What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife's point of view. "Wouldn't it make more sense to ask the guys?" he thought. So for his new book, "The Truth About Cheating," Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity -- including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings
48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about physical intimacy: Only 8 percent of men said that physical dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is to have physical intimacy with someone," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says. "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness -- and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."
66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.
The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.
77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: "My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it." You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values -- it'll create an environment that supports marriage.
40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.
"Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts," Neuman says. "That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home." Luckily, there's a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up -- and it's time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn't okay at work, Neuman says. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it's only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he'd feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.
Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
In other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get lucky with a better-looking body. "
In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void
In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void," Neuman says. "He feels a connection with the other woman, and physical intimacy comes along for the ride." If you're worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering how to please him physically. (But know that physical intimacy does matter -- it's one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)
Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.
Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs -- you might even see it coming before he does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for physical intimacy, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating, especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control -- your own behavior -- and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place. Don't hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says. And be open about how you feel about what's going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties). Try "I think we've started to lose something important in our relationship, and I don't want it to disappear." In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you

most of the pretty girls who sat near me durin secondary school exams asked me for answers so dnt tell me that girls dont cheat

do they cheat with animals?

most of the pretty girls who sat near me durin secondary school exams asked me for answers so dnt tell me that girls don't cheat

Oh behave! Poster was talkin bout cheating during love affairs n u r here boring us with hw gurls cheat during examz!

How many percentage of the men were rated as irresponsible _{You need to redo that research}

I thought women will like to know this about their man but
as most women are they dont care about anyone but them
selves and their way. We women always want to manipulate
the men in our lives so i advice all guys out their whether you
love your girl/wife/lover she will use it against you so be careful
with the woman you fall in love with because she will use you
to get what she wants.

Tranngirls:

I thought women will like to know this about their man but
as most women are they don't care about anyone but them
selves and their way. We women always want to manipulate
the men in our lives so i advice all guys out their whether you
love your girl/wife/lover she will use it against you so be careful
with the woman you fall in love with because she will use you
to get what she wants.

Speak for yourself. . .not all females are she-devils in their spare time

these things are tiring mehn!

look for another research

something like, say Why Men Eat

tranngirls are you a lesbian or a gay girl?

Cristalz:


Speak for yourself. . .not all females are she-devils in their spare time

Are u sure??

Tranngirls:

I thought women will like to know this about their man but
as most women are they don't care about anyone but them
selves and their way. We women always want to manipulate
the men in our lives so i advice all guys out their whether you
love your girl/wife/lover she will use it against you so be careful
with the woman you fall in love with because she will use you
to get what she wants.

truth is bitter.

Men cheat because they get bored wit their existing relation.

Why do women never get tired of looking for who their man is cheating with? Maybe if you spent less time looking for her and loving us right we won't cheat.

StephenP:

Why do women never get tired of looking for who their man is cheating with? Maybe if you spent less time looking for her and loving us right we won't cheat.

Gud point bros. Take HI5

StephenP:

Why do women never get tired of looking for who their man is cheating with? Maybe if you spent less time looking for her and loving us right we won't cheat.

LMAOOO

Is this how you justify cheating on me!!!  

Look at my page i am a lady that loves men. And wanita1
you can do better than that call someone names isnt the
way to go. Agaba123 you feel me, that is why i dont have
lady friends because of your self righteous rubblish. A little
girl will be tell a full grown man what to do because he has
feelings for her and you dont call that manipulation

LadyT:

Is this how you justify cheating on me!!!  

Ms. T, night after night, I begged you to come to bed and let's do that thing but no. . . you were too busy going through my phone, pockets, computer and things.

Tranngirls:

Look at my page i am a lady that loves men. And wanita1
you can do better than that call someone names isnt the
way to go. Agaba123 you feel me, that is why i don't have
lady friends because of your self righteous rubblish. A little
girl will be tell a full grown man what to do because he has
feelings for her and you don't call that manipulation

You definitely overplayed the whole "a female is more mature than a male her age"

Stephen I had to be sure!!!

Tranngirls:

Look at my page i am a lady that loves men. And wanita1
you can do better than that call someone names isnt the
way to go. Agaba123 you feel me, that is why i don't have
lady friends because of your self righteous rubblish. A little
girl will be tell a full grown man what to do because he has
feelings for her and you don't call that manipulation

I dont think you have any friends. Your topic is attacking men

at least credit yahoo for their article

I am not attacking anybody if yahoo wrote it so
what? Anyway i have no female friends because
i guess all their boyfriends slept with me haahhaaha
It least i dont manipulate them to do things they
dont want to do like call me everyday at least
three times, saying i love you all the time, call me
baby/honey/sweetheart. You girls make me sick
now that was an attack