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Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by bukatyne(f): 7:33pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
Read this on femmelounge (a blog for women) and decided to share... http://femmelounge.ng/ask-ada-they-keep-treating-me-like-im-suffering-because-i-am-single 2 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by bellong: 9:07pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
This is to help you reach those who wouldn't have time to click the link...
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Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Nobody: 9:10pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
I didn't read it all but I also thought of jealousy after reading the girl's problem. I don't have such issue around my married friends. I enjoy their company without any negative feelings. 8 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by pickabeau1: 9:11pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
More like single ladies who r friends with married women Ok.. 2 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by KanwuliaJara: 9:30pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
Single people have NO business hanging out with married people! Nothing in common! They should only meet in PUBLIC places like social gatherings! The sentiments cannot be avoided. Even if the married people ACT LIKE MARRIED PEOPLE. . . .which comes naturally. . .THE SINGLE PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS COMPLAIN! Making innocents statements which bring up HUSBAND AND CHILDREN. . .will ALWAYS CAUSE FEELINGS OF INSECURITY WITH THE SINGLE PEEPS! The reason I AVOID THEM! [size=20pt]THE SINGLE WOMEN ARE THE VERY WORST!!!![/size] You can never totally feel free to discuss your life WITH THEM without sounding like you are 'pitying' them or making them feel 'inadequate'! Even if you say to them. . .I CAN'T WAIT FOR MY HUSBAND TO COME BACK FROM WORK. . . or I CAN'T WAIT FOR THE KIDS TO COME BACK FROM SCHOOL. . . . Ha! You are mocking them because they are single. NANSENZZZZZZZZZZZE!!! Yes. . . some married people MEAN TO DO JUST THAT! Their prerogative! STAY ON YOUR OWN OR GO OUT WITH ONLY SINGLE PEEPS! Period! I DON'T ENTERTAIN THEM IN MY HOUSE. . . . . ESPECIALLY THE FEMALES. . . .I get extremely irritated by their 'sme-sme' nonsense! I don't wanna cuss them out with all that 'self-pity' and 'insecurities' going on within THEIR BODIES, MINDS AND SOULS! If I were single. . . I WILL NEVER HANG OUT WITH ANY MARRIED WOMAN! NEVER!!!!! I WOULD NOT GIVVVVVA A QUARTER OF A PHOCK WHAT SHE GAT EITHER! Na me sen dem 'marriage message'? Soooooooooooo, why should I CARE? Sheeeeeeeeeesh! 76 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by CircleOfWilis: 10:42pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
KanwuliaJara: Single people have NO business hanging out with married people!very blunt and precise.. na y like u! fire on, but pls stop dey insult people god(s) 9 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by KanwuliaJara: 10:48pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
CircleOfWilis: very blunt and precise.. na y like u! Hmmmm. . . taink you! If dem cuss me. . .I GO CUSS DEM GODS! |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by EfemenaXY: 11:45pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
I think it depends on the personality of the single person in question and what they've achieved in life for themselves. An extremely self-confident single person with a lot going on in their lives will not fall into the same situation experienced by the lady in question. Infact, it could even be the other way round where you'll find the married friends envying the freedom of choice lifestyle of the single person. ~ Freedom to exercise a "go-getting" approach to their career without having to worry about taking a career break to raise their young kids and family. ~ Freedom to travel, relocate, etc with having to worry how such a change would affect their immediate family (hubby and kids) and lots more. 42 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Stillfire: 12:17am On Aug 17, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: I think it depends on the personality of the single person in question and what they've achieved in life for themselves. Thank you o. Many single women make me sick, especially in the church...arrgghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! That one is another story. Every youth program would be turned to a husband finding and praying program. 15 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by EfemenaXY: 12:30am On Aug 17, 2014 |
^^ I know. Society doesn't help either. As long as the girl child is groomed into thinking marriage is the ultimate achievement in life, then that mentality displayed by the insecure ladies is here to stay. 39 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by cococandy(f): 1:09am On Aug 17, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: I think it depends on the personality of the single person in question and what they've achieved in life for themselves.simple 6 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by bukatyne(f): 1:30pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
bellong: Thanks a lot, God bless you I created the topic with my mobile @Topic: Do some married peeps purposely flaunt their family to their single friends? 2 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by bukatyne(f): 1:32pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Stillfire: It is not their fault. Everywhere they are bombared with marriage. I invited someone to my wedding and he said thank God, at last! and I was like? How old am I? He feels 25yrs is the max a lady should be single 20 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by beeevan: 1:50pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Once married women are together, it's hard not to mention kids and husbands. It is usually not intentional as most women love to chat about their kids a lot, the lady should just avoid their meetings if she feels that uncomfortable. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by bellong: 2:04pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
bukatyne: I guessed as much. @your question, I think its for the ladies. Guys have no time for such pettiness 5 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by rebella(f): 2:12pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
All I am seeing here is an insecure woman. Geez ! being single is not a curse. Majority of my close friends are married and I don’t feel an ounce of resentment towards them. Yes, they talk about their kids and their husbands, what else would I be expecting them to talk about again. My Bff got married a few weeks ago, we have always shared everything growing up, I was fully integrated in her wedding planning from meeting with the planner and doing a shower for her and helping out with all the wedding plans. I never felt jealous that she was getting married before me. The author is just 26, she needs to find something useful and creative to do with her time instead of getting jealous 9 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by coogar: 3:55pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
only women feel jealous about such nonsense given their nature. i have never heard of single men complain about whatever their married friends have to say about wife & kids. women would always create problems where there should be none. everything was cool in eden until eve got there. arranta nonsensicus! 26 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by damiso(f): 4:26pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
It's just normal to talk about your kids and husband as a married person (heck I am sure I even go on sometimes about them on NL ) but sometimes you have to make a conscious effort to broaden conversations if the person you are talking to has different interests,I get on well with my single friends but our topics of discussion tends to vary from those who are married with kids.I even try to be sensitive when discussing with married TTC cos if you are not careful simple things you say might be misconstrued as flaunting your kids. If someone has been your friend before you get married I actually think you just talking about your husband and kids all the time is weird.Did you guys not have similar interests for to be called friends before you got married so yeah I agree(a bit just a bit) that it won't kill some people to have a wider scope of conversation outside of their husbands and kids. And I agree with Efemenaxy it could actually work the other way I.e the married person being jealous of the single persons ability to just up and go where career takes them.It takes a certain degree of self belief for me not to be jealous of the strides some of my single friends unencumbered with young children have made in their careers.I just believe everyone should realise we all have different journeys and paths and learn to love themselves without unnecessary comparisons.I have friends who got married at 25 and are divorced some who got married at 23 and are still happily married some at 32 etc etc just face your own path.Women and wahala sha. 33 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Nobody: 4:42pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Once any friend of mine gets married male or female i delete their number especially my female friends. I dont have any business keeping married friends around me Until i am married! 5 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by ladygogo: 5:01pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
women and their wahala o. 1 Like |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by awhales(f): 11:29pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Some married ladies have insecurity issues, before I got married I went with my married friend to one of her married friend's place to get some footwear. The cold reception the seller gave to me eh! Choi! I had to confront my friend because I don't have business with the other lady, she said I shouldn't be offended that it is because am single, that's the way she reacts to single ladies, cos her husband is promiscuous. I said see wahala oh! Less than 2 years of marriage... Now am married, and she's trying to form friendship, I don't give a rat ass at all. I still relate to my single friends well, because they have being my friends for a long time and I don't have the luxury of making new friends with married ladies that are not real. My single friends are cool with me, and so am I with them... when they get married we will continue and it gets sweeter. 34 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Kimmo(f): 4:14am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Honestly, only a few people got the writer's perspective. I've been there before, and I simply moved on. If said friend needs me, she knows how to find me. It can be hard to be single in this country though, considering how we feel about marriage. Every informal interaction with family and friends carries the "when are you getting married" undertone. On January 1, when everyone was exchanging goodwill for the new year, the only exception to this were people I knew through work. Every text, ping, call, physical greeting mentioned that God would bless me with a husband this year. Aunts, Uncles, friends, parents friends, cousins etc. I didn't used to care, but the pressure almost got me into trouble. Now, I tune out when they start playing that song. Let the single lady put herself in the married lady's shoes. From what I've seen of marriage, it's tasking. And to make it last, one has to give it her all. Plus, what kind of friend is the single lady too? 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by justi4jesu(f): 4:23am On Aug 18, 2014 |
She should take things easy, married women cant discuss without involving their husbands and kids especially the housewives...what is there again to talk about? She should just get over it and find something else or single friends that can keep her busy. 4 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by flowjoe: 4:56am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Na t.b Joshua fit cast her spiritual husband away |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Nobody: 5:05am On Aug 18, 2014 |
The lady is a poisonous one.Abeg married women shud stay away from such!That kind of jealousy isnt healthy atall.Her insecurity is only in her head and only she is the architect.WHERE she dey wen GOD dey share husbands give her friends?Abi she follow me dey drag customer for Allen?Nonsence! 1 Like |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by red101(f): 5:05am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Justi4jesu, you are right that it is the jobless housewives that are most guilty of it. Like you said, what else is there for them to talk about? they have no life outside their marriage. I will advice the single lady to find other friends. Even if she wants to keep married friends, she should find ones that aren't jobless. I would prefer to be friends with a woman who can tell me about her own promotion instead of always talking about her husband's. How does her husband concern me? 13 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by lepasharon(f): 5:14am On Aug 18, 2014 |
3cycle: Once any friend of mine gets married male or female i delete their number especially my female friends. Really..na fight? 2 Likes |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Nobody: 5:20am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Visit Your married friends less often, and call if you need to say hello. ..Of course, it'll get that way,what do you and your married friends want to have in common? She's either thinking of what to cook or talking about her children being too troublesome, while you are talking about getting a job or looking for what to wear to a party. ..maybe your friend too doesn't really get comfy talking to you anymore, but wouldn't want to sound mean or rude to you. keep your distance and be positive. 1 Like |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by Ptoocool(m): 5:33am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Eyah, to avoid all dis so kald embarrassment, ε qo beta if only u could GRAB YOUR HUSBAND NOW!!!! |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by SurePresident: 5:38am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Ok. |
Re: Single Friends Of Married Peeps. by hardbody: 5:50am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Ptoocool: Eyah, to avoid all dis so kald embarrassment, ε qo beta if only u could GRAB YOUR HUSBAND NOW!!!! I notice how this discussion turned to only female discussion. Says a whole lot about the specie called women. They even dig and scratch for trouble where there's none. Thank God I am a man. 12 Likes |
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