N' landers, i dated a girl some months back and we had issues. I wasn't surprised when she said she can't continue the relationship because i wasn't showing her much love as she expected and that it seems to her that i was only using her, not having plans for her and stuffs like that. I tried to make her see my reasons because i felt deeply hurt by her leaving me and still she declined and so, i decided to let things be.

Precisely, after a week or two, she called to apologise and because of my bitterness with the way she reacted, i simply told her that i have moved on just to hurt her too. Right now am seeing someone else but it just seems i have started having felings for this chic at the same time. Do u advise i go back to her after all i have voiced out to her or i simply ,move on with the new chic on the block?

Move on. There's no reason for you to go back to your ex unless ofcourse you REALLY still want her back.

chika98:

Move on. There's no reason for you to go back to your ex unless ofcourse you REALLY still want her back.

True

Don't just go back because you feel pity for her, only go if you want to

Move on

really move on, she obviously isnt stable or secure enough to be in a serious relationship.

E no easy ooo, my bro but i suggest u move on.

stereo2:

E no easy ooo, my bro but i suggest u move on.

Very true

ak2chase:

N' landers, i dated a girl some months back and we had issues. I wasn't surprised when she said she can't continue the relationship because i wasn't showing her much love as she expected and that it seems to her that i was only using her, not having plans for her and stuffs like that. I tried to make her see my reasons because i felt deeply hurt by her leaving me and still she declined and so, i decided to let things be.

Precisely, after a week or two, she called to apologise and because of my bitterness with the way she reacted, i simply told her that i have moved on just to hurt her too. Right now am seeing someone else but it just seems i have started having felings for this chic at the same time. Do u advise i go back to her after all i have voiced out to her or i simply ,move on with the new chic on the block?

i say,go back to your ex. you love your ex but your ego came into play and that was why u reacted bitterly. this new girl is a puff of smoke and she will fade in no time.

There is no point worrying over split milk, i think you should move on mate, Goodluck

Thanx so much. I really appreciate all your contributions but the probs lie in the fact that I see this chic every week because we live in the same area and that keeps igniting the old flames, although we don't talk. I'm just confused but i wished i could turn back the hands of time. I now realise i trully love this girl but i wonder if she will come back again, and again i really don't know how to get back with her since we don't talk again.

@topup

I have always admired your sense of maturity and sincerity in dealing with issues like this,no flattering intended! Pls i need to know what to do cos am not satisfied with the girl am going out with now.

no move on, sittadown there like mumu!!

@MrCrackles

Guy you don't have to yap me,ok? You just shut your wide ass if you 've got nothing to say. Why are you messing with me? This post is not meant for fools like you.

Are you seriously going to make your decision based on what people say on here?

haha
my guy vex
them call person mumu he vex like this
if i come call u bloody moronic slowpoke nkan?  _{nah to send hired assasins afta me!hehe}

sittadown there like guguru and no move on!!

spikedcylinder:

Are you seriously going to make your decision based on what people say on here?

dont mind the donut!!

ak2chase:

N' landers, i dated a girl some months back and we had issues. I wasn't surprised when she said she can't continue the relationship because i wasn't showing her much love as she expected and that it seems to her that i was only using her, not having plans for her and stuffs like that. I tried to make her see my reasons because i felt deeply hurt by her leaving me and still she declined and so, i decided to let things be.

Precisely, after a week or two, she called to apologise and because of my bitterness with the way she reacted, i simply told her that i have moved on just to hurt her too. Right now am seeing someone else but it just seems i have started having felings for this chic at the same time. Do u advise i go back to her after all i have voiced out to her or i simply ,move on with the new chic on the block?

Why did she think you were not showing her love?
Why did she think you were using her?
Why did she think you had no plans for her?
Why didn't she understand the reasons you gave her?
Why did she still leave despite your explanation?
Why does she want to come back now?
What has changed since then?
Are you sure she's not trying to get back because of the new girl?
Are you really sure you love her or think you do because you see her everytime?
Do you think she would accept you back after "moving on" barely one week after she left?
Copnsidering the fact that she dumped you because she didn't understand you, how are you going to achieve this feat of making her understand why you moved on one/two weeks after she left you?

You are the only one who can answer these questions. One minute you were not surprised she put you on the spot, the next minute you were baffled and hurt, she didn't reason with you . . . Good luck

ak2chase:

@topup

I have always admired your sense of maturity and sincerity in dealing with issues like this,no flattering intended! please i need to know what to do because am not satisfied with the girl am going out with now.

Meanwhile, let this new girl go, she doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve her, fullstop

you have the decision in your hands, we have no total information to give the judgment on what you should do. follw your heart. that's all

All decisions end with you.
Ask me, i do say you put your ego aside and make a thorough evaluation of both babes here.
And wiht your head now. Not your heart.
Whats your possible achievements with this new girl compared to the old.
Who do you understand most and gel wella with?
Whom amongst the two best fits into your picture of what you intend to do with them?
Personality assesment, beauty; physically, emotionally, character wise etc.
Above all, who are you most Comfortable with?

A good answer to these question, will give you a clearer picture of who to be with.
Remember, think more with your head than your heart.

@emperoh,
I think i really love my ex more than the new one. Although, both are all pretty and brilliant, you know. But i have a lot of things in common with my ex.

@mrghost,
You are right but i am really confused.

@spikecylinder
The truth is sometimes you need to see other people air their views on issues like this so as to broaden your mind on the stuff in question.

@All People,
May be it because i see my ex often but i know i feel that gut level attraction for her but at the same time, i wouldn;t want to lose my head because of that. I think i have got to follow my intuitions