget, he can
also be tossed by the wind too. Stop the tossing,
and dont threathen a man no matter the
situation. Leave vengence to God. It ruins the
relationship and any other one you may be into.
Wisdom is like gold, only few gets it
5. The true or real love phase; true love comes if
both of u hav defeated all doubts, if u hav passed
all litmus test and if he can look at u and smile for
sth special u did for him. Always leave a man with
good memories, but dont play games. Friendship
is the best relationship, it permits u to meet with
other people and control yourself, it permits u to
be matured and it permits u to know God the
more.

Ow u take know all this things Op..abi na from experience u de write?

Mutuwa: Ow u take know all this things Op..abi na from experience u de write?

u can neva tell

Nice write up!