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Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 1:21am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Stressed. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by Nobody: 1:22am On Aug 27, 2014 |
so wat happened? |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by LaRoyalHighness(f): 1:23am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Go on...... |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 1:26am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: I'm a regular so I had to create a new IDd to do this; my mind is 50% made up but who knows, may still be swayed.. So? |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by RoyalRoy(m): 1:36am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Ladystewie: so wat happened? LaRoyalHighness: Go on...... curiouses: You all love super story don't you? Lol Waiting for part two. 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 1:36am On Aug 27, 2014 |
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Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 1:39am On Aug 27, 2014 |
RoyalRoy: True life is stranger than fiction. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 1:40am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: To cut a long story short, it was the best 6months of my "Experience".. I could have kept it going cos I felt zero guilt but I knew it wasn't the best way to start marital life so I let my other guy go(he was very sad about it but couldn't help it) Buy a vibrator that runs on diesel if you have to. There's no justification to step out on your husband. You knew he was a 2 sec man before you married him. 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by Nobody: 1:40am On Aug 27, 2014 |
lwkmd diesel ke? soulglo: |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by JEITO: 1:48am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Marriage isn't all about sex. There are other things to do together to put a spark into your relationship. Btw, you should be thinking of helping him and not yourself. Everyone cannot have the same sexual urges or strength. So think of ways to help boost him or make sacrifices for the sake of your marriage. But going to the other guy: that's a 'no' 'no' o.. #marriage is sacred and honourable and should be respected. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 1:49am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: To cut a long story short, it was the best 6months of my "Experience".. I could have kept it going cos I felt zero guilt but I knew it wasn't the best way to start marital life so I let my other guy go(he was very sad about it but couldn't help it) You actually don't need anyone to tell you that you are Onisina. You can sought yourself by other means without involving your ex. Has you man tried out Tramadol? If, Yes, then get yourself a vibrator and stop looking for trouble. Explain to your man why you need a Love Machine. I believe he'd understand. In case you really need a living soul to scratch your natural wound for you, stop looking the side of your married ex, Start following me and you shall in mean time testify to the power of young blood. RoyalRoy: See wetin this woman de find o. Something I fit give free of charge. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 1:52am On Aug 27, 2014 |
soulglo: What's with words changing Nah...I wrote Vibratorr and Dilldo....Whatever happened to freedom of expression. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 2:05am On Aug 27, 2014 |
curiouses: Tell me about it. Some of the words being auto corrected do not make sense to me 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 2:08am On Aug 27, 2014 |
curiouses: She should include her husband in it. It's not something she should lock herself up in the bathroom to do. Couples with normal sex lives even use intimacy gadgets with each other. They could incorporate the toys for pre-intimacy and the two seconds could just be for the sake of penetration. Most women do not even climax with just penetration. pre-intimacy is the most important part. Not trying to be unsympathetic to the OP's plight but alls not lost because her husband ejaculates too quickly |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 2:12am On Aug 27, 2014 |
soulglo: Yes, I didn't say she shouldn't involve her man. I was only trying to give her another option of coming to me for assistance should she needs living soul to scratch her. 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 2:27am On Aug 27, 2014 |
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Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by filiks(m): 2:28am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Sad story. First, I'd like to say sorry for your situation. Forget about the people say 'sex is not everything in marriage'. They are probably not married, the married ones say it will soon realize their spouse have diverse opinions about the matter. But then there are ways to help him. He should talk to a doctor and get some help. I think you can give him a lil bit of massage(without getting down to the act), I heard it could help one get used to dealing with the overwhelming excitements that lead to early ..., also do a lot of fore play. But I'd also suggest you do not go back to your ex. Cos at some point he'd want to stop, and focus on his young marriage, what will become of you then? |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 2:33am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: Seems I left out some things. Forget it! what you need is neither your Man nor a toy, and definitely not your ex. You need an active living soul far away from where your husband is. I suggest you start following me. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 2:36am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: Seems I left out some things. Your husband is simply being selfish. Are you guys in Nigeria? If not I will suggest sex therapy with a licensed therapist. I understand now why you feel there's no hope. Your husband does not want to help himself. Start refusing his bribes. That might scare him because right now he thinks you're okay. Refuse whatever bribes he gives and express clearly to him that you are sexuall.y frustrated |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by curiouses: 2:40am On Aug 27, 2014 |
soulglo:You are not getting the OP's points. Her man won't just be the man she wanted. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by filiks(m): 2:45am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: Seems I left out some things. He doesn't have to totally accept the use of toys. But through conversations (which is very necessary now) let him know you need it. Fore play can help him, make him understand that too. And if he shoots in the process, it will make the actual round last longer. He too should be understanding about the situation. You too should enjoy what you have! I don't mean to judge but if he says 'God-forbid' to hand jobs, then I'm sure he'll also object to oral...erm...does he want to bore you to death? 3 Likes |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 2:49am On Aug 27, 2014 |
curiouses: Not really. The husband is not trying at all. He will not let her give him a hand job, he does or cannot do pre-intimacy, he will not use toys, it is safe to say he would rather rinse his mouth with avid than go down on her and to add insult upon injury he tells her he is satisfied with the way things are. I'm sorry but he is not serious. I see your point though. You're basically saying that this is just an excuse to sleep with her ex. There's probably some truth to that but having a husband not interested in satisfying his wife sexuall.y would be a a tough life. Sex is a basic need. It's not fair to purposely deny her 2 Likes |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 2:54am On Aug 27, 2014 |
curiouses: |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by filiks(m): 3:08am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: It's ok if he can't stand oral too but its definitely not an African thing not to do it! African men love MouthAction! 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by texanomaly(f): 3:08am On Aug 27, 2014 |
soulglo: So on point in this sitch. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by texanomaly(f): 3:11am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: Seems I left out some things. Is he circumcised? |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 3:21am On Aug 27, 2014 |
filiks: |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by filiks(m): 3:26am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: Oh I get it. I left one thing out; Touching himself If he's doing a lot of it, he won't last in the real act. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by joella1: 3:34am On Aug 27, 2014 |
filiks: |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by texanomaly(f): 3:39am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: I don't know. I've never been there and I haven't asked them all. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by soulglo: 5:13am On Aug 27, 2014 |
joella1: This is so sad. I really don't know what to say but please do not cheat on him. He has to change though. |
Re: Dilemma--constructive Criticism Only. by freecocoa(f): 8:09am On Aug 27, 2014 |
Cheating on your husband is a big no no, don't even bother with that. You knew this dude's problem from the get go so you have to find a way to live with it while trying to help him improve. Till tomorrow, I'm still a supporter of 'don't marry him/her if something about them bothers you that much', it will save you a lot. |
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